Ok I seperated from my husband about 6 months ago,he was such a jerk to me, I did everything for him possible to try to make him happy! But nothing worked, we went 7 months without touching eacother (in any way) it was time to just let go there was no hope ,yes I cared for him but I wasnt in love with him, I dont think I ever really was in love with him as I thought. Since the seperation I have met a great guy who I am now in love with I know its quick and soon but this guy is one of those guys that come around once in a life time I couldnt let him pass. We started out as good friends and it progressed into love...He told me he loved me and that first time my heart melted,I knew he really meant it. I never felt this way for noone,not even my husband...and its actually kinda scary to me that I feel this way towards someone, I never had that butterfly feeling when a man walked into my presence as I do when he does. I am REALLY HAPPY! should I feel bad,am I wrong!?!?!?!?!
2006-12-15 07:22:34 · 9 answers · asked by Mamiinkcmo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, you deserve to be happy
2006-12-15 07:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help what your heart feels, however maybe you should try ending a relationship completely with your husband. Sit down and have a talk with him so that he truly knows how you feel. I wouldn't suggest moving right into another relationship until the first has ended and you have time to think about what went wrong. You may find yourself right where you started. Best of luck w/the new guy though, maybe he IS the one:)
2006-12-15 15:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Happy7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't feel guilty. You can't help who you love and who you don't love. There are several different kinds of love out there. The caring love you will never forget and cease to give, and the in love kind of love where you want to spend every waking second with them from morning until night. The kind of love where you KNOW its right. Don't feel guilty. It happens all the time. Wouldn't you want your xhusband to find someone they truley love as well? so why wouldn't he mind if you did? it obviously wasn't working so you should move on to this new guy. Follow your heart and follow your guts. Listen to your heart and you will be happy. If you don't you will always wonder what would have happened if you didn't. You have the right to feel happy. You deserve to be happy.
2006-12-15 15:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be unhappy to find love? ALthough it will be complicated for you (I assume you haven't filed for divorce yet), I think that the fact that you feel things for this guy that are so different should underscore fro you that the marriage wasn't right. Move quickly to get all that taken care of, so you can be free to move forward in your new relationship---only then will you be able to really see if this new love is for the long-term. GOod luck to you.
2006-12-15 15:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce your husband and move on, your life with your husband is over and the guy you say you are in love with might actually stick around long enough for you to know if this is really love or just some way for yourself to make yourself feel better!
2006-12-15 15:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to be happy....and no one can choose when the love comes...just I would advice you one thing: after separation you might feel ,more vurnerable...and you need attention...and every one have a chance if they say to you...you are so sweet. My point is don't be confused by the need of being loved...it is tricky sometimes...and you might not see who the person really is...but who you really want to be.
good luck in finding your happines.
2006-12-15 16:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by invisible1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel bad that hidden guilt is the fact that you just may still love your husband..... Just b/c he is a jerk do not change your real feeling about a person....search your heart......be honest with yourself!!
If you did still love him you would not still be thinking about it!
2006-12-15 15:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by ELDER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have found your true love. But, make sure that you aren't rebounding from the lack of love and affection that you suffered in your marriage.
2006-12-15 15:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's neither right or wrong, it simply is.
2006-12-15 15:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋