we had two children together and whilst i was pregnant with my first child i didnt want to make love to him my first child is now 4yrs old and i still dont want to make love but i love him to bits he is the love of my life
2006-12-15 10:14:08 · 14 answers · asked by ema 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being with a person that you love so much isnt only based upon having sexual encounters with them...and u have proven that because ur saying that u arent having sexual feelings towards him. So ur looking beyond the physical points of ur relationship and actually loving him for the person he is without any sexual contact which is very important in a relationship. But also try focusing on what u guys need like maybe he wants some sexual contact with the woman he loves so much so why not try putting ur self in the mood? like make a candlelit dinner only for the 2 of u put some soft music on it would be very romantic. Hope everything works out!
2006-12-15 10:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna sound very messed up but you love him like a father, like a brother, sister, best friend. You dont or ever loved him as a man.
I assume there is nothing wrong with him except for the fact that he married you. You have a problem, whether is physical or mental you need to address it right away or else it will cost you your relationship. He is a man and he needs sex and sooner or later someone younger and prettier will se the pontentials in him and will take him away from you.
If you dont feel like doing him, at least do it for the sake of the kids and your own financial and emotional stability. The average man when he is horny can only last 5 mins. If you can fake it for 5 mins twice a week, thats more than enough. 10 mins of your week wont kill you and it will save your relationship.
Either that or be ready to move on
2006-12-15 10:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, are you attracted to him in any way? Maybe pregnancy and birth and all just kind of made you really tired, but eventually you will have to change for better or else your in for a big surprise. Try reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of a Loving Husband" By Dr. Laura Sleishenger (the last name might be spelled a little wrong)
2006-12-15 10:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously wanted to at some point, since you had a second child with him. It really could be a hormone problem, and your ob-gyn can help you with that. You really need to get some help, if you love him the way you say you do. Because, he may think you dont if you dont want to be intimate any longer.
2006-12-15 10:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by belinda f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your hormones you probably need to change your diet. I know I have been there; look for help on the web site (WEB MD) or go to the bookstore in the hearth section. These places can give you information on what foods to eat to help you with your sex drive. I changed my diet and not only did I lose weight, but I also have a big sex drive my husband is very HAPPY!
2006-12-15 10:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? If he's the love of your life, count your blessings and indulge him every once in a while. It's kind of too late to lament, with two kids in tow. Enjoy other aspects of your relationship.
2006-12-15 10:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a sexless marriage for 32 years and it was horrible. Having two children is not a marriage; being intimate does. Eventually he is going to find someone who will have those feelings and perhaps you are preventing yourself from finding someone for yourself.
2006-12-15 10:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appears that you may have low levels of Testosterone. This is a male sex hormone, but this what makes females also feel sexy.
Go to your doctor and get tested.
2006-12-15 10:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love isn't just based on passion, it is so much more. if u base love only on lust, and sooner or later the lust part fades, than all u have left is maybe repulsion, and love is so much more than that. because in marriage people change, we get older and we don't look the same. we have to base it on more than just lust.
2006-12-15 10:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question he doesn't just want XXX from you if he did then he would have left by now. He loves you to if he was with you that long and doesn't mind.
2006-12-15 10:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by jorgegone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋