I am developing feelings for another woman but i am in a realationship witha man what should i do?
2006-12-15 09:24:58 · 12 answers · asked by Mz.G 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's normal and fine. You can be attracted to both sexes and still be in a relationship with a man, you're allowed to be attracted (as long as you don't act on it). But if you do like this woman, then it's unfair to drag your boyfriend through this. Break up with him, if you're liking someone else otherwise BOTH of you will just get hurt. Even if the other person is a man OR woman.
2006-12-15 10:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by curiosityreincarnated 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the man?
Many women feel the same way. My wife is one of them.
One of the problems is generally when hearing the woman wants a relationship with another woman, the men are ok with it but if the relation between the two women really start to get going, the husband starts to change his mind and wants a divorce.
If the man sticks around and the two women really start hitting it off, many times the other woman will want the other woman to leave her husband.
Now the one woman is stuck in the middle.
Very confusing.
I'm at the point of saying its ok by me and I do not expect to get involved with her and another woman. That again is generally not what the women are looking for.
I suppose my feelings would change if she ever did get totally involved.
good luck.
2006-12-15 09:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you should consider discussing this with your male companion.
If the two of you are emotionally and intellectually close, as well as physically, this is the first step I would suggest taking.
If he is a loving and supportive partner, he should be understanding, and the two of you should be able to work out some means to address your interest.
If you aren't that close to him, say its just physical, then I would suggest approaching the woman you are attracted to, and ask her out. I don't know what kind of community you live in, but within my traditional circles, its perfectly acceptable for a person to ask a same sex person out - pretty much the same as asking the opposite sex out.
You could of course try the 'threesome' with your male and the woman you're interested in... this might satisfy the bi-curious element. But it really doesn't give you the experience of woman and woman relations - emotionally... in a threesome the man tends to intrude (no pun intended).
I wish you all the best.
-dh
2006-12-15 09:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really look at the feelings you are starting to have for this woman. See if it feels more like a crush or actually strong feelings. Most girls I know have had a crush on another girl at one time or another, there is nothing wrong with that. If you can actually see yourself doing more intimate things with her then I think you should talk to your boyfriend and then her. Just know that there is nothing wrong with you, I am straight and married but I know I have had crushes on girls before, but when I actually thought of doing something sexual I knew I didn't want to do that. It made it easier to just let the crush run it's course.
If you can see yourself doing it then still there is nothing wrong with you but you should be honest with your boyfriend.
I hope this helps a little
2006-12-15 09:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by bink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound like a pervert. But you may want to consider sharing, especially if you have feelings for both. However, it would be best to tread lightly when presenting this. I know you may be wondering how that relationship will work? I have had one. I had a GF and she had a bi-roomate. They had discussed being involved with each other, but the GF was nervous about it. She met me and actually asked my opinion. I told her to try it, but she was scared. the roomate and I talked about it a little and she said lets do a 3-way. BOOM! I ended up with 2 GF's and we all got along splendidly for quite a while. Believe me it isn't all sex either. Two women fighting over clothing is enough to make me put a gun to my head. We all split up over time and they went on to get married and have children with their husbands, both of who hate me, but the girls and i still talk every now and again. BTW, my wife hates them too. The three of us can't understand the anomosity, but that isn't our problem. Good luck.
2006-12-15 09:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to the woman that ur developing feelings for and see how she feels about it,U could try to explore ur feelings for that women to see if u really have feelings or just bi curious. u dont want to throw away a gd realtionship beacuse u just may be bi curious
2006-12-15 09:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by drama dramz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ignore those feelings if you really want to stay with your man. If you can't, then you need to tell him. It's not fair to him to not know how you are feeling. You also need to ask yourself who do you want more.
Krazy Libra
2006-12-15 09:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for an orgy baby! The man won't mind at all.
2006-12-15 09:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with your guy until things go wrong and it needs to end
2006-12-15 09:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope that the women that you like is your mother! don't be a lesbian! God did not intend for that to be that way!
2006-12-15 09:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by megan f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋