What do I do.. Girlfriend and her friend?

Question

So basically here it is.

My girlfriend has a friend who basically walks all over her. I have noticed this and I no longer talk to her, yet my girlfriend wont realize this, and wont listen to me when I try to make her see it. Just yesterday, her friend broke down crying, she got sent home, she was supposed to go to my girlfriends house today so they could talk, long story short, she broke off the plans, so me and my girlfriend made plans, then her friend wanted to go back to there original plans, and my girlfriend, tho very mad, went with her...

How do I make her see what is going on and how to get her over her friend who is walking all over her when she wont listen to me, and just gets mad at me when I try to talk to her?

This is killing me, and I don't know how much more I can take before I start freaking out on her friend...

Answer 1

don't freak out on her friend. if things get that bad remove yourself from the whole situation and then your g/f will realize that you wont tolerate that b--chs behavior and that it must stop or you wont be in her life any more.

Answer 2

Sorry to make this sound like tough love, but you have a few issues to deal with.
1. You need to stand up for yourself. If your relationship is going to last at all, you need to be heard. Only you know the best way to do this. You can only be walked all over if you let it happen.

2. Recognize the situation for what it is. If your girlfriend is part of the whole walking over you thing, then she is just as guilty as her friend is. If you do finally get through number 1, and talk to her, and it still happens, then you need to let her go. You are a person and derserving of a certain amount of respect(dependent upon how much you give and how much people percieve that you deserve).

3. You need to talk to her friend specifically. Tell her how you feel. If you never speak to her about the problem, then its possible that she doesn't see it. The longer you let a problem like this go on, the worse it will get.

In your own words: "Long story short."... check for cojones, if you got 'em, do what needs to be done. No one can make you feel bad unless you let them.

Answer 3

If she is getting used and doesn't see it after you point it out to her that's on her. Now if she is pushing you to the side for the friend I would have a problem with that.I would ask how would she feel if the tables were turned and it was you and your friend. Maybe you should give her the same treatment. Let her see how it feels to be second. If this is a new relationship I can understand because the friend could have been there longer then you. A stronger bond. At some point she would need to make a decision what relationship means more.

Answer 4

my boyfriend has a friend who is just like that and the bad part is that all three of us work together. my boyfriend ends up doing all his friend work and his friend hardly chips in. sometimes it pisses me off and i get mad at him. i dont talk to guy because i cant stand his as s. just stay out of it and if your friend chooses her over you, you know its time to move on. PS I AM ALMOST 100 % SURE HER FRIEND DOESN'T HAVE A MAN SO SHE TRIES TO SABOTAGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

Answer 5

You should really just stay out of it. i know that it messes up your plans and stuff, but you just need to be supportive of your girl. And not judge her. She will appreciate it trust me.

Answer 6

this happened to me I got all my friends together an we all told her she was really mad for 2 weeks but then realise it was true and ditched that "friend" it is risky

Answer 7

Give her all the advice you want. But in the end she has to make her own choices. Of course, if her choices are affecting you, then you have to make your own choices....

Answer 8

tell her to not be her friend and you should tell her if she noteses then tell her *** off.