2006-12-15 08:03:33 · 26 answers · asked by areacode760 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it is bad! You are obligated to your marriage. If you absolutly can't follow through with your obligation then have enough self respect to divorce your husband!
2006-12-15 08:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, in case you are able to't deal with her previous, which made her who she is, let her go. So what if she's had some companions? She probable hasn't had as a lot sex as someone who's had an same better 0.5 for ten years! you want to get over this, in the different case it truly is going to poison your relationship. a lady isn't an merchandise to be grimy by different adult males. a lady is someone, and has a good to love and sex and happiness. when you're both on your 30s, for sure she has been with persons -- have not you, too? when you're preserving something adversarial to her that you've achieved besides, it truly is enormously hypocritical.
2016-11-26 21:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really comes down to how both of you feel. Is it just sex that's the problem, or do you not love him? If it's just sex, counseling may actually provide a solution, but nothing will improve if you never address the problem.
Is he still in love with you, or have both of you decided the marriage is just a legal partnership to raise the kids and manage finances with no emotional attachment? If you're both willing to stay married but find sex elsewhere then I suppose that's one solution. But if either of you still feel anything for the other, that's not the way to go.. Besides, if you're both really disastisfied, the only reason I could think of for staying together would be to provide a stable home for children, and you didn't mention if that's part of the picture here.
2006-12-15 08:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by Proto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should communicate with your husband and tell him what you want. You should maybe go into detail on what you want and play a game out of it. You can also show him how you like to be touched. It is not really hard if you really love this man. You have been married to him for 11 years you should have great sex with him.
2006-12-15 09:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very difficult issue. Many questions here. Do you get anything out of the marriage? Is what you get important enough to stay married? Marriage means, among other things, commitment. If you don't want to be committed, divorce. You know there are plenty of guys with whom you can have sex, in or out of marriage. But if you have sex with another, in marriage, you will hurt your husband. Get divorced...or learn to be happy with masturbation and stay in the marriage. You have the choice. Be honest with yourself.
2006-12-15 08:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unbelievable stuff. Anyway with above answers you must have known that having a sex with some one other than your husband is disgusted by the society. Have you forgotten what you promised by the time of marriage?. So if you are not, already, into it then please refrain from it and if you have made your mind and just looking for excuses then please be kind enough to the poor man who happens to be your husband and ask him for a divorce before you disgrace him.
2006-12-15 08:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel you girlfriend. I am in the same boat. I am just bored with my husband and there are so many times I think about just cheating on him. But then I think about the consequences and also about just the whole mess of messing around, then I change my mind. It's not worth it. Invest in some nice adult toys if you have to. Good luck.
2006-12-15 08:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband what you want in bed because, in all honesty, you probably won't even enjoy the on the side sex
because: 1. guilty feelings 2. the on the side guy won't know what you like either. 3. all that wonderful herpes, genital warts, and so on is hard to explain to your hubby.
talk to your husband. he's probably unsatisfied as well.
2006-12-15 08:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is bad, it would only make you a lire and cheater and a person to distrust. You should get a divorce and let the guy find a woman that he can trust. It is not his fault if after 11 years you have not been able to communicate your needs with him. A man is so willing to please if he knows what he needs to do. Talk to him and tell him how he can please you. If he is good every where else this is such a fixable issue
2006-12-15 09:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, its call having an affair. Which is not fair to you or your husband. If its that important to you, then leave him and enjoy your life with another.
2006-12-15 08:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋