how do I tell my friend that I hate that she brings her boyfriend along?

Question

OK my best friend is a really nice girl. But everytime I ask tell her we should go out and do something she wants to bring her boyfriend along.
Like today, I told her we should have a small dinner to celebrate Christmas, and she's taking her boyfriend.
It was supposed to be a friends's thing. My sister was coming along, but she's not going.

I hate being a third whell. Also her boyfriend is 35 and both of us are 23.
What do I do? How do I tell her to stop doing that without hurting her feelings?

Answer 1

Your going to have just pull her aside and tell her how you feal! And if she really values your friendship then she'll understand that you miss the time that you guys used to spend together! But if she just ignores you and thinks that her bf is more important then what type of friend is she? You need to let her know that she doesn't need to loose her head over some guy! That was what happens in high school! It's time to grow up! If just telling her doesn't work then try and tuff it out! MAybe she'll come to her sences! If not, find someone else to hang out with! Best of Luck!

Answer 2

Looks like you get to sit this one out on the couch, because you don't really want to deal with that guy. Sorry 'bout that. If the host asks why, say you'd love to but you can't. That's it. If the guy's girlfriend ask, be blunt and tell her you hate getting hit on by a friend's constantly drunk longtime boyfriend. If she dislikes the news, just leave it alone because she's blind apparently.

Answer 3

Christmas meals/parties are sort of a traditional thing that I would think you'd normally bring your beau.
But - I understand the frustration.
I don't think I'd discuss it before this upcoming dinner, but for future dates just tell her that sometimes you'd like to get together "just girls" like it was BH (Before Him) that you miss her and would like some time with her.
It is appropriate for her to want him to be there sometimes and for certain types of occasions, it is also appropriate for the two of you to continue to have "girls" time. She has chosen both of you to be in her life so hopefully you'll both adjust.
As a single person I am often a third, fifth, or seventh wheel. I try to keep the perspective that my friends are trying to share their lives with me, and the people they choose as companions are part of thier lives.

Answer 4

You would not hurt my feelings if you told me that you would just like to be with me alone once in awhile. Just tell her that you don't feel right when she brings her boyfriend. You feel uncomfortable talking about certain subjects when he is there. That you just want girl talk. If she is a nice person and good friend, she will understand. I would.

Answer 5

Just tell her you would prefer to spend some time just with her. You didn't invite her boyfriend, only her. Just tell her! Just say, "Why don't JUST ME AND YOU go out to dinner. If you don't say anything, how will she ever know how you feel about it?

Answer 6

just tell her you want to have a girls night out and then tell her how much fun you had and that you should do it more often just the 2 of you

Answer 7

Tell her that you'd like to spend some "girl time" with her.

Answer 8

Just say " I hope you don't get mad, but I like it better when it's just the two of us. It's not that I don't like him, but sometimes I want just you and me to go out."

Answer 9

Hey girlfreind, I sure miss the just us girls times with you. When can we do the girls time out?

Answer 10

Just be honest with her and tell her exactly how you feel. If she is truelly your friend, then she will understand.