I left my husband about 7 months ago, and I have moved out, moved on, and will be seeing a guy I met once he moves to Az. How do I tell my ex that I will be seeing someone else?
2006-12-15 07:30:17 · 37 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Simple. Just tell him that you want out totally as you found someone else. Being apart for 7 months is a pretty good sign that your marriage is over and prolonging the inevitable divorce is doing no one any good. The divorce will let you move on without any ties or regrets or having hubby pop up unexpectantly,better all the way around for everyone. Then start a new life with your new guy. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-15 07:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion, the word seperated explains itself. You and your ex husband both know the reasons why you could not be together correct? Then why would you have to explain anything about your personal life to him. I commend you for trying not to hurt anyones feelings but if you and your ex are so close that you still feel the need to basically get his blessing or permission on dating someone else than you have bigger underlying issues. You need to disattach yourself from him totally that's what seperation and divorce means....Im trying to tell you either seperate totally or go back maybe your the one with the problems and you need to reevaluate the situation...maybe there is still some feelings there that your trying to cover up by dating another man..explore your options on both ends before you tell him anything, if you do tell him and discover you have those lovey feelings for your ex you might have blown any chance you had at reconciliation....good luck..Angel
2006-12-15 07:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him your personal life if you have moved out and moved on. There is no point. As long as the two of you are proceding with a divorce. I would almost just wait until you are divorced because it will be easier and you won't owe anyone an explanation. I would completely finish one relationship before you start another one. Give yourself a break and enjoy being single for a little while longer.
2006-12-15 07:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to tell him for some reason like so he knows you're history just say - "I am seeing someone now...." no need to provide details or that he is moving to AZ soon.... just flat out I am seeing someone and we are not getting back together....
A bit of advice... if you're still working out the divorce settlement and if kids are involved.... get all that settlement stuff done before you get to involved - they say nothing worst than a scorned women.... being a man who finds out someone took his place can be as bad or mean or hurtful as any scorned women might be...
2006-12-15 07:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids and think they will tell your ex you a seeing someone else, you are right. Keep the new relationship separate from your kids for now...and for a long while. Only if it gets serious for you and the new guy would I discuss it with the kids or the ex.
2006-12-15 07:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to tell him anything. He's your ex for a reason. Obviously he wasn't doing his job as being a good husband or else you wouldn't have never left him. So no honey don't tell him anything. And if he asks why you didn't tell him just say " Why do you care you wasn't doing your job so now someone else is doing it for you". How sad is that. lol Good luck. and tell your ex how it is.
2006-12-15 07:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just my opinion, but I would not start anything serious until you are legally divorced. I see it as still being married. What do you owe your husband? Nothing really. It is about playing it safe. You don't want to put your new friend in a difficult position and you certainly don't want to put yourself in that too. I understand the need for companionship and friendship, but you are not divorced yet. Try not to rush into anything too soon that may come back to haunt you later. Good luck.
2006-12-15 07:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you separated you don't have to tell him anything, you can bet your boots he is having girlfriends after 7 months. If your afraid of are something he might able to take from you, get a legal separation. With a legal he can't do a thing.
2006-12-15 07:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your ex until the divorce is final. It would be much better to finish the marriage once and for all before starting to see another man.
2006-12-15 10:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key word here--"separated". Until the ink dries on that divorce decree, you don't need to "see" anybody! And even then, don't get into a rebound relationship. Take care of you first, then start worrying about other people!
2006-12-15 07:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by cna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋