I fell in love with someone almost 10 years and I'm still in love with him even though we're both remarried and haven't had any conmunication since July. I tried everything but this deep longing is still there. HELP!!!
2006-12-15 14:29:36 · 6 answers · asked by lovelost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you're romanticizing your memories. You broke up for a reason. try remembering what they were. You're both remarried so there's no way you can be together again, so your only choice is to move on with your life.
Instead of thinking about this person from your past, find contentment in your present life. Devote all of that energy to your husband and consider his feelings. Also, do you have children or plan to in the future? They deserve to have a mother that's not mentally somewhere else. Just because you still have feelings doesn't mean that they should dominate your life. Sometimes you have to override you feelings with principles and logic.
And don't forget to read the Bible and pray. Your creator knows better than anyone how to fix what's broken. The longer you stay in God's word, the more it will be reflected in your life.
2006-12-15 15:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Reality check 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living in the past will only hurt your marriage, the past is the past, and no can't be brought back unless u are willing to give up everything and hurt some innocent people. u may think u are still in love with him, but in reality it has to do with that there may be something u are missing within your marriage that u had when u were seeing the other man. affairs rarely work out as we think they will, someone always gets hurt, and once there we may not even love that person anymore. focus on what u have now, it is never good to go back into the past to find it.
2006-12-15 23:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of lost loves. One in high school (I am 37 now) and one who recently committed suicide. People talk of true love and "The One", but I don't believe in that. These were two women that touched my heart in a most intimate way. I will always love both of them and I hope to see them in Heaven, if I or they make it.
I am married now and I love my wife with the same passion, leaving nothing reserved for my past loves. Jesus says in the Bible that there will be no marriage in Heaven, and I believe that to mean that everyone will love each other equally, no reservations for that "special one." We just don't have the capacity to do it now, so we get to practice with just one person.
"It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all." Life is not without its pain.
2006-12-15 14:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Truckin' for a Livin' 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you miss hI'm but you just got to let him go. its not easy i know. even though im to young to marry i still know.sooner or later you will be over it. you have a new life and a new family. just in joy what you have. it will work out.
2006-12-15 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it remain a sweet memory. If you love him pray that his married life should be happy.
2006-12-15 14:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋