I'm a 12 year old girl, and I am just wondering why some kids in middle school become popular and others aren't. I am kinda in the middle: some people know me, others don't. I am also wondering if maybe some of you can give me advice on how to become popular?
2006-12-15 07:55:20 · 8 answers · asked by Natalie 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Popularity is highly over rated. The people that are your true friends are the only one's you should be concerned with. I realize being popular is important, but only to a degree. The best thing to do is be a friend to your friends, and be friendly to those who you'd like to be friends with.
2006-12-15 20:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by baloneycurtains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question!
To be popular you have to express interest in others. It is the ultimate form of flattery. Ask them about themselves, what they like, what they are interested in. Express interest in them.
Why does this work? Who doesn't like to talk about themselves? Just sit back and listen. You'll automatically think of other questions or things to say.
It also takes the pressure off of you! You don't have to worry about saying the wrong thing if someone is talking to you about themselves!
Another thing. In the community where I grew up, I did not realize this until many years later. The kids that seemed popular were usually the kids of local business owners who went to the same church and attended the same social functions. It's called networking.
There's no secret to being popular. They and are no better than you. They just are outgoing and realize what I just told you about expressing interest in other people.
Don't be afraid. Have fun! Remember, other people love to talk about themselves. That's really the secret. Just sit back, listen, act interested and they will think you are terrific!
2006-12-16 02:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well natalie i`m in high school and 2 years older than you(not much) .I want to tell you as friend to friend that
Popular people:are the show off
Middle popular:are the socialised goodlooking but nice and friendly people
The unknown:are the shy people that don`t like to stay much in company
I said it to you because i want to be sincere,the show off are idiots , unworthy people and among girls they`re bitches(or at least they`re in my school)fake,and irritating ones.
I tell you how to be popular ,make friendship with the popular, show off , fake every single thing and you`ll be very known( this is the way, i`m not making irony)So can you do that?!(Is that you?)
2006-12-15 08:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by kvcreom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I disagree with the second answerer. Popularity doesn't equal being a ***** or fake. Having a good personality can defiantly make you popular. When you speak a lot and are generally nice to people, people get to know who you are, and eventually most people will. Being 'popular' is having a lot of people know you and approve of you.
One definition of 'popular':
-regarded with favor, approval, or affection by people in general
2006-12-15 08:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by el Rocky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. If people won't hang out with you unless you act like someone else, then it's really not worth being around them. If you end up becoming popular, that's great. If not, high school and middle school are short (thank god).
2006-12-15 10:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at my school, if you didn't play sports or cheerleading you were in the out crowd and a nobody..PERIOD... in the middle crowd were the Good students who made all A's and and hung out together..went to parties togethere, etc,, they were popular..everyone else didn't exist.. I wanted so BAD to be in a POPULAR crowd..After graduation when I got in college, i couldn't even tell you who was in what crowd..I could n't remember...they were not popular to me...2 me they jerks who walked around being "better than anyone else" while kicking the poor and untalented to the curb. When you get out of school, you will realize that being popular isn't a big deal..Last year I saw one of those POPULAR people who was "better than me"..he begged me to forgive him for how he treated me..he said he was immature and finally grew up and wanted to apologize for hurting me...so see...it's not all that GREAT to be popular.
2006-12-15 18:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by chilover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't seem to understand this, everyone at school can know your name and you can still be a loser. That's what it's like at my school at least, everyone knows the names of the 'losers'. Almost everyone knows my name at school, but I'm considered normal, like you.
Just keep on being nice, friendly, and sociable to everyone, and you should becoem popular someday!
2006-12-15 12:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Supernova 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try
2006-12-15 08:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by alejandro 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋