My sister had met other people from the internet too. Like, from neopets. Lol. Anyway, she met this guy from that, and she has talked to him online for a couple of years. I know that they type 'wrong' things to each other. They are internet boyfriend-girlfriend. I told my mom that she had met people, and my mom told her not to do it anymore. She cried. I'm still skeptical though. Should I have told my mom? How can I prevent her from doing it again with this guy? I don't want her to get hurt!
She is 20 but still hasn't really grown up and moved out (she's in college right now though) so she might as well be a teenager. I am 14.
2006-12-15 11:39:12 · 15 answers · asked by Grace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My parent's definitely DO NOT want her meeting anyone over the internet, if she's an adult or not. They are very overprotective. I think she might be meeting him in Chicago when she changes flights to here in a few days. I'm not absolutely sure though.
2006-12-15 11:55:38 · update #1
Tell your mom again but try and find out more information like how old the guy is and if he is significantly older tell a responsible adult (i know its corny but its the only way!) like a parents, an older sibling, aunt, uncle, guidance counsleour at school or a policeman/woman, they're all there to help you and your sister. Don't feel bad, it's better safe than sorry, your sister will thank you in the end. but also don't jump to conclusions,make sure you have ALL THE FACTS before you tell anyone. You can of course voice your worries but i wouldn't do anything drastic until i know what the real deal is.
Good luck and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-15 11:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she likes it so much, you guys should support her. I met my husband online in a St. Louis chat room and we've been married for 5 years. I don't recommend that she goes and meet the guy alone, she should take a group of friends or something and make it a group date and find out about the guy in person first. If he's a decent guy then it's worth it, if he's a creep, then at least she is safe when surrounded by friends. Not everyone online is a pervert, try to support her and suggest that she meet as a group the first few times.
2006-12-15 11:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by STLchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know this man aside from talking to him on the internet, how does she know he's not a sex predator? There's been many cases of that. If she wants to keep talking to him online, that's fine, but try to prevent the actual meet from happening. However, if she still wants to meet with him, and your parents are okay with it, insist upon accompanying her or having your parents do so. Better to be safe than sorry. Even 20-year-olds can be preyed upon. Look what happened to that college girl in Bermuda. She's gone now. I know it wan't an online thing, but still...
2006-12-15 11:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dixie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't prevent your sister from going, but maybe you can talk with her about what safety measures she should be taking like 1. she should meet them in a public place and 2. she should bring along a friend(safety in numbers). If she follows these two rules then there shouldn't be any problems. Maybe you can find someone to talk with her about the risks of meeting people from the internet, like your mom or someone your sister trusts and respects. Good luck.
2006-12-15 11:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 20?? Whether she has grown up or not, she is an adult and as such is entitled to make her own mistakes and hopefully learn from them.
Let her know how you feel and share your concerns. If she still chooses to go ahead with her internet romance, that's her business. Unless your sister is mentally handicapped in the clinical sense (and not common sense), then it is not the responsibility of you or your mother to run her life.
By the way, she is very lucky to have you for such a caring sister! I hope she realizes that.
2006-12-15 11:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk sense into her and if this fails, get your parents' help. Many ugly things are known to have happened in such meetings. True that she is 20 and she can do what she wants, but it is a family's obligation to point out mistakes that are about to occur.
2006-12-15 11:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is good that you told your mother because something bad could of happen to her. The only advice I can give you with telling your sister not to meet him is to go on line and check the guy if you know his real name.
2006-12-15 11:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good to take care for ur sister. I think u have made the right thing telling ur parents. If she is determinated to do it. Tell everything to ur mom again so ur parent can take care of her. Doesnt mater how old she is family should always take care.
2006-12-15 11:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom eager to hate her ex more effective than she loves you - she will do something to keep you from assembly him. its noted as parental alienation - do no longer proceed to allow her to regulate you you for sure are the right age to make your own judgements - in case you seek for him out and he seems bizarre - let it go - if no longer, type a bond will a guy - if having NO contact for 18 years - going to kill your mom? HA - what a comic book tale she is manipulating you and also you may imagine for your self -do so
2016-11-26 21:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by hazelbush 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't all you can do is tell her that you care about her and that you want her to be careful and whatever happens you're there and love her. ultimately she is going to make her own decision and she needs to learn on her own from her mistakes, it's her life and i know it hurts that u can't change what she is doing but it's her life not yours some people just need to learn on their own.
i hope your sister stays safe though
2006-12-15 11:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋