is horrible. She only wants my brother at a certain time of the year...like CHRISTMAS, or Her BIRTHDAY, or PROM...all she ever does is take. And she never gets him anything. He got in trouble by the law with her...because he went hanging out with her and her friends, and their not the greatest of people. They do stuff that he wouldn't usually do...And he acts rude when shes around. He had to do community service because of her and she dumped him and went out with someone else, through the whole time. Once his community service was done she was hanging out with him again. She doesn't support him. And yet he wants to go to the movies with her tonight...whats with him? I'm not trying to run his life...I just don't think he deserves to be treated like dirt. If you have anything to help me with please do!
2006-12-15 10:41:12 · 12 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There really isn't anything you can do. He has to learn that lesson on his own and if you try to tell him he will just get mad at you.
2006-12-15 10:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, obviously there are some psychological issues here.
she is manipulative. she wants to know that there is a guy hanging around her little finger. i'm sure she is the type of girl that wants to know the guy likes her, even if she doesn't like him back. if they ever split up, she will probably monitor him and make him feel guilty if he begins dating again, but will easily date other guys. and if she's not all that crazy about him, and is manipulative as she sounds, she's probably already dated/been with other guys on the side.
your brother is craving this attention from this girl. does he have a good relationship with your mom? with you? what are his issues with women? he is obviously letting her walk all over him. maybe he thinks he can't do better. maybe she has convinced him to do all these things for him because she "loves" him better than any other girl can. he may have low self-esteem. anyone who is confident in themself and believes in their self-worth, would not tolerate a person like this. "you do for yourself what you think you're worth"
there's definitely a power struggle and she is winning, and your brother has fallen into her trap. it's typical. and poor him, he won't even see it if you try to point it out to him
he probably won't get it until she cheats on him or hurts him so bad that he can't go back, and maybe eventually he'll realize that there are so many great women out there who will treat him with respect. he needs to discover that a relationship is a 50/50 friendship between two people, rather than a master and slave relationship.
2006-12-15 18:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, in most cases like these no matter what you do the person with the abusive partner stays in the relationship until they personally come to realize how bad they truely are for them. But that doesn't mean you still can't talk to him about how bad she is treating him. Try sitting down with him and telling him everything you're feeling / have noticed her doing, and you can try to do the same thing with her as well! It may not work, but you can try nevertheless. My deepest sympathies for how this affects you, I know people who have gone through this as well.
2006-12-15 18:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by bassman5031 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything, maybe someday he will wake up and kick her out of his life once and for all. My family absolutly hate my brother's girlfriend and out of spite he married the B$#%#. What your brother's girlfriend does to him, my brother's now wife did the same. Only he didn't get in trouble with the law. If you confront her he will take her side. So you have to stand back and watch him self destruct. Because of her!
2006-12-15 18:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write all your reasons why you love him down.
Write all your reasons why he is a good bro.
Write all your reasons why you care about him.
Write all the reasons why he should deserve to be treated better.
Show them to him.
He seems like the type that likes "bad girls".
Ya, sure, great, but he needs a bad girl who treats him right.
Talk with him, and try to convince him that he is better, and is worth more than what she treats him. Maybe even try letting him meet some new girls?? I dunno....
U sound like a good sister.
Best Wishes! ;-)
2006-12-15 18:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother needs your love and support. It sounds like he suffers from low self esteem and a bad self image. Maybe he needs professional help.
2006-12-15 18:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your brother has self esteem issues. He should be able to spot a bad egg like that.
2006-12-15 18:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by nomad737 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes being treated like dirt, Im afraid there is not much you can do!
2006-12-15 18:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight in her face to stop ****** around with your brother becuase he deserves more than to be with a hoe like you. but before you do this you need to tell your brother how you feel about him dating someone like her. then you need to handle business with her.
2006-12-15 19:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia-brandon15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the girl to stay out of his life.. and try to talk to him..
2006-12-15 18:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Promise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋