I'm Going To Have A Baby At The Age of 16!?

Question

I'm only 16 years old and I'm about to have a baby.
It's due in 5 weeks!
My mom still does not know and she'll be soooo mad at me if I tell her NOW!!!
What should I do?
Should I keep the baby or get rid of it?

Answer 1

its too late to get rid of it, tell your mum, shell be shocked at first but shell get over it, youll need her support

Answer 2

OK, if this is a serious question and you are really due in 5 weeks, there is no way to "get rid of it". A termination has been out of the question for months. Your choices at this point are

1) Keep the baby and raise him or her.
2) Give the baby up for adoption.

I assume if you know when you're due that you've been accessing some sort of antenatal care. Talk to your midwife NOW if there's a chance you might want the baby adopted, and she can contact Social Services so that a social worker can come and talk to you about it and what it involves. You don't have to commit yourself, just get information.

If you are in this situation and your mother doesn't know, Social Services' help might be just what *you* need to - you're in a vulnerable position. If you keep the baby, where are you going to live? How are you going to support yourself? These are the kinds of issues that a social worker may be able to help you with.

This problem is not going to go away, in fact somewhere between 3 and 7 weeks from now it's going to be extremely obvious. If you've somehow managed to conceal the pregnancy from your mother, understandably she's going to be upset about that as well as about the situation you're in.

Do yourself a favour and ask for professional help. You should have a named community midwife, if you don't know who that is for some reason, call the maternity unit (the number will be on your records) or your doctor's surgery and ASK.

Answer 3

How does your mom not know you are pregnant? Do you hid your stomach or something? Well I think you should keep your baby,but if you dont have a boyfriend or if your boyfriend doesnt know or want this baby then its going to be tough on you. Maybe then you should give it up for adoption that way it will go with a loving family who can raise it and give it a great home. But you should tell your mom, I was pregnant 3 weeks ago but when I told my mom she forced me to get an abortion because I myself am only 16 years old, but I really wanted my baby but I couldnt cuz my mom but you should tell your mom she'll love you know matter what and its never to late to tell her because she will find out evenually when the hosptial bill comes...and the real question here is do you want this baby? because it sounds like you dont...

Answer 4

Well you want be the first person to have a baby at 16 but I will say that you should have told you mother so she can be there for you. And when you do get ready to have this baby don't you think she will know you did come home for a few days? My advice to you is to tell her and keep you child and make this a lesson learned(please). Don't give up this easy just think of all the love you will be missing out on if you give your baby away. Good Luck

Answer 5

You're having a baby in 5 weeks and your mom hasn't noticed you're pregnant?! Haven't you grown a big belly?

You have to tell your mom and tell her now, she'll be mad and shocked and it won't be easy but if you don't tell her know it's gonna be so much worse when you have the baby and that's how she finds out.

You need to talk to a professional about your options, a crisis pregnancy hotline will listen and give you information. You can't about the baby at this late stage, so you can either keep it or give it up for adoption. The decision is completely up to you, don't let anyone make it for you. But if you decide to keep the baby you have to be able to provide for it.

Answer 6

first of all if you have 5 weeks to got you cant get rid

i was a farther at a verry young age
i know what your going through and belive me no matter how much of pain you thing your parents are they will lookafter you if you tell them.
Yes they will be very disapointed and upset but it wont take long before she is collecting stuff for you and helping you.

keep the child
i love my daughter and i look at her all the time and think im so glad i made the right choice.

ask your self the question could you live with your self if you gave your child up for odoption
are you the type of person that would thow it to the back of there mind and forget.
or would you be saying to your self every year
i wonder what she or he is doing? he would be 3 now and so on?

Answer 7

So your mum will be mad...she'll get ova it!

The only way you can get rid of your baby now would be to put the little one up 4 adoption-are you honestly mentally strong enough to do that...i couldnt!

My niece had a little boy on Sept 2nd this year, she was only 16 herself in June, she had been with her sons dad since she was about 13 but they split up just b4she found out she was pregnant...Its not the end of the world now days, shes going to college after Xmas, between her Mum, Nan and me, we are going to look after the baby while she does the 4 year course she always wanted to do so just blurt it out to your Mum-she might scream, shout, get upset but what else can she honestly do?!

If you really didnt want the baby then you probably would have terminated the pregnancy months ago?

What eva you decide to do, just remember its up 2 no one but you. You have to live with whateva u decide to do for the rest of your life so think carefully 1st.

DONT LET ANYONE PRESSURE YOU IN2 ANYTHING.

If you need to chat or if theres anything i can do, email or IM me, plz?!
Good Luck...xx

Answer 8

I think you need to tell your mother that you are pregnant. Having a baby needs to be supervised by professionals, not to mention your baby should have gotten prenatal care months ago. You need to be examined by a doctor immediately.

You need to tell your mother you are pregnant, so that she can help you to make the right choice. I don't think she'll be upset at this point, maybe surprised. But she knows the risks involved in having children. I think she'll be hurt if you don't tell her you're pregnant. I would suggest that you keep your baby, that's why you need your mother's support to help you with the baby. Babies are a lot of responsiblity, but it can be done.

PS Some people obviously does not know it's possible to carry a baby and not even look like you're pregnant. So it's not wise to assume that your belly is humongous.

Answer 9

You really need to let your mother know that she is about to be a grandmother. You should really be asking her for her advice. My daughters natural mother had her at a very young age, and I adopted her.

Your mum may be more angry for you not telling her about the pregnancy then she would about the pregnancy itself. The anger will subside, but she could have been with you to the scans and everything.

When you have the baby, she is going to know anyway that she is a grandmother. I would tell her, let her get the anger out, then ask for her help. She may surprise you and be very supportive.

I had several friends fall pregnant at sixteen, and my first husband's mother was 14 when she gave birth to him. That was a different time, and she was married at 14.

Again, tell your mother, you should have told her in the first instance. She is your mother, and surely she is entitled to go a bit ballistic, then again keeping something like this from her is going to make her even more unhappy.

Just apologise to her for not telling her earlier, and try to share it with her. I imagine when she sees her grandbaby, she will be over the moon.

The most important thing is to think about the baby and your going to need your mothers help and guidance. For your baby's sake tell your mother.

Answer 10

You can't get rid of it if it's due in 5 weeks!

Tell your mother as soon as you can. It's better she finds out before you actually have the baby! Yeah she will probably be mad, but there's nothing you can do about that, you have to have this child now.

When your mother calms down, talk to her about what you're going to do, what your plan is. Whether you're going to keep it, give it up for adoption, etc.

Good luck.

Answer 11

hi Hun i was in the same situation i was scared to tell my mum but when i did i was 5 months and she was over the moon i was really surprised i had my 1st child at 16 and my second at 17 i am now 21 and trying for my 3rd i have also lost to but i am so glad i had my 1st at a younger age i no people slate it i used to get doggy looks walking down my street but as long as the baby is well looked after go for it i not saying it going to b easy as it isn't but if you have your mums support your b fine Hun all the best and good luck Hun let us no how u get on