So i am a married woman i have been married for 9 years and currently me and my husband live in diff cities he is abusive unromantic and lately he's been bashing me for not having a job. I am a stay at home mom. Anyway down to the problem i ran into an old accquaintance from high school one day and we exchanged numbers and even though he is married as well we still talked on the phone and etc well fast forward to about 6 months ago and we have had sex and its like well i like him a lot and i feel comfortable with being his jumpoff for the rest of my life i mean i don't want him to leave her and i will leave my husband after i go to school to pursue a career so i feel pretty much set it is just a waiting game at the moment. I know the situation i am in is not a good one but this is a totally different era than the olden times and i feel like this isn't so bad..If she were to call me i would say i don't know him because i am not a homewrecker.
2006-12-15 13:00:51 · 11 answers · asked by ♥СhOclēŧ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we first saw each other again 17 months ago and did the deed 6 months ago. They dont have kids yet but when they do i more than likely will leave him alone i think i dont feel bad because my husband cheated on me i know with concrete proof of one time and i forgave him for the kids economic resons etc but since that day i no longer love him i just wanna know what peoples opinions are on the subject because cheating is so common although before i was cheated on i never thought i would in a million years.
2006-12-15 13:05:00 · update #1
After being a wife for so long and being neglected and whatnot i am not afraid of being alone I have broken it off with him (the married man) and he comes back says we can be friends wishes me a happy thanksgiving or whatever and we are back together again. I eventually will end it because i am gonna be single again in the near future and he already has his life but i just feel like i will always be there for him. We only get together every now and then like 4 times a month and i never call him he calls me and when we are together my kids aren't with me. But like i said eventually i think it will have an end like some people have already siad though when you have been put down unappreciated cheated on etc its easier on ur conscious to step out and be unfaithful. I am just being honest.
2006-12-15 13:46:23 · update #2
hmmmmmm. well 1st leave your hubby and get a job. I did it with kids. Dont wait because if your going to school he will just bring you down and chances are you wont finish. find some friends to go out with and no-one is going to condemn you for the married man. You just wanted to feel good about yourself. You will find someone you can be with ,why waste your time with your husband.If you cheated on him then leave him. maybe the married guy is your true love and he should leave his wife also. but right now worry about yourself and your future. You can't make someone else happy until you make yourself happy.
2006-12-15 13:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Spinning Times LLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you may not think of yourself as a "Home-wrecker", that is exactly what you have become! I am in NO way judging you, I am just stating the truth. You wouldn't like it if your husband (lets say you loved him) was seeing and being intimate with another woman while still being with you, would you? That is exactly what you are doing to your friends wife, not very fare is it? I know what you are thinking, that there is nothing wrong with what you are doing since your friend isn't happy in his marriage either, correct?! As long as you are in your friends picture, and your friend is in your picture neither one is going to put 100% effort into your own marriages. Hence that is why you are a "Home-wrecker". Think things through, how long are you willing to be this persons play thing? What are you going to get out of this type of relationship? If you are scared of being alone, isn't that what you will wind up being at the end, since you said you didn't want him to leave his wife? Good Luck with your decision, I hope the best for you!
2006-12-15 21:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the guy you're cheating with is no better than your husband. Imagine being in her shoes....but wait a minute, you already have..your husband did the same thing to you. The couple doesn't have to have kids to be considered a homewrecker.
2006-12-15 21:30:24 · answer #3 · answered by mspriss4002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lonely and someone is giving you attention...you really need to stop and think if your actions ae really helping you. I was in your exact position and trust me...you are being a homewrecker. If you truly cared about his person, you would advise him to get counseling and leave him alone.
If your marriage is bad, leave it and find a way to make things work...don't take the easy way out.
2006-12-15 21:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking of how she'd feel. You might be attracted to him, and he might be attracted to you, but his wife would probably think of you as the "other woman." It might not seem so bad, but if it ever happened to you in a happy relationship, how would you feel then? I'm not trying to pull a guilt-trip or anything, I've just seen too many friends be heartbroken over the "other woman" that their boyfriends fell in love with.
I hope that you straighten everything out, you really are in a tough position.
2006-12-15 21:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Drop of Golden Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that if you admit that you would lie to her then you know what you are doing is wrong and you should stop. He doesn't love you and honestly I don't think he loves her either you should remove yourself from both situations and find someone that treats you like a queen.
2006-12-15 21:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
karma karma karma, i think the wife of the man you had sex with would think you are a homewrecker, even if it was just a booty call it ruins lifes trust and familys you are filling your bad karma suitcase
2006-12-15 21:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by glitsyjewels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not a home wrecker he is you clearly know that your relationship is over he on the other hand is meking sure that when she doesnt want to have sex he can allways crawl in your bed your his mistress i despise bothe of you
2006-12-15 21:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by peanuts2804 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW THE SITUATION I,M IN IS NOT A GOOD ONE.
AND I FEEL LIKE THIS IS NOT SO BAD.
PURSUE A CAREER,STOP WAITING .
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT A HOMEWRECKER.
THINK ABOUT IT ,THEN SMILE.
2006-12-15 21:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by james s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a good person for not wanting him to brake up with her but if you like him go for it like i always say if you want it you can get it
2006-12-15 21:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kimille N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋