My husband is emotonally abusive and I can not take anymore cause he does it front of family and friends and our children. I don't want them to grow up thinking that it is ok to be treated like that. I don't want to go to a woman shelter cause I try that before and couldn't handle it.
2006-12-15 07:48:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honey i am going through the same thing my ex boy friend is always saying things to to hurt me and being sarcastic well i been dealing with this for far to long my self i put up with it becuase of the money the whole way through staying with becuase i needed finacial assistance until one day i thought why not save his money becuase i don't have a job he makes the money i am going to work him lke a job practically for every penny i make up bills that are not the usual i make up family events like kids school trip i use anything everything that i can as a bill no matter what and now i am almost at my qouta and i am on my way home to GA that is and when i get there i am going invest keep his money in a home get a job to show that i deserve to have assets oh and while your with him please baby keep your credit clean whatever he might want that needs your credit don't get becuase when you move on you walk away with everything so stack the money, think of a plan, have a get away exscape always and remmember god does not like ugly and you are beautiful and he's ugly and what goes around comes around RIGHT?
2006-12-15 08:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by diary 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things every woman should have, and among those is a stash of $$ even if she is certain she will never need it. You don't have that stash, and as you said in this, you do not wish to stay with this man. I'd suggust you plan your exit, if you cannot handle a shelter -- get a job, stash it away, and when you have enough, leave. In the mean time, if he is not interested in being a better dad and husband,( i.e., a few sessions on counseling) announce that you are a roommate only. Unfortunately, sometimes each of us has to plan ahead, to escape. Good luck, sweetie. Life is way toooooooo short to be trapped with an abusive partner.....
2006-12-15 16:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a woman's shelter in your area. Just about every community has one. If your family is aware of the abuse, most likely any one of them will help you out, especially if there are kids involved. Your local Family Independence Agency will help as well (Social Services). Get out, dear, NOW! Your children do not need to grow up around someone like that. Hugs to you.
2006-12-15 15:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take money fight from your own bank acct...before....you fo to an atty or file any paper work. I filed and then had no $ b/c he stole it all after I filed and I haven't been able to get any of it back. Secure all your assets b/4 you make the first move. If you have any tax shelter or IRAs, get his name off of them, then file. It doens't mean you won't have to split them, it just spares you from him stealing them from you. Also, get a credit card or two in your name first as well. Then, if you arent' worried about custody issues, file it with a paralegal or a mediator.
2006-12-15 16:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by MARY Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well initially some family member will have to help you out. Call around I am sure there is a hot line for abused women in your city, ask for there help/suggestions. Mean time try getting a job, establishing yourself.
2006-12-15 15:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have any joint accounts clear them out but make sure to file a restraining order and/or an order of proctection once you do that,
Good Luck.
P.S. You are doing the right thing just remember that ok
2006-12-15 15:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There should be a legal aide in your city., they probally have a lawyer there that can help you look in the phone book and good luck I went through that to. Do you have a relative that you can stay with til you get on your feet, Best of luck to you and your kids.
2006-12-15 16:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the way you can do it is take a little here and there and put it into a safe hiding place...The way to do it is keep a little out of the grocery money,bill money,and here and there every penny you get your hands on hide it soon you will get enough to leave..DO you and him have a bank account,take alittle out here and there..I don,t think you need to stay with an abusive husband.
2006-12-15 16:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a temporary order hearing so that he will have to give you support until a divorce is finalized.
2006-12-15 16:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a relatives or your parents. Stay with someone you can rely on, someone you truely trust. If your embarrased to go to a relatives or your parents or even a friend, don't be. If you don't stay with one of them, go for you kids.
2006-12-15 15:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by tasha7682 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋