2006-12-15 11:29:47 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a clean break will be easier for everyone. If you love the child? then continue to show it outside of your bad relationship with his/her Mother....
most men collapse, I hope that you dont :-)
2006-12-15 11:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by ~Mustaffa~Laff~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That might result in undue stress on the child. If the man is with a woman he cannot get along with; he might argue constantly in front of the child or even build resentment towards his family for keeping him in a situation he is not happy with. He does not need to stay with the mother to love the child. He needs to make sure to live close enough to the child's house so that the two of them can see each other everyday. Stay involved, but he should be careful not to put his family (Because if he stays with her or not; she's family) through something that might hurt later.
If she is not mature enough to understand this, he needs to be.
2006-12-15 11:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by CrystalEyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!! Children are very perseptive and can sense when there are ill feelings between parents. The child would be better off if you divorced and shared custody. This way the child won't be in the middle of your hate fest with your wife. Just make sure your child understands that whatever decision you make, it is not his/her fault. That, for whatever reason you two divorce, it is between you and your wife and has no bearing on how much you and her mother love him/her. Children too often feel like its their fault when parents separate or divorce. But the worst thing you can do is to stay in this relationship with the feelings you have for this childs mother. Good Luck & Merry Christmas!!
2006-12-15 11:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you truly hate this woman, you're not doing the child any favors by staying. You can leave the woman without abandoning the child. Just make sure you do right and be sure you take care of your responsibilities. And be sure you understand that once you leave, you have no say in her life anymore.
2006-12-15 11:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No,because it's not fair on the child.Even though you think you are keeping the peace,a child picks up on the atmosphere and they don't know what to make of it,so they mis-behave.
You're better off being away from that person,although it's very difficult to leave a child behind,as they have no say in the matter.
2006-12-15 12:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by nicky dakiamadnat600bugmunchsqig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Even if you do, your child will grow up in a very uncomfortable environment and what will happen when your kid turns 18 and leaves home? You need to be true to yourself and there are so many legal procedures of getting access to seeing your child that you can look into. Don't make yourself or your child unhappy. Best of luck.
2006-12-15 11:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by North London Lady! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's an eternally difficult question.
You have to do what you feel is right. But think if your child asked you that question what would you say? "No stay in that abusive relationship" or "make do". Perhaps you might say go for it achieve your dreams and all that we wanted for you.
You are a role model for your children. If you stay in a situation that is less than perfect thing what messages you give to your kids.
2006-12-15 11:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by MsCurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is the child yours???? or so you mean you fancy her teen.daughter who is not your biological daughter and do a woody allan????? BNot trying to be ignorant here jsut tryin to give you an answer from all possible variables. anyway up to you - you could be a stay at home dad and see works?? but if you hate her - leave, providing you havent been abusvie you can apply for custody/get access, remeber in the court/klaw system it is the child right to see the parents - not the other way around
2006-12-18 12:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The goverment at the moment are going on about broken home children and the effects on them ,but at the same time tell us they support abused wives/husbands and give them shelter.So we cant win.We leave we have bad kids and if we stay we have bad kids.If your not happy leave,after all we do have a choice in our lives also.We just hope for the best and if its not good enough well we have tried.Just do your best and stay close by .Have a happy life and your child will still love you ,trust me .
2006-12-15 11:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. alot of people think 'staying for the kids' is the answer but it isnt. kids are really smart and can pick up on things. a bad relationship is a negative one. and a kid living in a house with his parents who arent getting along, will be bad in the future. its best you dont stay with this woman you cant stand. you will be able to see the child, it wont be as often, or easy, but think about the kid since you obviously love them enough to even consider whats best for them.
2006-12-15 11:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
been there done that it will eventually make things far worse break away so u can be happy stay close to family home, if like mine they are old enough give the kids a key to your new place give them a room so they can stay when they want but never pressure them to do so, I had a very difficult time with my kids at first when I split but I just kept making sure they new I loved them and now they have come back to me under their own steam as it were, u have to have a life as well good luck
2006-12-16 11:34:33 · answer #11 · answered by grahamralph2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋