I have read so many people complaining about married couples cheating on there spouses and none of them have an answer why has it happened? So quick to pass judgement that you don't want to see the real picture of the whole situation, there are married couples who have been together for years and things have turned sour, one don't get sex, the other women is tripping over his personal realationships with his buddies, what is going on here?
Is there any understanding left in this world to why people have gone to cheating on there spouses? And tell me what is so bad about it when you only want to be happy? Please anyone who can give me a good honest and sound reason will get these 10 points, and please no lectures or downing anybody and no judgemental people please I think I have had enough of the judgemental people in this world when you probably would do the same too!
2006-12-15 12:15:19 · 13 answers · asked by beagirl40 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also some of these people have been married some 10 to 18 years and still have problems what is wrong with them wanting to find some peace please answer this one and remember what I said 10 points for the decent and reasonable answer with no jugdemental people or downing of anybody this is an open question for anyone to answer freely. Thank you!
2006-12-15 12:17:49 · update #1
One other thing it is easier to play around then to have to divorce pay court cost and child support at the same time, I know you men hear me loud and clear!
2006-12-15 12:32:08 · update #2
I remember my aunt said to me that it is odd and unatural for couples to be married and stay together for the rest of their lives! so now I taste the feeling though I am in a good marriage. I don't know...it takes 2 to form a relationship and things are not that straitghtforward. Life is not perfect...the only thing prevents me from doing it is i don't wanna hurt people. and I know what goes around comes around....be happy for yourself but maybe the major pain for others....we wanna be considerate for others ...that's all!
2006-12-15 12:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is the big deal about married couples not cheating on each other??? From everything I've seen that you wrote you need to seek Psychiatric help, seriously. YOU have a serious problems. Call your local Community Mental Health Center & get you an appointment & go to it & tell the counselor everything you wrote on here so they can help you get the help you so desperately need.
2016-05-22 22:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no excuse for cheating under any circumstances. If people are unhappy in their marriage for whatever reason, l honestly believe they should leave before resorting to cheating on their partner. It is one of the most traumatic, hurtful things you can do to the person you are supposed to love and care for. There are a lot of reasons l guess, such as :not happy with partner, no sex, love but not in love, needed more excitement, thought other partner was cheating ( pay back ) just happened never meant it to go that far, or in my case ( husband cheated ) was confused, didn't think l loved him and just made a terrible mistake. I guess there are a lot of reasons, but the way l see it they are not reasons, only excuses. I could not and never would cheat as l know how it feels and what it does to your whole family, not just the husband and wife. Hope this has helped to answer your question.
2006-12-15 12:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if a person is not Happy, and they have tried everything to make the marriage work, than what is wrong with getting a divorce, and moving on before they cheat on their spouse. as there is always 2 sides to every story, never just one spouse to blame for the problems. things turn sour because were in it for just what will serve us, what we can get from it, the minute we see we aren't getting what we want, someone decides to cheat, and there is always someone left with a broken heart. so why can't people get a divorce for the reason that they are unhappy, instead because they found someone else they like better?
2006-12-15 12:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be happy. That's the right of every human being on this earth. BUT....NOT at another person expense. When a person is in a committed relationship, there are too many things and feelings to take into consideration besides their own happiness. That's selfishness. At least the person can be honest FIRST, then move on to happiness, w/o destroying lives along the way.
2006-12-15 12:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who is trying to have a real relationship wouldn't even consider having an affair because it's taking the most intimate part of you and giving it to someone who hasn't committed to you (and yes, I'm talking about guys too). Now, if you're just playing house, it may seem like innocent fun and nobody gets hurt, but what happens when one of you gets tired of playing the game, or one starts to fall for the other. Now you wake up in a wierd situation and don't know how to get out of it. Or, if a baby is concieved because of your "fun", what happens to the child? Contrary to popular opinion, kids need a mother and a father, because one provides support and knowledge that the other one can't.
Besides, I really wouldn't want to have sex with someone that has been sleeping around with God knows who, that's just nasty.
2006-12-15 12:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by Reality check 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Anytime a person has more than ONE relationship at a time, somebody is going to get badly hurt.
The worst thing about cheating is that trust gets broken, and almost never mends. You trust someone to be faithful out of love---if they break it, they do NOT love you. Period, end of story, pain & divorce will ensue.
And the ONLY thing to do when you no longer love somebody is to tell them, and make a clean break. A clean cut heals MUCH faster than a ragged tear does!!
2006-12-15 12:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's no justification for cheating on a spouse. IIt's just not ok. If a person is not happy, he/she should LEAVE rather than committing adultory. If they haven't solved their problems over the years then they may need to split, but again, that is still no justification. btw, I don't care about the 10 points...
2006-12-15 12:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage vows are to be taken seriously right,
then why would one cheat on another because
they have a problem with one , all they need to
do is discuss it and try to work it out. The prob-
lem today's marriage is people want to take the
easy way out when there are problems instead
of confronting one another and resloving their
differences. I am married for 20yrs and count-
ing and would never cheat on my wife as when
we have our differences we talk about it and
we always resolve our problems togeather. So
cheating is not the answer. As for you asking
what is so bad about it, simple YOU'RE
MARRIED!!!!!!!
2006-12-15 13:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We all like a little adventure, now, don't we. Some can afford to pay for a trip into space, Others have to rely on something more basic (read cheap). What are you doing tonight?
2006-12-15 12:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Willem V 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋