My girlfriend wants to take a break, what should I do?

Question

Well, just the other day my girlfriend told me that she "wanted a break". It really kind of like came to me by surprise, but she told me that she was thinking about it for a week. She says she still loves me and that she wants to get back together and that she only wants to "be a teenager". (I'm 17 and she's 16 right now and we have been together for a while now).
I don't really understand what she means though, because she still wants me to call her and still basically wants us to talk and act all good. But I can't handle that, for the past couple of days I've been so depressed I don't want to get out of bed, I don't want to eat, I'm miserable. I want her to be happy, and I love her so much, but I really don't know what to do. I don't think I can handle going every day like this, someone please help me. Someone mature, and that is not an *******. I would like to hear what the girls have to say mostly. Thanks a lot for the help.

Well, I called her and told her that I really do just want to be happy and that I love her and that I will always be here for her when she finds out what she wants.

Thanks everyone for all the help.

Answer 1

weel iim not a girl, but i had the same situation, yah gotta tell firts hand how much you love her, and that takin a break is just out of the question.

Answer 2

It's just the blues....you are taking this way too serious, she's only 16. Are you expecting her to go out and marry someone tomorrow? Seriously you are doing the best right now by supporting her, she will only respect you by the way you are being a gentleman friend for her. By being a teenager she's not saying that she's going to be wild and crazy and come back to you all worn out she's just trying to enjoy life as a kid.

You should be taking advantage of this too, try going out with some friends or spending time doing something you like, If you don't know what you like then start exploring. Maybe pick up a part time job to get out the house and make some extra $$. But trying to spend all your time together Is really going to get boring really quick. Even when you two get back together you should still get out from under each other every once In a while....good luck!!

Answer 3

Estaban, what it means is that you both have different needs at the moment. You are both so young. I am sure that she is unsure of herself and your relationship -- your range of life experiences isnt very large yet. And, there are some things that you can only experience if you venture out on your own.

I know its hard for you, but you are already wise in one thing -- you know that you can't "be together and NOT be together". So, it means that you need to look at life as being filled with new opportunities waiting for you to explore rather than centered around this relationship.

Let go. Move on. Stop calling. Live. Later, if it turns out that you both move back in the same direction (which can sometimes happen but often does not) then you can decide if you want that. Take care of yourself now. You had a great experience with a long term girlfriend. You will have another... take care.

Answer 4

Hehehe I got an experience about that. She's not ready for a commitment, what she needs is someone to hang out together and she's still unsure wether she wanted a relationship with you. You can try to convince her that you're the one that she wanted, and without commitment, both of you can get nowhere. If she insisted, let her go... keep dating her while keep your eyes open. And while you're dating her, dont give her a safe feeling that you will be dating her and only her, always give her a hanging answer when she asked you. One day when she wanted you so much that she doesn't wanna lose you, she'll ask you out, or at least give you the hint that she wanted a relationship.

Answer 5

well to tell you the truth if a girl says she wants a break, she is probably feeling to smothered. You said you were together for awhile and i know after girls date guys when they are young like that want to experience new things to see what others are like before they really settle down. I say dont let this break let you become depressed look at as a new opportunity to explore too, dont let her be the only one having fun. If she sees that you are miserable without her she is going to think your a pushover and someone she can walk all over. Girls like guys that are confident! Just remember you are still young seriously you dont need to be settling down just yet you have alot of school left and lots more people to actually meet. Hopefully that helps you out!...ps girls want what they cant have so if you play hard to get you may have her not wanting to take that break after all:) Good luck!

Answer 6

if she out of the blue wants a break she is probably cheating on you but she doesn't want to leave until she finds out wot's gonna happen with the other guy.and then if every thing goes well with that guy she will leave you and comes up with some excuse that will make you think it is your fault that she is leaving you not telling you the truth!!! well my friend the truth is she is a coward and a betrayer and no one on the face of this earth not even liers and betrayers deserve such person, my advise to you that if she wants a break, you break up with her tell her is she wants a break she doesn't deserve you. you want to be with someone that can't get enought of you, then leave if she comes back beging, wait a while make her beg a little if it works out it's worth it and then she'll think twice before pullying that scandal on you and if it doesn't then **** her and all the ones like her.

now i realize that it's very hard to do such, might seem imposible if you really love her!!! huh? but remember this : if you love a person you deserve to be loved back and if they love you then they woudn't treat you like this, so you live only once and believem you don't want to carry the scar of a broken heart with you, (on the other hand she might leave you and you'll cry and then he leaves her and she might come back or she might not and then you ask her to come back and she will because you are convinient and then the moment she finds some one else (doesn;t have to be better, more good looking or any thing just any one else) she will do it again and then you might take her back again, then you'll be like me, wishing some one told you this before it all happened!!! well i'm telling you)

Answer 7

She was being smothered by you, give her the break she wants and you take advantage of it too, eat right, sleep more, and when you do talk to her let her know how much you love her. But a word of advice, after her "break" she will still need her space, let her be a teenager and hang around her friends. You two can still see each other just don't crowd her.

Answer 8

You really need to respect her wishes at this juncture.
If you really love her, give her some space. if you put pressure on her you might actually alienate her.If she comes back to you on her own accord you will know you have her.
If she moves in another direction. let her go. do not hold a grudge,because that bad feeling will only linger within you and you will not be able to move forward happily in order to find another girl who will appreciate you for who you are.
another thought is, if she moves in another direction with another guy. why be upset about it. because why would you still want to be with a girl that does not see you as the best guy in the world.
so no matter what happens you really do win.

Answer 9

I know it is hard to take, but you are both young, both of you take a break, and see what else is out there, maybe this girl is not for you.

If she wants a break, then calling her everyday and acting like you are both together can't be either, you and her can call once a while, but she can't have her cake and eat it.

Remember if this is true love, then you both will be back together again, if not then you both know. It is like letting a bird out of their cage, if it is meant to be, it will come back.

Take care, and good luck

Answer 10

You need to give her some space, or she might decide she needs a permanent break. Go hang out with the guys, do some guy stuff, but I wouldn't be calling her everyday, that sounds like she wants to keep tabs on you, and if that's the case, why does she need to take a break at all?

Answer 11

Give both yourself a space. Give her what she wants otherwise the more you chase her, the more she wants to get out of the relationship. I know it's hard but don't put yourself in a situation where you will waste your time contemplating while she's ok with it. Life is beautiful, you're still young and got so much life ahead of you. Good Luck in everything you do and be strong.