help all my husband and I all we do is fight all the time he says I am immature because I feel like?

Question

I do everything with our kids when there is doctors appointments I always have to leave work he does not it is my responsibility don't get me wrong my kids are my world but a little help is nice Am I overreacting? Help

Answer 1

My husband has the liberty to take time off all the time, more so than my job, so he takes our kids to the Dr. all the time.....I have once or twice, but it's harder for me break away from work. That doesn't mean I am a bad mom, or that I don't care about my kids, or that I want him to have all the responsibility. I guess you should ask the reason why he doesn't do those things for your kids, is it his job and he can't leave work, or what? That answer will answer your question. I think you are over reacting a little bit.

Answer 2

Well, are you actually doing everything, or do you just feel like it sometimes? Husbands tend to do lots of work around the house without making a production out of it.

You might have to have a talk (not a fight) with him about how you feel. Preface it by letting him know that you're not attacking him, don't want to fight, just want to understand, but you feel how you feel. Let him help you solve the problem. Husbands like to solve problems.

Or: take charge. The next time there's an appointment, have the doctor's office call him instead of you. If you're sharing the the income responsibilities, share the child-rearing responsibilities, too.

Good luck--

Answer 3

All right here it goes, men are not nurturing like us woman they just do not know what to do or what questions to ask the doctor. O yes there are a few men that can do this, but you are looking at one in a million. I have been married for 26 years and I have three sons not once did he ever go with me or take them to the doctor. You should sit down with him and make a list of how he could help you with the children. Let him pick and chose what he wants to do but you need to stop fighting over this do not be a NAG men hate this. It will just shut them down and you will not get anything out of them. (Dear listen to me how do you attract bees you use HONEY!

Answer 4

Sounds like daddy needs to step up to the plate and be a father. It takes 2 to make a baby, so the children need to have 2 parents....Tell him to start helping or start looking for a place of his own. If he wants a one way streak then give him one....Or your other option is to keep putting up with this and go about things as if it's ok!

Answer 5

I do the same. If the kids get sick is me having to leave work, if it's in the weekend I have to take them to Kaiser and not him, but then again he brings home more money and we get to have more fun~ So it kind of works out better in a way~ We just have to be more understanding.

Answer 6

No, it sounds like you want him to share in the parenting responsiblities. Maybe you just need to find a calmer time to express your feelings on it so he realizes that this is the 21st century and the mom doesn't do it all anymore.

Good luck.

Answer 7

he sounds like a real good dad to me.
when you get all of these answers, print them out and show "the father of the year" the responses.
bet he is "the husband of the year too." bet he goes out of his way to help with the household chores also.
always remember, you get what you give.
and i would think he doesn't have a lot coming!

Answer 8

Tell him he can say and thinks what he wants. But you both know who the responsible parent is and it isn't him. And no matter what, your kids will know who's there to help them and who isn't.

Answer 9

No you aren't overreacting you are tired of doing everything alone. Put your foot damn and get him to help

Answer 10

i know how you feel, my husband is kinda like that with our daughter, he says since shes a girl its only right that i do alot of the stuff with her because he feels weird cause shes a girl. its rough but all in all he is a good father so i deal with it. good luck.