I am having difficulty trusting other people (family....my mum, sister etc...) to mind my 9 month old daughter. I stress out that they are not going to watch her properly and not give her the right foods etc..... Has anyone else been through this? Is this something that you eventually get over? My mum keeps wanting to babysit her and I keep making excuses. I don't want to hurt her feelings and tell her the real reason is trust and I am freaking out about it. Should I force myself to do it? Or should I wait until I feel comfortable? I am afraid that I might never feel comfotable having someone else watch her. Please - any advice, suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks!
2006-12-15 10:23:54 · 10 answers · asked by trueblue_aussieacdc 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Thats the sign of a good mummy! We all worry about that but think of it this way: your mom watched you when you were that age and you turned out ok!! Dont force yourself to do it but wait till you are comfortable. It isnt gonna happen all of a sudden. Maybe you can start by leaving her with your mom for an hour while you go grocery shopping. Then maybe a little longer next time. Its up to you honey but the way you feel is normal. Take care.
2006-12-15 10:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY how you feel! I have a 10 1/2 month old daughter, who was a micro-preemie (3 months early, under 2 lbs at birth)...anyway, she's fine now, but I just CANNOT trust anyone! My mom is getting her feelings hurt because I just don't trust that she'll take good care of her. So my husband and I haven't had a day or night out alone since my daughter came home from the hospital (6 months ago). It's driving me nuts!
I know I'm not really helping you figure out a solution, but I do just want you to know that you're not the only one who feels this way! I need to go read the other answers to see if anyone has suggested something good for you. =)
2006-12-15 18:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Megan V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so overprotective it will drive youand everyone nuts, take advantage of people wanting to help! believe me you are going to wish they would babysit in the future, let them start as soon as possible so they learn about her as she grows. I felt the same way but you have to just let it go, have trust in other people. Baby won't die from eating bad once a week for a few hours, but anyway lay down the rules. Pack the food for her and say you would really prefer they stick to your diet. Tell them that you are nervous and that you would really feel comfortable if they promised to keep an eye on her very closely. Don't forget, she raised you and turned out ok (I'm assuming).
2006-12-15 18:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could start small. Have your mom watch your daughter while you go grocery shopping and then work your way up to a whole night out. Or you could have your mom take care of the baby while you are still in the house, (find something else to occupy your time like housework) but while she's there DO NOT get involved with the baby stuff. This way you'll know that even if something is not done perfectly the wat you want it, you still know that your baby is being well taken care of.
2006-12-15 21:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lynnea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way sort of. I will only let my fiances mom watch my children. I dont trust anyone else. You just have to give your mom a chance. if she was a good mother to you, sure she will do fine with your child. just give a a chance and see how you feel afterwards. if your still not comfortable then wait until you are. but once you let her watch her once you might get over your fear of letting certain people watch your child
2006-12-15 18:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean you actually have someone who wants to babysit must be nice dont get me wrong my parents are great grandparents but they hate it when i ask to babysit if i have to work and my fiance needs sleep he works 3rd shift but yes i go through the same thing when they do babysit im constantly on edge but your daughter will survive you did didnt you and im sure there great relatives especially since they actually want to babysit i dont trust anyone at all when it comes to my son but you need a break once in a while thats why i didnt work for some time after my son was born and i made it to where our work schedule work cause my parents dont like to babysit just let them babysit go out enjoy your night cause you never actually trust anyone when it comes to your child good luck
2006-12-15 18:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you need someone to baby sit? do you need to work?
I wouldn't let some in laws mind mine because they were slack but i needed a sitter at times & so do you so you can have some night out to give you a break & some time for you
your Mum should be fine she looked after you ok as you are still here so trust your mum if she is not sick or something
you probably just love your baby to bits & don't want to leave her & so you just think its a trust matter & it may not be
force yourself to have your mum mind her of a night time when she only has to be put to bed & there is no feeding to be done & you go to dinner & a movie
good luck
2006-12-15 18:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she must have done something right to raise you. go visit her for an afternoon and let her take care of the baby to see how she does it and if you are satisfied with the way she handles the child. then you will know if shes in good hands.
2006-12-15 18:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having difficuty of trusting meas lck of self esteem.to over come it you have to take one step at the time lefted you baby to you parents1 to 2 hours see what happen.
2006-12-15 18:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by minjong k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's natural. Just remember your mum did Ok with you - I assume. You have to learn to let go, or it will hold back your child.
2006-12-15 18:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋