Me and my husband had a baby 8 months ago and things got really bad he wasnt coming home, cheating ext. I moved him
out of my home well now he said he would change and I beleived him well he is being great to my face but he saying terable stuff behind my back like the only reason he is with me is because he is loanly ext and I just cant live with some one who really doesnt love me. but I am living with him now and cant seem to get up enough money to move into my own apartment. should I wait until he helps me because he is saying he is going to move in with me in a appartment in jan or should I try to find the money some how.
2006-12-15 08:28:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would find a way to leave as soon as possible. Life's too short to be stuck with such a loser.
2006-12-15 08:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so much like you and you already answered you own question. Because once you get him in you know how hard it's gonna be to get him out! ex specially if he's got free room and board and you know already your gonna want him out because he's a jerk and after of having him back for a couple of day's you are gonna be thinking O my 'god why did I do this, and your best friend is gonna be saying I told you not to! So why I ask Put your self in that kind of torment Again! Go to the state Department and get some food stamps and I do believe some pay or at least help with the rent, Ask for some energy assistance as well, but don't count on the cheater to help you I mean Hell he's a cheater! (sorry) I've had my share of them A-----H----'s to.It's a tough Life out here but you will survive. I'm a single mom raising my daughter for 11 years now. (Do have a boyfriend, but he is Sooooo Cheap he sqeeks when he walks) and if I can do it so can almost anyone else. Good Luck I hope this helps you in someway. Don't be miserable! sunnydays
2006-12-15 08:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not comfortable in his role as father and husband, is passive aggressive, is upset inside and hides it, unless he is talking to others. he has not changed, and doesn't seem to be mature enough to handle his responsibilities, he still longs for the adolescent years, without all that work involved. a good man steps up to the plate, takes responsibility, and loves his wife and child, based not how he is feeling, but because he has made a conscious choice to do so. maybe get a job, and ask for child support, and u would have the money. it is never easy to raise a child on your own, never easy to leave an existing relationship when u have no money, but this one is not going to work unless u get therapy and he changes how he feels. so i would make some plans, and save some money.
2006-12-15 08:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never set yourself up to be dependent on anyone. Like the morning sun, they can disappear by night fall. Try to save as much money as you can, look for assistance programs in your state and don't put up with his sh**. If he is the daddy, then he has no choice but to help you out. It's called child support. Good luck.
2006-12-15 08:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by low1sk8er 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience that a spouse that cheats on you will not change especially if he (or she in my case) is still saying things behind your back. If you take him or her back without setting hard and fast rules you are condoning the past actions and he or she will do it to you again. My advice...get out.
2006-12-15 08:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Outdoorsman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you step up & be a woman! stop relying on a man to pay for your S H I T....a real woman is an INDEPENDENT WOMAN. have some self respect & dignity, have a direction in life. If you really want to make your life better, then get up & do something about it. Don't rely on hope. Life does'nt work that way.
2006-12-15 08:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just do whatever it took to get out. Especially since he is saying those things behind your back. He is probably saying those things to you to make you believe he is changing. I don't think he has any intention on changing....Good luck!!!
PS Ask friends, family...etc. There are agencies out there that do help out women in your situation.
B.C.
2006-12-15 11:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by bryan c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only should a person not put themselves through that, you CAN NOT put your child through that. Find a shelter or other orginazation if you have to but do not stay.
2006-12-15 08:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Booper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can come to think better of yourself than how he is treating you. You deserve much better. And your child deserves a mom who knows how awesome she is!
2006-12-15 08:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm y don't you kick him out again. Why must you move into your own apartment??
2006-12-15 08:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋