all these anti-circumcision people are causing a lot of grown men who were circumcised at birth a lot of unnecessary emotional harm. I was researching the subject to decide if i should have it done to my son and I read some posts from men who were contemplating suicide because they thought that all their sexual sensitivity had been lost. I think its tragic that these anti-circumcision people have convinced a young man with his whole life ahead of him that his life is ruined. Although i feel that it might have some health benefit and its cleaner, i dont think im going to do it because i dont want to end up with a suicidal teenager upset about an irreversable procedure. am i making the right choice???
2006-12-15 07:10:34 · 15 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is not circumsised. His mother circ. his older brother and he cried so much, they swore they would never do another child that way again. My hubby also has a younger brother who isn't circ.
Let me reassure you, he will still LOVE oral sex. If anything, I think it makes it better b/c of the hand and mouth stimulation it allows. My hubby has never had any problems with infection or anything else. I've known one guy who has, but out of the countless men who have been cut when they were young, not many of those who haven't have had to go back and have it done. If you have a chance of saving him from that pain, why woudln't you? Many men are just fine and happy w/ their foreskin!
Good luck!
Happy Holidays!
2006-12-15 07:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Josi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is not the intention of anti-circumcision groups to demoralize circumcised men and make them feel that their sex lives are ruined. When people suffer loss and trauma they feel angry, sad and demoralized. If there were no tragic losses and consequences to circumcision, circumcised men would not react that way and anti-circumcision groups would have stopped trying to get the message out a long time ago.
Should you circumcise your son. Well circumcision has no therapeutic value. It is not recommended by any medical organization in the world. It adversely affects sexual function in many men because it removes erogenous nerve endings and other pleasure-enhancing components of male sexual anatomy. Some men experience negligible losses from circumcision, some men experience serious losses, but all circumcised men experience some loss of sensation of the glans and all loss of sensation of the foreskin. You just don’t know at birth if later on in life your son will suffer severe loss or negligible loss. Why take a chance on something so important?
About the cleanliness thing, do you believe that your son will be so unintelligent that he will not be able to clean his own penis? Do you think he will have no imagination about sexual anatomy and never wonder what happened to his own foreskin? Do you think he will feel perfectly fine about the fact that his mother and father allowed him to be strapped to a Circumstraint while someone brought a scalpel to his penis? If you choose to circumcise you are basically furthering what amounts to your preference for circumcision onto someone else. You end where your body ends. A whole nother person begins where their body begins. Let him have his whole penis and let the choice be his to decide.
If you want to read more from people who have experienced the losses of circumcision, go to:
http://www.genitalintegrity.net/blouch/
2006-12-16 15:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Soccerfan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh, u should get it done now...my son had his done at 12 months. He was born with a birth defect which would't allow the doctor to perform the surgery til he reached 12 months. A lot of men who weren't circ'd at birth end up having to get one done later in life...very painful! Not to mention the phobia of women taught that an uncirc penis is an unclean penis! Harbors bacteria! They are UGLY without being circ! He will be made fun of as soon as he is seen by peers. U want to put your son thru that? Peers pick on those who are diff. I dated ONE guy with out a circ. Not a good experience, would NEVER do it again. Total turn OFF for oral s*x. U must do him a favor and get him circ'd! Save his teenage years from emotional termoil...the laughter he gets from girls and guys in gym or after his first sexual encounter will last a life time and definately make him MORE suicidal than being circ'd...think about it!
2006-12-15 07:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was in the paper this week that a man that is circumcised has a lot better chance of not contacting cancer. I think all this nerve stuff and your sex want last as many years is a bunch of bull. It is so much cleaner and I know men that had to be circumcised later in life for health condition. Have that baby circumcised all you do is cut the skin that is very minor and when changing his diaper you put a Little Vaseline on his penis for about 10 days.
2006-12-15 07:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO, you are NOT making the right choice.
Circumcision is very beneficial. Don’t hide these benefits to your son.
Those people you mention are a MINORITY. They try to make much noise, but they are just marginal. They have problems with themselves, and since they happen to be circumcised they blame all their problems on that. They certainly need help.
Losing sexual sensitivity? Well, up until now NO study has confirmed that this is true. Some people say circumcised has more sensitivity, some say uncircumcised, but neither has been confirmed, so that position is certainly false.
Suicidal teenagers? I've never heard that. Something that I do know that happens is teenagers that haven't been circumcised choosing to get circumcised because they don't feel happy as they are.
I totally agree with you on your critics to these irrational and fanatical anti-circ groups. They manipulate and mislead people. I truly believe this should be illegal.
2006-12-15 10:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Scuba 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It REALLY doesn't matter, although it is thought, from a health point of view, that uncircumcised males have a higher rate of penile cancer.
It's a decision that is entirely personal on the part of you and your husband. It is recommended that a boy match his father as far as circumcised or not so that there is no emotional trouble when the child sees his father naked and compares himself.
Personally, if I had a male child, I WOULD circumcise him - even for just the cleanliness issues.
Just another aside - I have been with both circumcised and uncircumcised men and personally, it makes no difference to me. I love the whole man, not just his penis.
2006-12-15 07:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im not trying to be mean or nasty. I know this is about your lil son. but ask yourself this, do you enjoy oral sex? if you dont get him circumcised, he wont enjoy it. because the foreskin is so thick he wont be able to feel anything. even during sex it wont feel as good. and not only lookin at this from a sexual perspective, now how many boys, teen boys or men go to the bathroom and dont wipe just shake, or go a couple of days without showering? if it is not done, it is a gurantee he will have problems with infections, he would have to be taught how to properly wipe and shower. you will be told to not let him take a lot of baths because it being emerged in water will give it a chance for infections to happen. and what if you dont get it done, and he is in gym and he is older and he has to shower after a football game, someone sees it and they start making fun of him or something. you have to think ahead, sweetie. dont just make the decision based on what and how you feel, think about your lil baby boys life.
god bless hope you make the right decision.
2006-12-15 07:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Losing "sexual sensitivity" how can one even arrive to that conclusion. Where these men uncircumcised sexually active and then got circumcised and felt they lost their sensation? Do you really expect you teenage son to keep it clean? You do want him to have a healthy sexual life? Better to get it done now, than later.
2006-12-15 07:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Back in the day... when a shower was taken about once every week or so,, it was a problem. Today, as long as you teach your son proper hygiene, there is no medical reason to have this done. I do believe most of those guys are just sympathy seakers anyway and are all talk.
2006-12-15 07:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had one son and three daughters and I had him circumcized but that is how I feel. He has a cousin who wasn't. My son is ok with it, its not like we talk about it or anything maybe later in his life.
2006-12-15 09:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋