check my other questions for some details, there's a lot more drama than that but you get the idea
Tuesday I spilled my guts to my boss about everything. He told me to keep my eyes open for any sign God would give me. Yesterday my husband and I had lunch at a Chinese restaurant and these are the fortunes we got:
ME "This person's love is just and true, you may rely on it"
HIM "Good character guards against temptation"
I think it's really weird I'm told God will send me a sign and two days later it seems to happen
I've lost all trust in him and I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him again. I want to believe him that nothing happened with this other woman but he was behaving inappropriately for a few months. I gave him so many chances to act right. I guess I'm willing to give him one last chance but I'm just so confused
Do you think God is telling me to give it one last shot? Would you be willing to forgive your love for being a total idiot and disrespecting you?
2006-12-15 13:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by smarty pants 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, sorry i did'nt finish. First of all i don't believe God answers in a fortune cookie. It sounds to me like you really do want to work this out so you are looking for any sign,and that's not a bad thing.
I not only took my husband back,but I forgave him also. This is not an easy thing to do. You have to be willing to forgive and try not to think about what he did to you. Notice i didn't say forgive and forget, cuz you won't be able to forget and I nor should any one else expect you to. All you can do is make up your mind to go on and start over again if that's what you both decide to do. It won't be a bed of roses either. Will you be able to wake up each and every morning without being mad at him for what he's done and greet him and try to carry out the rest of the day as normal. Can argue with him and not throw it up in his face,cuz you will have to in order to make it work. If you can't do this it's best to let some time pass before you do anything. Time is the best healer sure you are really mad now , but how will you feel in 3 months, or 6 months. you'd be surprised how fast the time goes and how far you go in your relationship together. It has been over 5 yrs. since me and hubby put things back together. it wasn't easy like I said. He had to make me trust him again.not just for what he did , but to trust my heart to him again, that was the hardest. you both have a long hard road ahead of you, if you decide to put it back together, the grass is not always greener on the other side. as for God giving you a sign, he doesn't want to see any of us separated if we are joined in marriage. So take your fortune cookie as a sign if you must. good luck MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAVE A HAPPIER NEXT AND NEW YEAR.
2006-12-15 13:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by hummybird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God would not give you only one last shot.He is always there for you everytime . He always love you and wants you to trust HIM.
you been hurt and that makes you confused,
First in everything..Trust God and He would give you everything.
nothing is impossible to him..Unless you don't forgive someone, you will never be forgiven. sometimes by not forgiving, how much we waste the days that we are supposed to be happy, it is like someone is stealing our happy days for being total idiot or unforgiving... so I would rather forgive and take back the happy days we deserve. and have a positive attitude . You are married to him, you have all the reasons to protect your marriage and you can do something not to let him fall for another woman.
Yes, I would forgive him and it is him to deal with his guilt to the Lord but I would always there for him to support and pray for him stand for him, because this is what marriage is all about..but if the situation is far abusive and immorals,,there is no reason to stay for marriage but to stay away out from the sin.
.about the fortune cookies? sorry I don't put my trust to fortune cookies..but I do read it.
Have a happy married life.
2006-12-15 14:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing ( and sorry to all the religious ppl out there) but God has nothing to do with it. If your looking for a sign from "God" all time, then that's getting in the way of you trying to figure out what you want to do with your life. Either you want to be with him, or you don't. And to make things a bit more simple, make a list of things that you just can't live with. not things that you want, or hope that will happen, but things in your marriage that you just can't, no matter what can live with. "Deal breakers" for me it was cheating and lying. Those are things that i can't stay with him for doing no matter what. Ever thing else that we have problems over i put up with, and we try to work out, but i could not, would not stay with him if he cheated on me. If you have reason to doubt what he was doing, and you have lost your trust in him, you most likely have a good reason for. And he will have to earn you trust back. But on the other hand if every time some thing happens and you fly off the handle, and are so angry ( and probably with good reason ) your angry will get in the way of communicating.
2016-05-22 22:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear there are no second chances with me I am old time and have already informed the wife that if caught with someone else will pack my bags, walk out the doors and nobody will ever see or know where to find me.
Trust; I stood before the same preacher that she did and we shared the same vows - the same vows - if she were caught cheating once, would a smoker have one cigarette?
2006-12-15 13:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by S.O.S. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once and showed remorse...yes I could forgive. But the hurt and anger would take a while to go away. Don't force it, it won't work.
And don't be surprised when you ask for a sign from god and it actually comes. It happens all the time, it's just we either don't notice them or don't believe it.
2006-12-15 13:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that is what is takes to give you new hope and inspiration to carry on in your marriage , than by all means believe! at least you can say you gave it your all and you have even went that extra mile. good luck!
2006-12-15 13:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is worth a try. God can work miracles,even if it is through Chinese cookies.my wife & I get a lot of them.
2006-12-15 13:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please tell me that you really don't think that reading some fortune cookie is a sign from god. and that you believe in them. what if it would have said that he was going to be in some fatal accident or that you were going to marry the girl of your dreams? please!! {and yes i know that your a woman} but do see how stupid these cookies could be?
2006-12-15 13:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forgive yes ,, you must ,but as a sign from god (well if thats the excuse you need use it )
2006-12-15 13:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself.... you will not lie to yourself... You Know Look in your heart......The first answer is the RIGHT ONE
2006-12-15 13:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Donna L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋