i need some advice from bi or lesbians?

Question

my daughter who is involved with her first cousin who is also a girl.. they have had this realionship since they were 5 ys and 7 yrs old.. then the cousin moved when they were 11 and 13 and now when they are 18 and 20 they have resume the realionship.. my daughter is schroprhepiza ans her cousin has similar syptoms but not the same thing..her cousin can atleast work where my child wont ..,my child moved across country to live with her cousin and her aunt.. everything hit the fan when her aunt found out about them..i knew since they were small children or atleast i suspected as much.. they may be thrown out and i have a 15 yr old who i dont want exposed to that.. also they have a promblem of blaming all the men in their lives for molsesting them from their fathers to their uncles...i dont know what to do i would bring them both here if i did not have a child in the house and i could look the other way....help i dont know what to do

i know what borderline personality disorder is .. they talk to people that aint there .. my daughter see them they tell her to kill her self

Answer 1

Maybe they have been sexually abused, maybe not, but those are serious allegations that should be looked into. Some psychologists are making that child abuse is the leading cause of schizophrenia. It sounds like your daughter and her cousin need to be in therapy. Get them (or at least YOUR DAUGHTER) help. Good luck.

Answer 2

it is very unusual for cousins to get romantically and/or sexually involved. whether it is bi cousins, straight cousins, or gay cousins.

bottom line, these girls sound like they have emotional scars and demons.. and if being together helps each other get thru life, then that's fine.

i can understand your fears in exposing your 15 yr old to this..

but heck, this is your daughter and her cousin we are talking about. you are family.. you gotta do something to help..

since they are 18 and 20, unless they are in a state of severe mental problems, they should be able to get jobs and find an apartment to rent.. you could offer to let them stay with you on a "temporary" basis until they are able to land on their feet.

if their mental state is serious, then perhaps local authorities or charitable organizations could offer a more long term solution.

but whatever you do, don't let them go live with these molesting fathers and uncles..

not sure if there is anything else i can suggest. but it sounds like these girls really need love and help..

Answer 3

***********Never let guilt be your guide.************
They are old enough to find their own way.
Mental illness is not a reason for you to change
your life to suit theirs..they made the choice.
Regardless of health, they are of age, and you
can no longer tell them or make them do anything.
Legally or other wise..Sad but true.
How would you be reacting if they were two healthy
adults?? We only have control over ourselves.
Just take care of the responsibilities at home.
I think your 15 year old daughter needs you more.
You can only spread yourself so thin. Good Luck

Answer 4

Let them work it out. Often the hard way is the best to learn. If they insiat on doing this, they are adults and can make their own decisions. Let them work out their own problems too. As a parent you do what you can to raise them right and then you have to back off and let them figure out the rest.

Answer 5

You all need to sit down and figure something out. You and her mom. I do have a suggestion. Maybe you should bring them down to where you live and find them a place to stay alittle apartment or rooming house. Have them find a job. I don't know what else to say you do have a difficult situation on your hands.

Answer 6

ok look up border line disorder and please get back to me on that i can help you im a therapest