I grew up without a father for some time and I think my emotions havn't matured properly,,, I cry all the time and I don't know how to act some times - I try hard but I see that there is something missing with me once my 'dad' left.
When he was there I was doing well at school and making friends ect. life was good.
now I think I have forgotten how to make friends properly
I destroy relationships - only because I need some "help"
and I don't pass anything................ even though I try REALLY hard.
I have tried really hard getting a job - and given up because I think people don't like me or something
what sort of things would make my emotions mature?
2006-12-15 11:39:15 · 8 answers · asked by louise c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm so sorry that the absence of a father affected you in this understandable way. Although I don't know you, I'm going to try to make up for that with younger people that I come in contact with.
At least you are aware of your part in bringing relationships to a premature end! That's a lot! Lower your goals, and raise your motivation if you can. I really recommend seeing a psychologist- I'm one, and I know you are the type that would benefit.
2006-12-15 11:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it sounds like when you father left, you blamed yourself for it and now you are afraid to get close to anyone for fear that they will leave you too. So you just withdraw into yourself and if you find yourself getting close you do something to sabotage it. Go to your nearest Health dept. and see about talking to a counselor. They can really give you some insight into how to rectify your situation. You are growing up, because you recognize that you have a problem and are asking for help. If you don't have a Health dept. nearby, go the nearest hospital and they can direct to a counseling center. There are lots of people who feel the same way you do, so don't feel alone. Your father leaving was NOT YOUR FAULT!!! He was a coward and couldn't handle being a father, I assume. He will regret this someday and I hope he will contact you and find out what a wonderful human being you have become and see what he missed. Good Luck & Merry Christmas!
2006-12-15 11:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by Bren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you're doing is driving people away because you don't think you deserve to be happy. Do you somehow blame yourself for your father leaving? Maybe you're destroying relationships because you don't want to take the chance of getting hurt. As for the jobs, maybe you have low self-esteem and it's showing.
Self-confidence makes your emotions stronger and more mature, but in order to get that, perhaps seeking a counselor will help. Please don't give up. You will find the answer.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-15 11:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
u just need to have more confident and would ur dad be proud of u if u just keep trying just think that ur dad is counting on u and i grew up with a father and lost him at 7 i have had the same kind of pressure and u feel like ur about to melt with a part of life taken away from me and keep trying.
2006-12-15 11:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by craig olson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by reading self help books, and trying to figure yourself out.
knowledge is power.
2006-12-15 12:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's experiences , as you get older
2006-12-15 11:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to relay on somebody u trust him , tell him and ask him how to act .
2006-12-15 11:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ravioli man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By watering himself every day, just like plants do. :)
2006-12-15 11:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋