i really need help-please help me?

Question

i know this sounds weird but anyway i need to lose weight but the healthy way. i am overwieght and in love. last time i was he just thought i was cool but never wanted to date. i have had a weight problem for years and never had a boyfriend ever. so please help, give me advise or something.

Answer 1

i think the best approach here is to look at what you eat. try downsizing your portions when you do eat - if you have a few bites left, leave them - this adds up over time. stay away from soda. stay away from anything with high fructose corn syrup in it. eat frozen yogurt with fozen fruit instead of ice cream.

and squeeze in some exercise. try to get out and walk - even fifteen minutes every day or every two. go on your lunch break and walk around the block or something. do a couple different styles of push-ups but use the countertop instead of the floor. do some quick stomach crunches and some leg lifts in the morning. do this even for a month, and you'll see results. then as you keep up, you'll find ways to enhance what your doing in a way that works for you. make a resolution - this is the time of year to do it and stick with it. if you can't exercise in the morning, do it before or after dinner - while you watch the evening news, whatever!

on a personal note, its too bad you feel that you have to change yourself to make this guy like you (and it may not, even if you get slimmed down). i struggle with a small weight problem, and i find that if i do what i've told you, i look and feel about myself. good luck

Answer 2

Here are my thoughts. What is the real root of the problem? As far as why have you had a weight problem for years? Is it insecurity? Genetics? Are you afraid of the whole BIG picture so to speak? What IS IT that has caused you to struggle with weight gain? Once you narrow that down and have an answer, everything will come into place. I believe that once your mind is well and centered, your body will follow. Once you have found the real root of the problem, start taking in smaller portions of food, try not to consume too much sugar, and if you want to start out slow, go on walks every day! This way, you have more to look forward to. And by following this theory, my life has changed drastically. I used to be very anti-social, depressed, and just angry all of the time. Even small things. Like if I'd drop something on the floor, it was like, "The Coming Of The Apocalypse". No freakin' joke. Once I figured out why I was so depressed, angry and anti-social, it was like I was a totally different individual. My suggestion to you is this: stop dwelling on not having a boyfriend, and start focusing on YOU and only YOU.What makes YOU happy, what do YOU hope to gain even AFTER this change? Stop thinking, "I'm never gunna have a boyfriend". It might sound ridiculous , I know, but seriously you will feel like a burden has just been lifted. I know this all might sound very selfish, but please believe me, Iv'e been through this same kind of rut, but in the end you can look back and say to yourself, "Wow, why in the hell didn't I think of that?" In doing this, you'll find qualities you've had all these years but never came out because you were focused on the outside.
By the way, your question is not weird at all. This was designed to ASK QUESTIONS, wasn't it? Hope I was helpful!

Answer 3

Exercise is the best answer,and eating a proper diet.You have to eat less calories than you burn. Eat half of what you normally eat per day. instead of eating three huge meals a day, eat 6 small low fat meals. This will give you the energy your body needs to burn those calories. Do lots of cardio exercises, only drink 6-8 glasses of water a day, thats all your body needs. the rest will just be retained as fluid in your body. You need to shock your system,re-teaching it that instead of functioning with 4000 calories a day it is able to function with 3000 calories a day.By eating 6 smaller meals a day your body will burn the calories quicker and easier.and you will seem to be full through out the day. And never eat before bed time..Find a excercise program that you can fit into your lifestyle, that works for you.....Good Luck...P.S. Never look at the scale, sometimes your weight will stay the same and even go up during this change,depending on how hard you trained that week,this is called over training, By jumping on the scale will only discourage you. Take your time do what you feel you can do not what someone else tells you. Even if you don't lose the weight keep your head up and stay positive. Change your look for you, not for someone else.If he likes you he will see past all that artificial stuff. He will like you for you....

Answer 4

WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU SEE THINGS, THE THINGS YOU SEE CHANGE!
do not look at weight loss as weight loss but a fight for physical fitness... a diet sux, we hate it and that is why we fail and quit. instead try to look in the mirror and say ... i love my health and my body... i have abused my body long enough with unhealthy eating and excersize habits. my body is wonderful,beautiful and deserves respect... especially since it is a loaner from my creator and not my own! I WILL BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR HOW I TREAT IT SO I WILL START NOW BY MAKING BETTER EATING CHOICES . AND MORE EXERCIZE ... OF MY CHOICE, TIME, AND COMFORT! THIS IS NOT A MUST DO BUT A CHOICE I AM MAKING FOR THE BODY I LOVE!
NOT FOR SOME GUY WHO SHOULD ACCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE .

WHEN WE SEE "WEIGHT LOSS" AS SOMETHING WE CHOOSE TO DO AT OUR OWN PACE FOR OUR OWN BODY WE DONT SEE IT AS A "DIET" BUT A HEALTHY LIFE STYLE CHANGE!

AND LOVING YOURSELF,LOVING THE CHANGES YOU ARE MAKING, AND SEEING IT DIFFERENT THE WEIGHT WILL COME RIGHT OFF FASTER THAN PILLS , ETC.
SEE IT AS A FUN AND GOOD THING . A GIFT TO YOU. NOT AS I AM HEAVY AND NEED TO DO THIS FOR SOME REASON.....

GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!!!!!
P.S. I USED TO BE A SIZE 26 AND NOW IM A 12

TRY TO NEVER SEE IT AS A SET AMOUNT OF POUNDS GO BASED SOLELY ON HOW MUCH BETTER YOU FEEL INSIDE , NEVER WEIGH YOURSELF UNTIL YOU COME DOWN A FEW DRESS SIZES. AND NEVER ASK HOW YOU LOOK! YOU KNOW HOW YOU LOOK TO YOU AND THAT IS ALLTHAT SHOULD EVER MATTER. REMEMBER THIS IS I GIFT TO YOURSELF ....NOT OTHERS. YOU SHOULD SEE IT AS MAKING HEALTHIER CHOICES NOT TRYING TO SHED POUNDS B/C THAT HAPPENS NATURALLY ONCE YOU MAKE BETTER CHOICES.
AND REMEMBER NO FOODS ARE OFF LIMITS... JUST THINK OF THIS" WILL MY BODY FEEL GOOD OR BAD IF I FEED IT THIS OR CHOOSE THIS ACTIVITY?"

Answer 5

I did weight watchers and it was successful. I lost 40 pounds and have kept 35lbs off over 2 years now. It costs a small fee, but I believe the program works.

Answer 6

I was exactly in your shoes.. Listen! it takes A LOT of courage to break out of this vicious circle. Your (or rather our) problem is multi-faceted, and wont be solved overnight. Are you really over-weight? and what weight should you aim at? are you satisfied with who you are?, and are you living a healthy life? are the first questions to ask yourself and probably whose answers will make a clear plane for you to follow to help yourself out. All you need to execute your plan is the oar of DETERMINATION.. you decide FOR YOURSELF how you wanna be, and be convinced with it, then sure you will be it. I will refer you an EXCELLENT with a book that will help you: http://www.hugs.com/01participant/Online/YCCD_online.html

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Answer 7

Listen me. You have to love yourself. What if you are fat or small or ugly or .... the most important is you must love yourself. You don`t need a diets. I think that you can run everyday, you haven`t to eat a sweets, cakes. I recommending you to eat more fruits, and you need to drink more watter. Only eat. I hope I helped you! And this isn`t sount weird.

Answer 8

eat salad learn to like tofu and walk to work.