Is there really a point to getting married now a days?

Question

I'm a Christian. I believe that a man and a women that are ready is supposed to be united with the blessing of God; however I do believe that inevitably people will adapt to society. It is more likely to get divorced than to stay married. Even when people are married, they don't value its true meaning because cheating is very common. Cheating on spouses has been going on for a very long time, but now it is socially acceptable. Does this ever make you wonder is there truly a point to marriage? Hasn't it lost its meaning and value anyway?

Answer 1

I'm not married and plan to never be. Well ... perhaps by age 45 or so.

There is no such thing as marriage. Marriage never had a "meaning and value" except to pass on wealth and power through men's family names. You seem to forget that divorce has always been socially acceptable when initiated by a man. It was not at all uncommon for men to divorce their pregnant wives (whether pregnant by a different man or not) or wives who did not bear a son, to accuse wives of anything they pleased to obtain a divorce, to have wives stoned to death. See Henry VIII.

Divorce and "cheating" are both likely more "socially acceptable" today because women are more financially indepedent, have means of taking responsibility for their sexual health, and are finally realizing they don't have to put up with men's demeaning crap anymore without the threat of being thrown out in the cold with their children to starve to death. And their well-beings and opinions are finally worth more than dirt.

I would be celebrating rather than lamenting if I were you.

Answer 2

Since when is cheating on spouses socially acceptable? I'm not married so I can't speak from experience, but I don't think the tradition of marriage is going anywhere anytime soon. Sure cohabitation is much more common now than it was, say 20 years ago, statistics show that only 10% of cohabitations last longer than 5 years. The remainder of people either split up or get married. There are also studies linking co-habitation before marriage with higher rates of divorce. As far as cheating, you don't cite any sources, but from what I was able to dig up I found that 90% of Americans consider infidelity morally wrong, and appromixately 20% of men and something like 15% of women admitted to having a extramarital affair for the survey I read. Also, the annual divorce rate between 1950-2005 spiked in the early 80's and has been gradually decreasing ever since. (check out Census data) I think those numbers are more meaningful than the "x% of people will eventually be divorced" number because the annual numbers better reflect societal trends. C'mon things aren't as bad as you're making them out to be, but I agree they could be better.

Answer 3

Angie, you say you're a christian. What exactly do you mean by that? Christian implies that you're like Christ. So, in order to be like Christ you have to know Christ, and the first place to go to learn about him is the Bible. So forget what society says and see what God says, because He is the one to model your life after and ultimately, He's the one you have to give an account to. There are many scriptures that address the issue of marriage and divorce in the new testament and the old, but Jesus (who is the Christ) answered the divorce issue directly in Matthew 19:3-12 (also read 7:21-27 while you're there).
God created marriage and had a purpose for it. The problem is not with God's purpose, but it's people getting married without knowledge of, or intentions to fulfill that purpose. They make it what they think it should be, but if you do it God's way it can't fail. Infidelity and disappointment won't be an issue. Trust will always be there because your faith is in God, not the other person.

Answer 4

Marriage is supposed to be a sacred union and the vows are PROMISES to each other "with God" as witness. Seems these days, people get married because of the wrong reasons. Love is the best, but not the ONLY reason. You must be ready to commit your life and SELF to the marriage, BOTH of you. A Marriage is what happens long after the wedding! It takes work to keep a marriage together.It's not all fun, games and sex. It's trust, faithfulness, respect. compassion, loyalty, commitment,sharing and caring, helping...all those good things! You have to be able to encourage and compromise.It's a "job" that you must work at! You are right, though very sad...people do not take marriage seriously any more. Just because people have gone awry, doesn't mean God has changed! He expects us to "do the right thing".

Answer 5

I believe in marriage. And this is my second marriage... the first didn't work out after 6 years.

Marriage makes you more committed to working on issues. I have a great marriage- a true partnership and friendship.

Don't judge why people get divorced...it's for all kinds of reasons, not just cheating. We are here to live and learn, not judge one another and apply generalizations on society.

Answer 6

I use to think that getting married was pointless and I had the mind set if I want to leave I didn't want to have to deal with the paper work of divorce. I was with someone for 8 years and never got married. Point is it didn't work.I think that now a days alot of people feel this way but over time the feelings change.I am now with someone that I can say for the first time ever I want to be his wife. So the point is it's all the way you feel and want for yourself. The meaning is still there.

Answer 7

I don't believe there is a point anymore. Marriage has truly lost its meaning with all of the other inconveniences to help it along the road to its dissolution. Also people get married for all the wrong reasons now and are too absorbed in their own selfishness to do their part to make it a partnership. Although it is against christian beliefs, I think people should just shack and leave it there.

Answer 8

Society as a whole does not take marriage
seriously anymore; however there are still
some people that do, and when the two that
do get married and are serious about it , no-one
can interfere as it's a blessing that not too many
people have nowadays,. I'm very blessed as I
am with the same love for 20yrs and still am
happy.

Answer 9

It is harder to have a meaningful relationship these days and it can be very rough on those who still have ethical values to continue to believe in the sacred nature of marriage. But don't give up. If you hold yourself to the standards that the Bible teaches irregardless of what is going on around you, I believe you will be able to have a marriage that is a light to all those in darkess around you who may be engaging in extra-marital affairs or other unscrupulous means. The grass is not greener and those who choose to do these things are no happier after they cheat. Don't stop holding the banner of marriage high as the joining together of one man and one woman. It was set up by God and still conducts meaning.

Answer 10

Iwas married prior to my current marriage and it was a very unhealthy relationship. My current husband was also married before, but he didn't know what he wanted in life until we met. Sometimes it ends up hurting the ex's but when you find true love and you know they are your soulmate, you will marry and never have to worry about infidelity again.