I am a grown woman, and she is just a downer to me!
Any advice or insight would be welcome...thanks
2006-12-15 07:39:14 · 10 answers · asked by Desert Rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hardly ever call my mother because all I hear is woe is me, the sky is falling bullcrap.
I told her that I am trying to move in a positive direction and that it takes me a couple of days to get over our phone calls because of how she is.She said some hateful sh@t after I explained it to her and now when I do call I tell her I have to go as soon as her negative attitude starts.
I am not sure but I think it is finally taking longer each call before she goes back to her old self.I love her and want the best for her but she will not bring me down to that place she is in.
2006-12-15 07:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's a problem, because she probably has been that way her whole life and it's a bit hard to change her now. But, I guess I would point this out to her and tell her it upsets you that she can never be postive. There are two kinds of people in the world: one kind sees life like a glass that is half full and great. The other kind sees life as a glass that is half empty and gloom and doom. Tell her you want her to try to be the optimistic sort if she can. And if she cannot, then to keep her opinions to herself, because you like to live like tomorrow will be better, and she is bringing you down. If she doesn't change, just cut her off when she gets into a complaining mood. Tell her, now, Mom, I love you, but I cannot listen to this. You know that. And go your way for the time being.
2006-12-15 07:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My step-mother got into reading the Obituaries every day and I told her outright that it was morbid. She said that she was looking for people that she knew. I asked her how many she had found and she only found one. I told her to stop doing that because it is depressing. She stopped and her mood changed a bit.
You cannot make your mother stop being depressed, but you can talk to her about depression. Ask her if she feels depressed. If she says yes, then see if you can get her to a therapist. She might need some help. If you cannot get her to a therapist, try to get her to go out for a day of fun and ask her to promise to be positive all day. Sometimes that is all it takes.
Life can be very hard and sometimes we forget that we can be happy. Your mom may just be getting used to being down. You might be able to cheer her up by just having some fun together.
Take care,
Troy
2006-12-15 07:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she has always been that way it is real hard to change someone like that. My step father was the same way until he found out he was dying with cancer. You just have to blow them off and realize that they don't even realize they are being that way most of the time. If she is telling you things that are negative against you then you should maybe think about talking to other people that will encourage you not discourage.
2006-12-15 07:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by femalehorsewhisperer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not living under her roof than all you have to worry about is justifying weather or not you wanna talk to her. Can you live with out this woman in your life? If she is bringing you down, than stop talking to her. It will teach her a leason, and give her a reason to change.
2006-12-15 07:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by _DestroyingAngel_ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is depressed. Maybe you can talk to her and try to figure out why she is so negative. Maybe she needs a small dose of antidepressants.
2006-12-15 07:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing is to tell her how you feel......because if you just don't be around her you'll regret it when she passes on.....i know it's hard to be around her when all she does is talk about the bad things and choices you made in life but when shes gone you'll miss her and wish you had that time back.....i should know.....
2006-12-15 08:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by ladee giggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is obligation on u to obey orders of ur mother. those orders which do not negate any law of GOD. and just imagine ur self that u have a child and he/she is not abeying u, what will be ur feelings.
actually our parents are more possesive for us, we should respect their feelings
2006-12-15 07:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by lixiviant 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay away from her. tell her she sounds so negative. maybe she doesn't notice how annoying she is.
2006-12-15 07:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
SHOOT HER
2006-12-15 07:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋