Than we planned a wedding. 29 days before we got slamed with a huge huge bill so we canceled the wedding because it was silly to spend that much. Since than he acts like nothing has happened and hasn't made any steps to have a small cermony with me. I'm confused does he want to get married? why would he let the 3 month time limit run out on our marrige license? Help me decide whats happening
2006-12-15 08:52:07 · 13 answers · asked by kimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can understand the change in the size of the wedding, what puzzles me is the cancel ling entirely, you need to ask him what his future plans are and you plan accordingly
2006-12-15 08:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you cancelled the wedding, you should have just made plans for a small ceremony. Is there a reason you didn't? Is it possible that he thinks YOU don't want to get married, because YOU let the 3 months of the marriage license run out? Bring it up, set a date and just do it. You can be proactive, there's nothing wrong with it. He's not supposed to "propose" to you again or anything.
2006-12-15 17:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is stressed about the bill,. You see, finances are what strikes a man's ego harder. If he feels like he is not a good provider, he won't marry you, not because he doesn't love you, but because he belives that you deserve the wedding of your dreams and that he can't provide that for you.
All you have to do is to reassure him that you love him and that you don't need a huge wedding. Tell him that all you want is to get married and that you can have a ceremony later when you get cak on yyour feet.
Good luck
2006-12-15 17:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to him if not let themarriage run out the time and then leave him or leave him now. When I ask my wife to married me and she said yes and guess what i told her you do what ever you want in the wedding we only spend 2,000 for wedding that is cool and glad I did make her happy been married for 9 years and 2 kdis and 3rd due next year. still happy. you can find someone better than him
2006-12-15 18:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be asking him about this! If you cant talk to him about this now how in the world are you going to make a marrige last??? However, smart move canceling the big expensive wedding tho...they are so overrated anyway!!
2006-12-15 17:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but something is going on here. He's afraid of something. The only thing you can do is talk about it with him, openly and honestly. It might be that he just has cold feet.
But my experience is telling me that you should be wary -- maybe he isnt what he seems. Running up a big bill and then cancelling leads me to think that he might just be "frontin'" or something. You might find that you are fortunate to have escaped something far worse than just a bad marriage...
2006-12-15 17:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he needs more time to think about it, try a seperation plan and let him WAIT for you this time. Oh yeah don't piclk up your phone either. Let him leave a message. You never got the message, Hmmm maybe your phone don't work?
2006-12-15 17:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by CryBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart go and talk to him ....You need to find out what's going on in his head . If you don't communicate with him now you will never make it as a married couple !
2006-12-15 17:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to HIM!! We don't know what he's thinking. Tell him how you feel and see what he says.
2006-12-15 16:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking him what is going on?
2006-12-15 16:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋