WHY do they leave me?

Question

Theres been so many people who have left in my life
my farther left when i was 6
5 friends have left me in the past 3 years, becuase of fall outs etc
and some of the friends i have now, dont really want much to do with me, they just come when they have no where else to go.
i just dont know what i have? why are people always leaving?

Answer 1

I will tell you cos it used to happen to me

You are alistener a councellor people love you whilst they need you to get better..when they are better they no longer need you and go

You love being needed and love to solve thier problems you make them better..but by doing that for them you are making it easier for them to move on
Its not that they are using you you are just not showing any neediness so they think you are stronger than them and are not needy of them so they dont stick around..

Some say i am an angel...I have learnt that i am a co-dependent,,Look it up..It will make sense.
When you realise you are a co-dependent you will change and things will get better.x

Answer 2

There probably is not one answer for all people that have left you, and will leave you in the future.
One can start doing an honest self evaluation to check the 'large' things by asking others (current associates) what are the asker's negative qualities, and not 'blowing it/them off' as wrong attributes.

Answer 3

well... it sounds to me like you are very depressed right now and in need of a proper shoulder to cry on. There could be 101 reasons why people walk out of another persons life but as the song says "No one in your life is with you constantly.. and no one is completely on your side" it may be your fault, it may not be.. but if what has happened to you is effecting you this much (that you need to post a question like this) my advice is to seek professional help from a counsellor.. if nothing else they will work with you to resolve any issue you may have with your father walking out when you were little. good luck xxx

Answer 4

It sounds like you've set up a patern in your life. Either you feel automatically that people will leave you so you push them away out of fear or you associate yourself with people that are emotionally unavailable. It probably stems from the abandonment issues you may have gotten because of your fathers absence.

Answer 5

Coun your age by friends, not years. If you survive without them, you are the Champion. A real friend is like a diamond: difficult to find; How about a little dog?

Answer 6

Because you are so special, so extraordinary that you need to develop a self that is not influenced. Some may feel threatened by your ability and ambitions.
All the best will be yours in time.

Answer 7

Its not because of you.

They have just moved on for a number of reasons, problems in their own life, but I am sure they haven't all left because of you.

You need to find something positive in your life to hold on to. You need to forget them, you do not need them anymore either.

Answer 8

You want people to leave you to make your dad leaving you sound understandable.
And people always leave at some point, so enjoy them while you have them.
Sweet Dreams

Answer 9

They didn't tell us , so we have no idea .
Evaluate the fall outs . . . were they cretins and it was good they left or
Were you being more wiggy than they could deal with ?
Only you know the circumstances, only you know the answer .

Answer 10

you've got into a pattern of expecting rejection if you dont expect to be rejected you may not be however you may be pushing people away and you have to be commited to a friendship to make it work