Do you think it's ok that I quit?

Question

I took dance lessons from age 3-10 but then I quit. This year I have rejoined at the same studio at age 14. I don't really fit into a class so I took both a beginners and an intermediate class. The beginner’s class is easy, but it gives me a chance to work on technique and learn things properly. I quit the intermediate class last week but I feel like I should have stayed in it. My family and teacher thought I was doing ok in it but they made me feel as if I HAD to keep attending. I didn’t want to disappoint them. I really didn't like the class though and never looked forward to going. Things went to fast and I couldn't understand my notes to practice. Does that make me a quitter? Why do I feel so bad about quitting if I really didn’t enjoy the class?

I still attend the beginner's class

Answer 1

Is the intermediate class the one that you would be in if you hadn't quit? It sounds like you are just intimidated right now because you're a little behind after taking time off. You are doing the right thing by taking both beginners and intermediate. Once you get your confidence back up and your technique down better, you will probably fit right into the intermediate class. I wouldn't call you a quitter, I would think you had just become frustrated because it was so challenging right now for you.
Can you continue in the beginner's class for a while and pick the intermediate class back up in a few months? Perhaps taking 2 different beginner's classes will speed the process up for you?

Does quitting th intermediate class have other repercussions like not being able to perform in a year-end recital? Maybe that is why your teacher and parents would like you to stick with it?

Sometimes getting back into dance takes some time....your brain has to get back to the place where you remember the steps quickly and are able to put them together and remember them....people don't always stop to think that your brain has to learn to dance as well as your body. Picking up steps quickly is a learned process that takes practice.

Try to decide if sticking with the intermediate class has benefits down the road, like performances or being able to move up with the girls your age, or whatever. Then decide if you can handle hanging in there for the mean time in order to have a better outcome down the road. If that isn't the case, stick with the beginner's class until you feel confident enough to handle the harder stuff.

I hope that helps put some perspective on things for you.

Answer 2

I think it would be not good to stay in the class just because of the pressure from family and friends. Now, by asking yourself "Is it OK to quit?" you are adding unnecessary pressure on yourself, just by this question. You should make a decision based on your own thoughts, experience and desires. Moreover, I remember a couple of months ago you were thinking which class should you take. You chose to try both in order to decide. I think it was the hardest way but also the best way to make an educated and well-based decision. It's not quitting, it's making a choise. You probably can re-joing the intermediate class later, when you are more ready for it, but I wouldn't know the details of how it works. Best of luck.

Answer 3

i think u should go back into that class, just because somethings challenging doesn't mean u should just quit. u r gonna come across a lot of challenging things in life but u should try 2 fight thro it instead of giving up. challenges r good 4 ppl and build character. i say go 4 it, work as hard as u can, do yr best, and just try 2 have fun w/ it. try talking w/ the other ppl in the class and make some new friends. dance classes r always much more fun when u have friends doin it w/ u! =) good luck

Answer 4

You have taken a lot of dance lessons, so you should not feel as a quitter. Just because you took dance lessons when little does not mean you have to become a dancer. Go on with your life and expand and do other things. You are not a quitter, find your next adventure and go for it.

Answer 5

You will regret quitting in the future. Fulfillment is all about achievement. Rejoin the class and feel fulfilled.

Answer 6

Something you do you should love to do. If your family still wants you too do it tough luck for them. Explain to them that it's not making you happy and it's not working for you anymore. Nobody should do anything that they don't really want to do for other people.Think about it who are you really living for? Them or you?