2006-12-15 10:26:23 · 19 answers · asked by penny p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ive had experience with domestic violence, not myself but a close family member. She used to say the exact same things, its the way they manipulate your mind. An abuser relies on maintaining power over you. They take power from you, by removeing you from your family enviroment, limiting the friends you have, looking at your messages and listening to phone calls, taking your money. They create a situation where you are totally dependant on them.
He is trying to teach you a lesson, in his mind he is right!! But you are totally undeserving of any abuse, emotional or physical. Take your power back sweet heart. Leave now, before you end up in hospital or dead.
Its not such an uncommon occurance, people are too afraid to talk to others about it. You have made a big step by even asking this question.
If you need help, get a doctors appointment with a doctor who knows you,(he wont think you are up to anything then), and speak with them. They will be more than happy to help you with councelling or will help you get in contact with the police.
Be brave my friend.
Take your power back.
2006-12-15 10:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You nailed it on the pinnacle! some females do no longer know abusive adult males and abusive relationships until that is way into it. many cases, the abuse is insidious; it is, it happens slowly and could become a count number of actuality earlier the feminine even realizes what has got here approximately. additionally females who've grown up in abusive families, grow to be adults and in many cases be responsive to not greater valuable. To be in an abusive relationship is a protection for them - as ordinary as that could sound. so a ways, I see organizations now obtainable to help the feminine after the actuality of being in an abusive relationship. that's in many cases perplexing to get her to go away. yet while she does, she then has an highway and a hand presented to help. yet, i do no longer see any 'coaching' of the thank you to perceive an abuser. possibly, there could be a type for youthful lady coaching shallowness and id. they could then be equipped with the strategies to avert such relationships earlier they start, or in the event that they discover themselves in one, they're going to be stable adequate to go away pronto. The media can play a area in placing place fashions. yet, i think of truthfully coaching of the greater youthful lady/female is the respond. The mothers can help too, yet while they're in an abusive relationship, they're ineffective. i'm going to have an interest to work out what the different solutions are.
2016-12-18 14:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by rothe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im really not trying to be mean but im being real when i say this if u think that he is trying to teach u a lesson when he abusises u then maybe u need some help and get away from him because u r not his personal property he does not own u! u r a grown woman and if anybody needs to teach u a lesson it needs to be urself!
2006-12-15 10:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't mean he loves you, it just means he is a little jerk off. NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE HIT ON. There is not any man in the world worth taking that from. I would get out and leave his sorry butt on the sidewalk.
You will find a man that will treat you like you have never thought possible. Just be patient and get rid of him.
2006-12-15 10:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by confused angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO!! NO!!! Love is NEVER, EVER under ANY circumstances abusive! There is NO excuse for any kind of mistreatment be it emotional, mental, and/or physical!
If you are in an abusive situation, get help and get out, NOW! Especially if there are children involved. It will only get worse and could be fatal. Good luck!
2006-12-15 10:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARe you ******* kidding me. If he beats you it means he wants to control you and he can't love you because he is so ****** up that he has to control you because he cant' control himself. Get out of there. No love is great enough for that kind of pain. The more you let it happen the more it's your fault. IF you can stop it you should. I'm not blaming you but it's hard to justify staying with a man that beats you for more than the first time it happens.
2006-12-15 10:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no it means he is a loser with no self control and anger issues. He needs to take anger management classes and you need to think hard if you want a man that hurts you in your life.
2006-12-15 10:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse in relationships is not to be tolerated under any circumstances. If you are being abused, it needs to end one way or another.
2006-12-15 10:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It means he is abusive. You need to leave right now and don't look back.
2006-12-15 11:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO MAN has the right to touch you in anger, no matter what! Stand up for yourself, go to the police!
2006-12-15 21:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jen Armero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋