im 13 and my mom still tries to run my life , how do i get her to butt out???

Question

k, my mom thinks im still a little girl and she even gives me a CURFEW!!!!!! wtf?!?!??!?! im not some 5 year old baby im 13!!!!! I tell her to **** off all the time but she keeps butting into my life like anything i do is her business. shes a ***** and i hate it when she thinks she can run my life. Im not some little kid anymore. How do I get her to butt out and leave me alone, and quit trying to ground me when i come home late or whatev?

ummmmm...im not a little girl ppl im a 13 yr old. I already have a ton of boyz interested in me cuz im one of the prettiest girlz in school and i hang out with just the popular ppl. ive already had like a ton of b/fs even more then my bff (best friend forever) but thats cuz im prettier than she is but whatev

Answer 1

You are only 13 yrs. old, your mother it's doing her job to keep you out of trouble, you should be glad you have some guidance in your life.

Answer 2

"...im not a little girl ppl im a 13 yr old. I already have a ton of boyz interested in me cuz im one of the prettiest girlz in school and i hang out with just the popular ppl. ive already had like a ton of b/fs even more then my bff (best friend forever) but thats cuz im prettier than she is but whatev"?

You may not be a little girl, but you sure as Hell aren't an adult, and this reply seems to justify it. Just because you think that you're one of the prettiest girls in school, hang out with just the "popular people", and have had a lot of boyfriends doesn't make you an adult. Honestly, you make yourself sound like a shallow, slutty, brat. If your mother seems strict, then that means she cares for you and, although I'm 15 and still give my parents a pretty hard time sometimes like any other teenager, I wouldn't tell them to **** off. Would you rather have your parents be incompetent deadbeats that don't give a flying fruitcake about you? If she's so strict and you want her to go a little easier on you, why don't you give her a reason to? With the description you've given, I say you're the one acting like a little ***** and, at the rate you're going, will end up pregnant before you turn 18.

Answer 3

I was 13 once before too, so was your mom. Take it from someone who remembers 13, be greatful that your mom even cares enough to butt in! I am a mom now myself and I know that what she is doing is BECAUSE she loves you! If you want more independance, give her reasons to give you more freedom. Instead of telling her to **** off and calling her a *****, try giving her a hug and help out around the house. Work hard in school, do your homework. Do all this first, then after doing it without being asked to for a while, sit her down and thank her for all she does for you. Nicely explain that you are not the little girl that you used to be. Tell her that while you know that you still need her, you now need more freedom. Ask her if she can at least think about this and get back to you. In the mean time, continue doing things around the house without being asked. Continue working hard at school and doing your homework. Show her that you can be trusted. Even is she comes back and tells you that she's not ready to do that, continue doing those things. I guarentee you that if you keep doing responsible things, she will see it for what it is. She will bend and you both will be happier. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Turn 18 - thats the only way you whiney spoiled little brat. How dare you talk to and about your mother like that. I had a curfew til I was 18 - YES I SAID 18. You are too young to be out on the streets or wondernig around and your mother is trying to protect you. So stop thinking you are grown and realize you are a kid - enjoy being a kid and stop talking back. You will realize how great she was and how much she helped you once you are older and on your own.

i couldn't stand my mom when I was a kid - I did call her a ***** once and my dad kicked my butt... apologized for it later - but I soooo deserved it. You should give your mom respect. She brought you into this world and raised you, so stop being so ungrateful and obnoxious.

Oh and to the kid who's living with a friend - ask him what he's done with his life. How is he doing in school? Does he have any future plans like college or a career or is he just hanging out with no rules and being a bum>?

Stay where you are and be thankful that your mom loves you enough to want to watch out for you - some people are not that lucky.

EDITED TO ADD: yes you are a little girl, but now you've basicaly shown that not only are you a spoiled brat but now you are a spoiled brat that will probably end up being a pregnant teen statistic that has 2 kids by the time she's 18.

Answer 5

Since you are a minor, your parents are guardians of you until you are 18 if not 21 yrs old. Since you live under there roof, you go by there rules. They are going to butt in no matter how old you even when you become an adult. They are your parents and even though you feel that they are butting in, think of how you would feel if your parents never cared about you and something happened to you? Your parents are the ones that protect you from the world that harms children at the age that you are. Your parents see fit to what they feel that is in your best interest. You at the age that you are, should not worry about becoming independent because being independent is more of a responsiblity then people understand it to be. If you break there rules, then you have to deal with the consequences but you are only making it harder on yourself by being a rebel and wanting to do your own thing. You may not think you could ever get harmed, but you can from others of your age or from others who are older than you. Respect your elders but most of all, respect your parents because they are the only ones that you have in your life!! She can run your life where she feels its in your best interest. Until you become an adult and move out, you are stuck with listening to your parents and obeying there rules in there house.

Answer 6

Ok girl. It is HER JOB to run your life until you turn 18 and you can move out. You think you're acting adult and mature by having "like a ton of b/fs", telling her to "fcuk off" and coming home late. Listen: that is NOT adult. What your mother is doing is adult, mainly because she has mental maturity about 5000% greater than your own. Not to mention she is OVER 18.

Don't you realise that girls who have had a ton of boyfriends are the ones who never realise the guys only see them as an easy root? (Hopefully you haven't had sex, but you get my meaning.) Don't you realise that once your "bff" grows up you two will no longer be friends? Don't you see she's in a better situation because her rep isn't damaged like yours will be, because unless you quit all this whorish shiit now, some guy will get you knocked up and then you'll need your mother, won't you. You can't get a job. Who's gonna pay for the diapers, clothes, food, formula, etc etc etc?

Oh and you can kiss the thought of a having a successful career goodbye.

I'm 14 and I don't even live with my mother. She tried to kill herself in front of me in in September 2005. For the most of the past year that I've been living with my dad, we have relied on the government to get by. Fortunately, two weeks ago he got a full time job as a financial planner. And you're complaining because you have a curfew? If that's the biggest of your problems, I think you need to get over yourself.

A girl in my grade - age 14, same age as me - (I'm in Grade 10 in 2007) sounds a bit like you. Her first name is Rachel. She and her boyfriend were dating for around five months. At school one day she had a constant migraine and she threw up. Her parent came to pick her up from school since she was sick, and as she was leaving she told her boyfriend she thought she might be pregnant. Her boyfriend, upon being told that, dumped her straight away - a teenage boy is totally underprepared to be a father and let's face it... who wants to be a daddy at 14?

Also your mother will only give you extra priveliges and extend your curfew if you start to take life seriously. If she acted like you, she'd have a dozen other kids, each to a different father and would most likely be on hard drugs. Maybe she'd even be in prison. Do you want that for yourself?

Please make the right choice for yourself.

Answer 7

look *****, grow up. you sound like a little gurl. why are you disrespecting your mother like that?.. look around you. whou bough that chair your sitting in. how about your clothes. that computer. the roof you are under. where would you be without her?... if you didnt have a curfew, you would be pregnant by 14 or 15 i garentee it. and i still think you'll end up pregnant soon, if you dont start growing up. you are 13. you cant even get a job yet. and when you do, it'll be at some fast food resurant paying minum wage, working minum hours, making not **** of money, not being able to pay for crap. your mother is doing her job, making sure you dont screw up your life.im 15, and i have a curfew. i have to be in at 10:00.... and i dont have a problem with that. i know my parents just want the best for me..... if you really want your mother out of your life... run away... go live out on the streets.
you are the shallowest little girl i have ever heard. so what if you are pretty. guys only want you so they can fu*k you, and bounce. once thet get in your pants, thats it. they're gone. they're not gonna be around to take care of your baby.you have a long way to go before you are grown. get used to it.
i hate these spoiled little brats now. if i ever disrespected my mother, god help me.

Answer 8

Sorry to tell you, but at 13 you should have a curfew and your mom should have some control over what you do. You're still living at home and your parents still support you so yes, you have to abide by your mom's rules. You are still a child. Even if your mom has some rules that you disagree with you still have to abide by them, and your mom should ground you when you break those rules. If your mom doesn't discipline you then how will she have any authority over you? You're at the age where you want to rebel and be independent. Trust me, your time will come. As hard as this may be to believe, you'll eventually get to an age where you might miss the times when your mom provided for you and told you what to do. Even though society tells you otherwise, don't try to grow up too fast.

Answer 9

ok, sweety. if you're not a little kid anymore, get a job, move out and prove to us that you are no longer a kid. you're the prettiest and most popular girl? well, guys want that type of girls to do what they do best, have sex and then you will just be that girl that all guys want to do, and that is what your mother is trying to prevent. your mom is being a mother, trying to raise you right, get an education and does not want you to mess up. other parents are doing that as well.
so, if you're not a kid, get a job, pay rent, have kids, and MOVE OUT or be good so your mom can keep caring and give you a better life.
nobody else is going to care once you get knocked up for your friends will still be the pretty ones and you will be that whore who got knocked up, but your mom will always be there


PS. no grown up, only kids say bff for we know they dont last forever

Answer 10

You have the wrong idea about life sweetie and if you keep it up you won't make if far. You are still a child in your mothers house and if you think you are so grown you need to pack your bags and get out because nobody loves you more than your parents. If you don't slow down and be a child while you can you will be in for a rude awaking. Sweetie those boys don't give a damn about you they are just wanting what you got and at 13 that ain't much. You better wake up honey because your life can be taken out from under you in a matter of minutes. Respect her, love her and thank god you have her because she want live forever and then what you got?????????

Answer 11

You're not a little kid any more? Funny, because when you tell your mom to **** off, you sound like a little kid.

If you're old enough to stay out to whatever hours you want, then surely you should be old enough to sit down with her and have a nice mature talk in which you don't have to resort to words that have no place in a conversation with your parents?

And I hate to break it to you, but you're 13. That means she gets to run your life for another 5 years. While you live under her roof, she's obliged to look after you, which means setting curfew, making you do chores, raiding your bedroom if she sees fit. When you're 18, you can move out and do what you like, but until then, her house, her rules.

Your mom obviously cares about you, because a lot of terrible, terrible things can happen to a kid who doesn't have someone to watch out for them. You say you have a ton of boys interested in you? Well, would they still be around if you were pregnant? On drugs? Beaten, mugged and left to die in a gutter?

Why not show some responsibility and a mature attitude, and maybe she'll think you're old enough to stay out a little later.