Should I use Revenge?

Question

I have this girl who's been my friend for about 2 years. Recently she has started hanging out with this girl from her past, and has started doing coke, but is hiding it from me, i'm not stupid. to top the case we were going to all go out tonight to celebrate my 21 birthday she sent me a text message about an hour ago telling me she had the flu and couldn't make it. I'm so angry at her. She keeps lieing to me and I am sick and tired of it. What should I do? I'm not good at confrontation and dont want to go up to her and say anthing, but i dont know what else to do?

Answer 1

Honestly the best thing to do is let it go hard as it is.When someone has a drug issue and they're hiding it from someone its because they don't want you to think less of them....But they don't realize that they're hurting you.Sometimes to keep yourself out of that drama you have to just walk away no more contact until she can contact you with honesty maybe after she cleans up again.And if she asks why you've made that choice then be honest your friendship seem's to be taking you both down very different paths.You choose to have a path thats free of drama and won't harm you on any level.While you feel her path is leading her in a completely different direction.And that you can't walk that path because you aren't meant to learn the same lessons that she is choosing to learn at this point in her life.
Sometimes confrontation is neccessary but it doesn't always mean that you have to scream or yell.Handle it in a letter,text msg,email,or phone call however you need to handle it.Mourn the friendship for a bit and then move forward.Grow...Live....Laugh....and appreciate that you chose your own path and that she chose hers...

Just My Thoughts,
M.G

P.S.
Happy Birthday

Answer 2

No I don't think you should use revenge. Revenge is a waste of time and effort... it will eat you up. Be the better person. If she is a friend, she shouldn't lie to you... this experience should tell you something about your "friend"... like whether she respects your thoughts and whether or not she is really a friend and not an acquaintence.

But, if you guys are "friends," you should nonetheless confront her about the drug use and lies, show that you care and are concerned the next time she lies. You may not be good at confrontation, but life's difficult, you gotta do some things that you're not good at or don't want to do. If she responds negatively or continue what she does, I would just move on and not hang out with her anymore.

Answer 3

I have discoverd that people who do drugs , gamble at the slots or on horses, are alcoholics are people who often lie. They cover up their bad habits with lies.
She may be doing drugs the night you want to go out ,or she may be coming off the drugs and sleeping it off . Only thing to do is stop being friends with people like this. They only drag other down with them and frustrate their relationships with others to the point where people leave.

I know some people who are liars to their spouses about their whereabouts and still remain married. If they are doing drugs they will always be short money and need money and always look for money to keep their habit going. Best thing to do is stay away from these people.

You do not need a drug addict and a liar in your life. Revenge why??? What does that do??? Being mean because someone was mean does not help the situation at all.
End the friendship and move on t something better.

Answer 4

Remember, she could actually be sick.
I would go and make other plans so you can definitely go out for your bday. Tomorrow, call her and see if she feels better. Go and see her and tell her that you know she's doing hard drugs and she has to stop! You care about her and the drugs are probably making her do things that could cost her your friendship. Drugs ruin people's lives.

I wouldn't use revenge. It sounds like this fast lifestyle of hers is causing her lies. Try to be there for her so she can quit this bad thing.

Answer 5

Yes, use revenge. If you do the same things she does to you she'll understand how rude she's being. She might think you dont really care what happens to her, so tell her that her new life bothers you. If she's really a good friend she'll realize she's being an idiot.

Answer 6

She is probably ashamed and embarassed (and paranoid) if she is doing a lot of Coke and doesn't want to be around anybody who knew her when she wasn't all f*cked up! Don't take it personal.