Proper use of the word "I" or "me"?

Question

In a paragraph taken from an article, the author uses the wording:

"who raised my brother and me " in a sentence. I was under the impression that it should be "my brother and I". Someone else however, said that "it would be 'brother and I' if that was the subject, but it isn't. u wouldn't say 'who raised I'...its "who raised me"...so it its 'who raised my brother and me'"

which of the two is it supposed to be? It's my thought that he (the person disagreeing with me) is over lapping multiple rules.

Here is the paragraph:

"I am the great-grandson of a concentration camp victim, the grandson of four people who knew what it was to suffer the indignity of anti-semitism, the son of parents who raised my brother and me to value diversity, to judge people not by color or religion or sexuality, but by the goodness of their intentions."

-Thanks

Answer 1

The first answer to this question, agreeing with the advice you were initially given, is correct.

The issue of using "X and I" as the subject of a sentence, rather than "X and me" has received so much attention that it has spawned a tradition of hypercorrection, to the extent that many people are unaware of the underlying rule. You are not alone. :D

Just remember, "X and I" act upon "X and me."

"Harry and I went to the store with Jim and Bob."
"Jim and Bob went to the store with Harry and me."

Answer 2

Use "I" for a subject (if you're the one doing some action) and "me" for an object (if the action is being done to you.)

Ex: I eat pizza. Pizza makes me fat.

Most people know what's right or wrong just by hearing it, but get confused when there are multiple subjects/objects like "my brother and me." But there's a really simple way to figure it out -- just get rid of every other object and subject and see what sounds right.

Let's try that out and see if it's helpful:

"My brother and me went fishing" = "Me went fishing" ... so that's obviously wrong.

"The fish were biting for my brother and I" = "The fish were biting for I" ... also clearly wrong.

So your paragraph above is correct.

Answer 3

Its "who raised my brother and me" because in that sentence you are talking about yourself as the Direct object and me is always used as the direct object, not i...in that sentence, "who" is the subject...you only use "I" when "I" is the subject of the sentence, in this case its not

Answer 4

The easy trick for compound nouns like that is to delete the first part.

It would be "My brother and I went to the park," because when you remove the brother, you get, "I went to the park."

Now, when you have "They raised my brother and me," and you remove the brother, you get, "They raised me."

Hope that helps!

Answer 5

"who raised my brother and me" is correct. Think of it this way... if you were only talking about yourself, woudl it be "who raised I" or "who raised me"

Now, if you were saying "My brother and I were raised by wild monkeys," that would also be correct. Again, if you were to take your brother out of the sentence, it would read "I was raised by wild monkeys."

Hope this helps!

Answer 6

i would have thought that it would be i, because you can say "my brother and i were raised by who?" but another way to decide is to take out, as you have right after that, "my brother and". i'm assuming the latter is correct.

Answer 7

a good rule of thumb is just including yourself and leaving the other person(s) out.
so in this case, if you left out "my brother" the sentence only makes sense if you use "me" instead of "i"

Answer 8

It's "my brother and me." You would not say "who raised I."

Answer 9

The person who you're arguing with has it right.

The way to know how to use it correctly, is to use the word that you'd use, if you were only referring to yourself in the singular.

So, if you'd say, "I am going to the store", then when making it plural, you'd say, "My brother and I are going to the store".

Alternately, if you'd say, "My mother loves me", then to pluralize it, you'd say, "My mother loves my brother and me".

Answer 10

its my brother and i. he raised me would be someone talking just about his brother