ok when i was about 6 years old my mom and dad broke up and i was to young to understand the concept that they might not be together 4 eva and i kind a noticed something was going wrong when i didnt see my dad for a while now im 13 and live with my mom but still no dad so now my mom has a new boyfriend who i dont really get along with well i choose to not get along with but yeah when ever i see my dad i start to cry because i wish that he was around for everything but he cant be around and now i understand and my mom said that her and herboyfriend are going to get married good 4 her but not 4 me cuz then im going to have to move to somewhere far with my mom and her boyfriend but im almost 15 and for my 15 b-day i wanna have a huge party a 15 party and if i do have my 15 party i have to dance with both parents mo and dad but my mom said that if i do have my party that im going to have to dance with her boyfriend and i said no!she said y i said because hes not my dad we got into a fight
2006-12-15 11:31:50 · 13 answers · asked by BAByGURL... 06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to accept their decision, altho it is hard.
2006-12-15 11:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know its hard, but you have to under stand just because your mum and dad are not together anymore it doesn't mean they don't love you any less. you are their daughter and no one will ever love you as much as they do. I'm sure they had a good reason to split up in the first place maybe you could talk to your mum find out why. Sometimes it can be a good thing when parents break up as if they were still together and not happy with each other they would have been arguing all the time and then you wild have been stuck in the middle but now you have two happy parents who love you very much but they are just not together any more. Try and get along with your mums new boyfriend i know its hard, he will never take ur dads place, but if you try you might find you actually like him as a person. And talk to you mum if u can about how you feel m,maybe she can help you if she understands how you are feeling.
2006-12-15 11:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy, but you have to understand that sometimes people don't get along or fall out of love for each other which might be your parents case. When you care for someone, if things don't work out, the best is to move on with your life and be happy even if it means with someone else. Sounds like your mom is happy with her new man, and you should respect her feelings and try to get along enough so that everyone is happy.
If you have your 15th birthday party there is NO reason why your father can't be there. Remember that no matter what happens between your parents, your dad will always be your dad, even if you guys don't live together.
Good luck
2006-12-15 11:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely a bit of a bind you're in. You know that your parents aren't going to get back together, people have to move on with their lives. However, you are going to be 15 and if your mom's boyfriend bothers you that much then see if you can live with your dad for a while. I'm sure you want your mom to be happy, but you obviously have to make sure that you're in a comfortable and safe environment.
Ask yourself why you don't like your mom's boyfriend. Are they perfectly legitimate reasons (i.e. he's mean or rude to you) or are they just surface reasons not to like him (i.e. his hair is stupid and he smells funny)? I suggest that you ask your mom if she wouldn't mind doing something with you (go to the mall, play cards, etc) and talk to her about it then. That way, the conversation doesn't feel so stressful. Just be honest, but also be respectful because she likes the guy. Just remember not to be combative and keep a cool tone (mom's think you have a "tone" even if you don't). You're going to be an adult in 3 short years and that's how you have to handle things. You can't hope that your mom can read your mind...you have to share your thoughts with her.
I know you can do it and good luck, I'm pullin' for ya!
(btw, happy-soon-to-be birthday!)
2006-12-15 11:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't matter how old you are--still hurts when your parents break up. I was 19 and married when my parents got divorced.
still bothered like crazy.
weather the guy is your Dad or not I don't think your Mom should make you dance with anyone that makes you feel uncomfortable, for whatever the reason. Tell her you need time to get used to the idea of her getting married again, and to please not try to push you into anything.
Your parents are divorced yes. but if they are happier this way than that's a good thing.
2006-12-15 11:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, their breakup was not caused by you. It's about them. Unfortunately, and naturally you're going to be hurt by their split. They both love you and you love them. But, obviously you can no longer love them as a couple. Like any loss, it will take time to heal your feelings.
As for your mother and her boyfriend, the mature thing for you to do is to be polite to him. You don't have to be friendly. Show him the same consideration you would show any female friend of your mother's.
I cannot believe you and your mother got into a scrape because she told you that you have to dance with her boyfriend. That is absurd. She has no right to be telling you who you must dance with. She's showing a lack of consideration for you. Yes, in a perfect world, you could dance with him and everything would be peachy keen. But, it's common knowledge that you and the boyfriend do not get along, so why pretend?
Tell your mother that you'll be mature by being not being rude to her boyfriend and she can be mature by not imposing a false friendship on you by forcing you to dance with her boyfriend.
I'm probably the same age as your mother, so show her this message.
2006-12-15 11:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not understand... i'd probable be compelled to stay with my mom because my dad would not sense like he became in fantastic condition to safeguard me. or only because it became more desirable ideal right here. yet i'd really stay with my mom. even with the truth that it must be demanding to inform her that because i do not opt to harm her emotions in a way. even even with the truth that she's fairly propose...
2016-10-18 08:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by wishon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand u dear u r missing ur dad so much ....u deserve mom n dad together .....try to call ur dad ...meet him tell him that u want him back he will definately think about it. do some thing 2 stop ur mom's marriage ....tell her that u want 2 be wd mom n dad together....u want ur dad back...may god bless u dear...
2006-12-15 11:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by jagrati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to with with it and your mom cant be alone all of her life so try to get along with him and you may find that he is ok your mom has to have a life to so work it out it will help your mom alot
2006-12-15 11:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by sex is good thing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont feel bad i had a simlar expierence but u just got to get over it he prob wasnt a good man i dont no u do ask the good lord for help & listen 2 wat he has to say i return that might answer ur ?
2006-12-15 11:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by snake eater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur mom u want ur dad to be there and if she says no find him and invite him ur self if its what u reallly want
2006-12-15 11:38:47 · answer #11 · answered by AshiLoo(= 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋