Quit his job because he said he was under stress and refused to work. Withdrew all the money from his 401K and used that to buy a SUV on payments, opened up 2 checking accounts and got a cell phone. Didn't make the payments and got the SUV repo'd and he yanks on your ankle while you are sleeping, wakes you up and tells you that his vehicle got repo'd. Then he tells you the reason why it got repo'd was because you didn't make the payments on it. And he got his cell phone shut off for non payment and got into trouble for writing hot checks. And he still doesn't get a job and on your payday he tells you to hand over your check to him. What would you do?
2006-12-15 07:46:21 · 44 answers · asked by blue_persuasion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run darling and never look back. You have a deadbeat husband. I once quit my job because of high stress, but within a month found a better one. Find yourself a good Divorce attorney, so that your husband does not try to milk you for money.
2006-12-15 07:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. he needs to learn how to manage money. Sounds like a mooch. i don't believe in just getting divorced. I think marriage is a commitment... you chose the person... and you have to try to work things out before going that route.... but his behavior is totally ridiculous.
First, I would sit him down and tell him that his decisions have been irresponsible and have put the family in jeopardy. That he needs to learn to be financially responsible... and that he will not be spending the money if I'm bringing it home.
Second, he needs to get a job yesterday. If he says he can't because of stress... he needs to go to counseling (hopefully insurance pays for it!) and he needs to go to the doctor to get on some anti-anxiety meds so that he CAN work.
Third, marriage counseling... once a week. These issues will destroy a relationship if not addressed now.
Best of luck. I would be FURIOUS.
2006-12-15 08:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has done similar to this probably in our first 2 years of marriage. He really needed help growing up so I allowed him to see what life would be like if nothing got paid, if nothing got done, if he wasted all of the money. I know most women would not do this, but I let him blow it all, while of course keeping enough for me in my netspend account that he had no access to. When the lights and utilities got cut off and he was at risk to losing the apartment and he got tired of riding the bus he got his butt in gear. I've never had another problem with him in this area again. People will do what you allow them to do, if that does not wake him up then you have to accept he does not have your best intentions in mind and you should peacefully accept you've done all you can do and move on without him.
2006-12-15 08:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Love to Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I'm sorry, but he's either on drugs, or having an affair.
Stable men don't just up and quit their jobs when they have a family to provide for. And they don't open strange checking accounts and blow through all of their money.
I hope things work out for you. I would leave. I'd take my name off of anything that has his on it ASAP and leave. You will get into trouble for the things he does if you're still associated w/ him.
Bless your heart. I hope that you can figure all this out. But remember, if he is on drugs, he's not the same person anymore. He's someone completely different and will stop at nothing to get what he wants.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-15 07:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Josi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a question. Is he manic depressive? I've seen them do stuff like this. Has he started hearing voices yet? Before you leave him, tell him to go see a psychiatrist and maybe find some good meds. I usually don't reccomend meds but this out of the norm behavior is indicative of a medical issue as opposed to a psychological one.
2006-12-15 08:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by solitas777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. I'm sorry, I don't usually say or think that, but he's just using you. Tell him to get a job or you'll leave. Do NOT give him your paycheck! Open your own personal checking account and deposit your check there the moment you get it. Do NOT give him money, you are just enabling him to not work and not pay his bills.
2006-12-15 08:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I would seriously get rid of this guy, It sounds like he is going through some kind of mid life crisis and is only dragging you down. It seems like he just wants to mooch off of you and go screw around. He is no good honey leave him and take your money and thingsd with you.. Good luck
2006-12-15 08:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never give him your paycheck, I know you love him or you would have already been gone. Try to get him to open up to you or try counseling and find out what's wrong. Something had to happen for this to be going on. If he is abusive, leave immediately.
2006-12-15 14:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by bear4141usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get out and hell no!!!to the check thing,tell him that if he realy loves you he will 1 get a job,2 he will quit causing problems, 3 he will start depending on his own money to pay for the bills....if he does all these things and asks for forgiveness, you will concider letting him come back home...
2006-12-15 08:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by highpockets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, quitting because of stress, was an excuse, why hasn't he found another job that isn't so stressful...
Youmay want to reconsider your finances together, and what he is really going through... and if he isn't willingto work things out and it begins to weigh down onyou and your finances and your credit ... GET_ OUT !
If he really loved you , he woul dnot be putting you through this rough time...ask him, is this temporary ort is there a problem ..and go fromthere..but if that doesn't work...youmay want to really consider whether you should stay or go..
Good Luck, and Be Careful!
2006-12-15 07:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by nina113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋