Still in love??

Question

The age old question: What is love?
I've been in a relationship for several years now, but once in a while I still think of my first true love (you know the one person whose very name makes your heart beat so fast you can hear it pounding in your ears). I left this person to pursue a job overseas right out of college. Although I have no regrets in my life, I still wonder: what if I had never left. Would we still be together? Would I still have found success in my career if I had stayed? Anyone else out there experiencing this?

Answer 1

yep

Answer 2

Hey... everyone's got a thing or two they "wonder" about. Often it's love, but occasionally it's other things. I think, if we have nothing to "wonder" about, we invent something.

I have no regrets in my "love life"; I don't "wonder" about any of my past relationships; I don't even have the "first true love" - I got married very young for the reasons other than "love", and have experienced many "loves" since (married for the 3rd time now). 15 years ago, I moved to the US (at age 18), leaving my family and my old life behind. Ever since, something I "wonder" about is what would have happened had I stayed in my birth country. Things are good here, I have a great job, and make 10 times more $$ than both my parents combined. I have nice things. I don't have to worry about bills, or crime, or my car breaking down. But I still wonder, was it worth it to give up my family ties? I only see my parents once a year, and they are growing old fast. And I don't have any extended family here.

I think this is the same type of thing as wondering about a past love: you don't regret your present, but you can't help but consider a different path you could have taken. It seems to me, tho, that when we make a decision, we do it for a reason, and it usually makes sense at the time. However, later the "reasons" fade, but the sense of having had made a choice stays. So you "wonder" what would have happened if you had chosen differently - even though you probably wouldn't have had!

Answer 3

Ah I know exactly how you feel. Altho I am young, i seriously understand where you are comming from. I was with the man of my dreams for almost a year before we split. He had a big of a drug problem (just a small one, liked to smoke weed a little too much and took 10 bucks from me) well i obviously couldnt be with someone who steals from me so i broke it off, even tho it killed me to do so. He moved to Maine with his sister so he could get his life together. He has a really good job now and there is not one day that passes when I dont think about him.

He left 3 years ago, and I still feel that way about him today. My current boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years, and as much as I care about him... I never felt the same way as I did with that boy in maine.

Me and him still talk, and depending on where we are in life, we may get back together. After college if he doesnt want to move down here ill probably end up, up there

Its hard to know what WOULD have happened... the possibilities are endless... I always say do what YOU have to to make YOUR life a success... relationships should come second, because they dont always last, you cant always depend on someone else.

Hope this helps ^.^

Answer 4

We all feel that way from time to time. I am with a man that I love but from time to time I do think about a past love. The timing wasn't right, I wanted more than he did. What you need to do is ask yourself this "Am I willing to throw away what I have for a what if?" If you are not, stay with the person you are with or become single. That person will never leave your heart, that's why first loves are so important to us all.

Answer 5

I am going through that now and its very difficult. We accidentally found each other and the feelings are still there - when we saw each other I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep... but we are both married, with children, to others. I cry early and often but life has taken us in this direction and our families are our priority.

If you are not married with children I say look up your first love and see if maybe you belong together. At least that way you will have closure.

Good luck.

Answer 6

No regrets here, I think of my past loves all the time...I wouldnt be where I am today if we had not crossed each others' paths & left an impression on each other! First true love is always a permanent memory in the mind!

Answer 7

Nope! I very rarely think of my past loves.

* You are probably not in love in your current relationship and need to get out.
* Or, you have built your ex-lover into what it is not. Most ex-loves appear to get better overtime when it really wasn't that good in the beginning. Why would anyone ever leave thier first true love.

Why not try locating your first true love. It will answer the question that will always haunt your. I am sure that once you meet a past from the blast - - it will not be that good.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

If you miss her a lot and don't think you are meant to be in the relationship you are now then maybe you should give it a shot and look for her. But then again maybe it is best just to have the good memories of her and move on. Maybe it was right for that time in your life but not right for you now. Good Luck.

Answer 10

I haven't experienced that, but I know what you mean about that one person you left that you dont want back but u really do miss, and u would just like to see them..its perfectly normal if you ask me.... The past doesnt go away and neather does the people in your past no matter whos in your life now!!!

Answer 11

yes, me 2...except i didn't move overseas or anything. life happens how it was supposed to happen. you can't change fate. we all have a destiny..and we all have a plan that we don't know yet. you only know when it happens. so right now, just think about your current girlfriend, love her, care about her, and see what happens. you never know- your destiny might be with your first love, just not yet. live every day one minute at a time..don't live in the past or you'll never see the present.