I know I should care, its not my business, but I feel for the person he is with and they could be negative.
I know its up to both of them to practice safe sex and each his own responsiblility. But I feel that a person should be honest and upfront about such things because maybe the other person doesn´t want to have a HIV pos partner and is investing time and energy in one with out even knowing. So I keep telling him that he need to bring it up. But he just gets upset and is afraid to tell them his status and will wait until they ask. Is this right?
2006-12-15 12:10:21 · 17 answers · asked by lor3d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have had sex already, so I hear, I believe it was safe sex.
2006-12-16 07:52:55 · update #1
Would it matter if the person my ex is dating is HIV positive as well. I mean they can both be positive but both afraid to say anything. IS THIS RIGHT?
2006-12-16 07:55:07 · update #2
no it is wrong to represent oneself as one way and really be another way, it is dishonest, but most people don't relly care about others, as they are just selfish and inconsiderate, they can only see that their needs are met, and to hell with anyone else. he won't tell the truth as he doesn't want this person to leave him, not much u can do about it, u can't change the way a person thinks. no one would want to get hiv, as it is usually a death sentence, but again unless u want to be the bad guy and tell the other person there isn't much u can do.
2006-12-15 23:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right at all. He could end up physically ruining some innocent woman's life because she won't know any better. The next time talk to him and ask him how he felt the first time he found out that he was HIV positive. And then ask him if he'd want to put a woman in that same exact position. It's understandable to be afraid of rejection after telling someone something like that, but it's not ok to hide it from the world and infect others, either.
2006-12-15 13:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Finally FREE!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In no way, is he right! He has no right to jeopardize another person's health and well-being. He needs to be up-front with this in any situation. It is absolutely not fair to the other person to be shady. It might be the end to the relationship, but it will really be the end if the one he's with finds out that he has been dishonest all along. Some people think that it's only dishonest if you tell an outright lie...I think withholding information is just as bad. If something happens to this other person, and you could have prevented it, you will feel so guilty. Please don't wait to act on this. Someones life could depend on it!
2006-12-15 12:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why he is so hesitant - that is such a difficult thing to share. And if things aren't serious yet, there isn't much harm. However, the moment they start to get close, he should fess up. He can't expect every person to ask him up front if he is HIV positive. It is his responsibility to tell them before they become intimate.
2006-12-15 12:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by KM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would not he be disenchanted with this liar for infecting him? Please do not sleep with him. i'd only go ahead and report for divorce for the reason that he gained't communicate to you. it really is a terrible cut up yet do not do this to your self. there'll under no circumstances be a remedy, the authorities enjoys kicking back, relaxing at the same time as piles of money stack up from human beings having to pay for HIV meds.
2016-10-18 08:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by wishon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to your own question if you didn't you wouldn't be asking. Of course it's wrong for him not to tell. How would you feel if you were in that other person's shoes? And you should care, if you're a normal human being with any feelings you would intervene.
2006-12-15 12:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isnt right. But most people in the world just don't care, not that they just don't know. Think about it, if he told her there would be a high chance that he/she would not get sex.
I don't advocate it, but to say it doesn't happen (most of the time), would be a huge lie. Even testing has its faults, people LIE about results, and cheat on each other.
2006-12-15 12:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it wrong but it is also against the law.
If he can't handle not telling people about him being diseased, he should have been more careful in the first place.
2006-12-15 12:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not you need to tell her because how would you feel if in a week she told you that because you didn't say something she is going to die of aids one day. would you want to **** someone who is HIV positive? i don't think so. tell him if he don't tell her you will. give him that chance but not for long.
2006-12-15 15:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by sexy mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wrong beyond all reason, that could really crush a person, for his/her safety go now and tell him/her. you would be saving someone a whole lotta grief, also you would want someone to tell you if they knew your partner was holding out on information like that
2006-12-15 13:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by capt'n mewmew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋