This girl just stole a bangle of her sister and denied it so i sent her out to pick up horse manure and then i went into her room and found the bangle 'she now says that i do not pay enough attention to her needs she also had other sisters things in her room what should i do!!!!!!!
2006-12-15 14:37:03 · 13 answers · asked by bigmum 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell her that you are deducting her allowance for everything that she steals from her sibilings. Also, give her more chores for her stealing. Make up an agreement and if she breaks any rule to that agreement, then she should read the consequences and do that consequence. If she still does it after all that, then teach her a harsh lesson that she wont forget. Or tell her that she is paying for what she wants. She just wants attention and sometimes when parents have more than one child it is really hard to give all the same attention. But try to find something constructive to do with that child so they do not want to steal. Stealing is very bad and if it keeps up, then make an arrangement with a cop and see what happens after that. Even though that is harsh, she will understand what stealing is and never want to do it.
2006-12-15 16:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by blue_packy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the next time she steals- the person she stole from will get the item back and get to take one of hers- which ever one she wants- that should stop that- stick to your guns and do not back down- or she will not take you seriously - and if she needs more attention- hopefully you have time- but do not reward her w bad behaviour- when she is doing better- praise her for it-D
2006-12-15 16:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the punishments above. Also try spending more time with her. If she's telling you she wants attention, then she wants attention!!! With 4 other siblings, I can't imagine she gets much attention. Maybe try doing a girls nights out. Bring her (possibley older sister, or whoever's closest to her in age) out for a manicure/pedicure and then a movie. Do this every so often. Try to give each girl their "special" time with you.
2006-12-15 14:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My elder sister steals my stuff, my foodstuff and my money. mom and pa break her too plenty, and when I cry out to them when I found out that she stole my stuff, they promise to interchange it yet they under no circumstances do. Im 25 and she or he's 27, the two working yet residing contained in an analogous abode. it incredibly is hell, i inform you. there is not any longer something greater stressful than coming abode to a spoiled lazy thief. Did i inform you she doesnt do any chores yet complains plenty approximately each little thing? Doesnt pay for utlities and cyber web yet acts like she owns each little thing. such as me. it incredibly is hell, certainly.
2016-10-05 09:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tv off and limit the friends. Usually they learn this from watching others get away with it. When my brother stole money from my other brother my grandmother let the victim take what ever he wanted from the thief. This taught us all not to steal.
2006-12-15 15:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same situation with my 13 year old brother. He was stealing from everyone. Except me. I took him aside and explained that I knew about his stealing habits and I just wanted to let him know that for every item he steals from me or anyone else I find out about, It will cost him one item of HIS, my choice. I told him that I would go into his room and take whatever I wanted and keep it or sell it. My mother okayed this tactic and guess what? He never stole from me or anyone else while I lived with them! I told him I'd go for his PS2 first!
i know it sounds harsh, but trust me, it works if you actually stick to it and don't cave and return the item. Immediatly selling it or giving it away is best.
2006-12-15 16:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mystique6583 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this sounds typical. people often steal out of the attention they'll get from it. talk to her and ask her exactly what her needs are and what she expects you to do about them. when you confront her and make the punishment fit the crime-not random like going to pick up manure. tell her when you catch her stealing, it makes you not trust her and therefore she can't use her cell phone, computer...whatever is important to her.
2006-12-15 14:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
threaten to take things from her.
maybe she does it for attention.
what my mum does is whenever mty borther does it she threatens to take his playstation off kof him and stuff.
stay in control that's why kids get away so easily with all this stuff.
if your too focused on work or something take a break away to spend with the kids my mum does it and it works!!!
turst me it does.
2006-12-18 21:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by Millie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sisters 'borrow' things all the time. my sister does it too... even im guilty of it. maybe you could get locks for your kids stuff... like if they each have a box that locks so they can keep their valuables in it... might be good if there is a burglar too.
2006-12-15 18:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reprimand her. And i think she is tryng to win your attention. You should spend more time with her, sometimes children do things because of insecurities.
2006-12-15 15:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋