I trust my wife but...?

Question

I trust my wife completely and totally, she would never cheat on me any in that aspect i have nothing to worry about. My question is, I am currently overseas and will be gone for another 4 months (been gone for 7 allready) as soon as i left Justin (my wifes brothers best friend, their local church pastors son, and a close friend of the family) has been trying to move in and replace me. He keeps trying to convince her to leave me and be with him. She has ofcourse refused. He is banned from her house. But he still comes to see her parents as he has a close friendship with them and my wifes brother. He still send hers messages letters, email, myspace messages, etc. that she ignores. I feel like she is being harrassed and should do something, but she refuses because he is her brothers best friend. When i get back I want to go after him, but should I? Will this makes things worse? Exactly what should I do? i want to just beat him senseless, but I don't want to hurt her familys friendship

The reasons she won't do a restraining order or go to the police is because hes a close friend of her brothers and her parents. And she is afraid of the reprecussions there..

Answer 1

First off let me start by saying her brother and parents should stand up for their sister/daughter. Shes protecting them but what are they doing for her. Your wife needs to put all of them aside and do what she needs to do since obviously the family isnt willing to help out. Not to mention the disrespect the family is showing you by allowing a friend to try and push his way in on their married daughter. What kind of family values do they have. If I was you I would speak up to the family as well as the friend. I wouldnt give a rats *** if it was a friend of my families...he would be getting the message loud and clear. Or could this just be an excuse of hers because there is some interest on her part and she likes the attention she gets from him while your gone? I hope for the best w/you two but dont let this go no matter what!!!!!!

Answer 2

Doesn't sound to me like there is much of a family friendship to hurt if this guy's family would really condone what he is doing to your wife.

This is outrageous behavior and it needs to stop immediately. It is harrassment. Your wife might go to the family to ask for an intervention by them on her behalf, telling him that if he doesn't stop, she will be forced to obtain a restraining order. If the family or the guy doesn't respond to that, you wife has no choice - unless, of course, she doesn't mind the harrassment.

I don't believe in any type of corporal confrontation of any kind under any circumstances....except maybe this one. When you get back in 4 months, destroy all family friendships and send this guy's face into the next county.

An incredible story. Sorry you have to endure this at a distance.

Answer 3

My dear man, you shouldn't have to worry over such things while you are gone. My question would be why is the brother allowing this guy to try and break up your marriage. This "guy" is not a friend of anyone and needs to be kicked in the butt by every single family member. That whole family should sit on this guy and make these things stop happening. When you took vows of faithfulness with her in front of the family they were present in blessing and should also help protect what you two have put together as husband and wife. Shame on them all for not standing for what is right.

Answer 4

Love and trust are two entirely extraordinary things. Your question is just not "in case you LOVE your wife....." it will have to be "should you believe your spouse..." Of path there will have to perpetually be an really excessive quantity of believe in a marriage. I consider in case you are questioning your trust and whether or not or to not let her use your ATM/credit cards, then you definitely really do must work on an underlying believe difficulty together with her.. Re-overview why you asked this question, and you'll be able to more commonly find your answer. Just right luck :)

Answer 5

To me she is being harrassed and you two should go to the police. Have an order that says if he sends her anything or comes with in 100 feet or mile he could be going to jail. She should also tell her brother what is going on and if he cares for his sister he should tell the guy to leave her alone.

Answer 6

I think l can see where you are coming from and yes this other guy is a jerk !! You know that you can trust your wife though and that is really all you need to concern yourself with. He is not worth you getting yourself in trouble for or possibly charged with assult. If your wife does not want to have him charged with harrassment for her own reasons you must accept that. When he sees that you are back that will certainly be enough to keep him away, especially if he is aware that you know about what he was up to while you were away. I know it will not be easy for you but you must try to ignore him, he is not worth it. Merry Xmas.

Answer 7

If she really loves you the way you think she does, then she should be willing to contact the authorities and get a restraining order against him. Hopefully are're right about her and she isn't encouraging this. To me, that is the only reason she wouldn't have a restraining already in place.

Answer 8

your wife has been ignoring this man, and if u trust her completely set your mind at ease. quit worring about this little worm that is trying to make the moves on your wife. she needs to get in touch with the boy's dad and tell him, so what if the family friendship is hurt, he is doing things he shouldn't do. your wife needs to go to the boy's dad and tell him, and maybe it would stop than.

Answer 9

Copy all the answers you get here, and forward them to him. He is acting like a total ******. He has no right to do this. He should be ashamed of himself, but total ******* usually don't have that capacity.

Answer 10

i would call and have a talk with her parents about there friend.
and then call his a** and see why is he doing this whats his problem then sometime u have to play the child game and call his parents. and if he don't stop then whip hiss a** when u get home. f**k the family. this is your life and she is your wife.