ok i just turned 16 i have a son turnin 3 at the end of the month and i just had my baby girl about 5 weeks ago..... my boyfriend helps me as much as he knows how he's 19 what should we do I mean we want the best for our kids plz help us with some sort of idea what we can do and plz if ur just going to say something negative dont bother writing me...thank you
2006-12-15 08:34:25 · 19 answers · asked by Amber E 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why are you having kids at such a young age? Dumbass.
2006-12-15 08:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by attn deficiency. 3 · 5⤊ 7⤋
Um, could you straighten out the dates...two months ago you were seven months pregnant, now your daughter is five weeks old, so was she really seven weeks premature? Or are you jacking around with yahoo answers?
If this is a true question, the best for you would be to not get pregnant again, go through dhs and get childcare, finish your schooling. Get a degree, at least associates so you can afford to feed and care for your children. Your boyfriend should get a job and seriously start providing, especially since you live with your brother (as per your other questions)
It's going to be hard, yeah, but what are your other options? Without a high school diploma at least, you are going to be stuck in fast food or lawn care the rest of your life. Maybe walmart....if you're lucky. My husband and I had our first kid in college, it was a pita...we both were in school full time, working full time and trying to care for a baby without using daycare. It was hard work and we were 22. It will not be easy...I cannot emphasize that enough, our society tells us that we 'deserve' to have it easy, and that's bull.
Seriously, pray about it, figure out what would be best in your life, and then make some choices on how to go about doing those things. No one can tell you 'what you should do' except yourselves. Do something, instead of asking everyone else what you should do.
2006-12-15 08:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check area rec centers, ask your pediatrician, and check online services for parenting classes and parent resources in your area. Attend classes as a family. They will help you form realy strategies for your situation. I know you want the best for your children. It's great that your boyfriend is doing his best, too. Give him a big hug for standing up and being a man. It's easy to skip out on responsibility; he's taking the hard road, but it will pay off as he sees his children grow up respecting and honoring their parents.
Get some help. You guys don't have to go it alone. You might even find resources or ideas to help you take college classes online or part time that will help you get a good education and a good job. Statistically, children do as well in school as their mothers. If you have a good education, chances are much better that they will follow your example.
Also, if you're 16 now, find out what would be involved in you guys getting married. If your parents are OK with it, they will let you get married. Ready or not, you're both adults now, and you should start behaving like adults for the sake of your children. Marriage might not sound like it would make much difference now, but if you seek help as a unified couple with dependent children, you will be taken much more seriously when it comes to college aid, family assistance, resource management, the whole thing.
I wish you the very best, and happy holidays--
2006-12-15 08:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first piece of advice would be to not have any more children for a very long time. You became a mother the same time you became a teenager. What a tradgedy!! You need to finish your education and get the best job you can. It will be a struggle, but it can be done. If he is already 19......he should be working as many hours as he can to take care of those babies, but remember you have a responsilbility to do so also (when you're out of school) He didn't create these babies alone.
Best of luck
2006-12-15 08:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of 2 Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so I'm not entirely sure what is that your asking but if your talking in general I guess your best bet is to finish your education so that you can provide a good life in the near future and some one for your children to look up to..along with him was well too! That's whats important right now! I would advise getting a good job or least the best one you can get and I hate to say it but bc control should something else you should consider! You don't want to keep having children that you really can't afford to have! I had my children young too..and it's not easy but I seem to manage with the help of my family and friends! I wish you the best god knows its not easy and at least you are taking care of your responsibilities! Email me for any other ideas and what not!
2006-12-15 08:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by MLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with you being really both being very young, you can get assistance. Don't feel bad. Hold your head up high. At least you are taking care of your kids. Now, I don't know exactly how you feel about adoption. But that is an idea. If not then have your bf work a really good job. Fed Ex, Post office, UPS any of those have really good benefits. Get a small apt all bills paid. Get into school and when you get out you can help him out.
2006-12-15 08:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then, why not get married if you and your boyfriend agree on it. If u wanna help economically try to get job, u can put your kids in day-care or u can can start a small business right from your home that way u can spend time with your kids. Or u can get in some programs like WIC, link this might help. ** This might sound rude but get on birth control to prevent another pregnancy.
Good Luck and Congrats on your new baby!!!!!
2006-12-15 08:51:54 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be doing really good so far, I would recommend just acting like a family and love each other. Maybe when you get older, or now maybe think about living as a family as well. I got married to my husband when I was 16, but I would recommend waiting. I love him and would have married him anyways, I just wish I was older. Best of luck to you and your family.
2006-12-15 09:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by kristin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your boyfriend get a job if her have not have on and then go back to school there is a site that you can get your high school degree www.scitraining.com you can get your high school degree from there Hope you "man" got one and from there work your way up i know how hard it is to be low income you can get a daycare babysitter and go to a local school or be on grant after that but from all my sister being single mother i watch every single on of while on a job anyhow i have 3 kids one is 6 months and one is 3 years old and 1 is 7 years old
2006-12-15 08:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by magicalpowersofcolors 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just love and protect your child. by the way its nice to hear of a teen taking some responsiblity. seems you're doing fine. are your kids healthy? do they have food and clothes? if so you're alright. just make sure you have a job, and or your bf has the job. get help from your mom if you need it. stay in school...but yeah you're alright.
love jen.
2006-12-15 08:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jennie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do your best. One of you should work while the other stays home with the kids.
2006-12-15 08:44:26 · answer #11 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋