My younger brother and his soon to be wife were in my wedding the day before, i mean late that night he called me and told me he wasn't coming! His, their excuse was that i didn't call then enough the phone works both ways! never mind that i paid the 225 dollars for her dress and the 186 dollars for his tux! This girl was a problem from the beginning i did everything to make her feal like she fit in there was tension because she didn't like my maid of honer! She caused a scene at my shower thank god the only people that saw it was my mom, mom inlaw and her and my maid of honor, she didn't help pay for anything and i stood by her side, she didn't even show up for my batchlorette party, and they changed the whole batchlor party for my brother because he was not going to be 21 until the end of the month! They did show up for the rehearsal dinner took their gifts but two days later they didn't come, so i think they should say sorry give me the dress back the money, how long should i bemad
2006-12-15 14:33:31 · 11 answers · asked by nellie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though their excuses for not going to your wedding were lame, you will have to get over that disappointment. The dress definitely should be returned to you in "new" condition so you can return it to store for refund. The tux money may as well be marked off because you probably won't ever see it. So far as her not helping pay for anything for the shower, unless she was asked to chip in during the planning of it, she had no obligation for this so forget it. The batchelor party date was changed for good reason so don't hold that against him.
Soooo, try to get the dress back and get a refund, don't expect an apology. Staying mad will not solve anything so mark the whole thing as an education of what to expect from both of them in the future. If they want you to participate in their upcoming wedding, just decline gracefully without saying why.
He is and will always be your brother so you should forgive him in your own heart. She may not even become your sister-in-law so you could just hold her at arms length and not count on either of them for any responsible action.
2006-12-15 15:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you offered to pay for her dress and the tux then you're out the money. If you couldn't afford to "loose" that money then you shouldn't have spent it to begin with. As far as your wedding shower why was she expected to pay for anything? Guests don't pay for the shower the people who are hosting the shower pay for it. So if SHE wasn't hosting the shower there would be no need for her to pay for anything other than a gift if she were to get you one. Besides you're blaming HER for a phone call you got from your BROTHER. Do you figure your brother doesn't have a mind of his own and is incapable of making a choice as to not show up for the wedding? Maybe that's WHY he didn't show up.
2006-12-15 17:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, they should pay you back the money you spent on the dress & his tux. Forget about asking for the dress back. What are you going to do with a dress you don't need anymore? with both of them being in the wedding & doing a NO SHOW with a stupid excuse, they deserve to be ignored until they apologize. What kind of family members are they? they sound like they are young & immature.
2006-12-15 14:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send them the bills for the clothes and tell them they were only bought and paid for to use at YOUR function that they did not attend.
It's going to be long time before you speak to them because they will never pay and they'll be flabbergasted that you even dared to ask but if they are a pain in the *** like you say they are, think of it like this...You got rid of the nuisance for the really low price of $411.
2006-12-15 14:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by snippers72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of your brother. I would ask for the gifts back and also tell them that they owe you for the tux and dress. It sounds like your brother is allowing some woman to destroy his relationship with his family...
as long as the girl is in his life... he will treat his family like the plague. the girl sounds like a control freak and until your brother figures this out for himself you and him will drift apart...
2006-12-15 14:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she was a problem from the beginning . you should of changed plans. chalk it up to a bad experiance. call your brother and say sorry things did'nt work out. you thought you were being nice to include her. dont harp on his friend. wont solve any thing.
2006-12-15 14:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by robert c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forgive him NOW....my brother died almost 2 years ago from cancer and I miss him every day. Why hang on to the hate
2006-12-15 14:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My whole family skipped my wedding and that hurt all by itself . I would prolly never talk to my brother again if i were you.
2006-12-15 14:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Back Off Jack ! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God said forgive so for your sake and your health forgive him right away. Do unto others as you want them to do unto you. You start first
2006-12-15 14:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please do yourself and your family a favor and forgive him. Unconditional love is the greatest thing one can give.
He's your brother, blood. You don't know how long you may have together. Please don't take your lives for granted, for tomorrow might never come.
2006-12-15 14:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋