I'm educated and I've always had a good job (I work on campaigns) and people look at me like I'm crazy when I've told them our decision because we don't yet have children. He travels so much that when he's in town, I'm working. We never see each other and this would be better for our marriage since we don't really need the money. How do I stop these rude comments and strange looks?
2006-12-15 07:07:55 · 29 answers · asked by Lindsey W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in the same boat! We're thinking about doing this as well and people are so rude and say things like "But you're healthy" and "what will you do all day?" I will concentrate on my marriage and my household and when he's out of town (a pilot) I will continue to volunteer. I will enjoy my day and handle our finances, be there when the cable guy comes so my husband doesn't have to, I'll do things so that he doesn't have to that way our time together can be spent doing lovely relationship building things. Sorry I can't answer your question on how to stop it (without being rude) because I've yet to figure it out as well.
2006-12-15 07:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by question asker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, my husband work at night and I work during the day and go to school at night to continue my education. I have several associate degree and diploma but when he meet me, he knew that I was a career woman, and very determine to get what I want out of life. That is good if you can put you career on hold. You are a better woman than me. But for how long are you willing to do that before miss it? It should not matter what people say as long as you are happy. When they look at you funny, just keep your head up and look proud. A lot people can not say that they are well educated. Since I been married and have a good job my husband now agree me can he stay at home. (I do not think so) I really understand about the time schedule and the not somuch quality time. We struggle through it everyday and the money is not a problem. But you have to know in your heart what you want out of life beside be married and being a mother.
2006-12-15 07:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by candi.delight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to stay home or travel with him? You sitting at home when he is out of town makes no sense. I believe someone with your perceived intelligence will become bored sitting at home, especially with no children. I had to sit home for 2 months on disability and ended going back to work well before my doctor ordered. Even a person with slight intellect can only take some much of Judge Mathis', Judy's, Jerry Springers etc. Maybe look for a job allows flexibility, or telecommute when your husband is in town. Maybe start your own business but don't waste away at home.... People probably just see a very smart person and wonder how you will challenge yourself at home.
2006-12-15 07:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be bored, and then you will be resentful.
How about finding a job with a more flexible schedule so that you can be home when he does or just travel with him?
If you insist on an answer-----
1. Tell them you are trying to start a family.
2. Tell them there are some projects that you want to work on around the house.
3. Tell them you will be working from home.
4. Tell them the truth. It makes sense doesn't it?
2006-12-15 07:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. And have you considered what will happen if the relationship doesn't work out? People work for reasons other than money - just to contribute, and feel useful. If you're okay with sitting around like Lady Muck, then go for it. (I know I could do it - happily) Chances are, you'll eventually get bored and want to do something. As for other peoples opinions - who cares? They're probably jealous that they don't have the same opportunity. Just come up with some cheeky response like "Oh - I eat chocolates and watch television for a living" That should shut them up.
2006-12-15 07:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there may be some jealousy on they're parts. Its the "what'dya mean you can afford to stay home and not work?" "also many feminst have a problem where they are going to think that you have been "broken" down finally by the oppressor (men). When in reality living as a strong woman means making decisions WITH your husband to make your lives better together.
2006-12-15 07:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jay B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that you are educated should not put you under the pressure to work. Well, I put my family first. I feel you need not even discuss this matter with anyone outside. You ignore all the looks and comments that people give. No matter what you do people are always ready with opinions and comments. Just relax and enjoy your marriage.
2006-12-15 07:12:03 · answer #7 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its any couples decision whether they both or one work. If you can provide for yourselves, I say more power to you and I wouldn't care what others thought. I would guess, that those people making the rude comments are jealous! Stand up and be proud that you and your husband are able to do this in todays time! GOOD FOR YOU!
2006-12-15 07:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what others say? You are the one living your life. Not them. You and your husband must make the decision. Be greatful that you have a choice then make it. What is wrong with being educated and staying home?
2006-12-15 07:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice, not others, there isn't nothing wrong with wanting to see your husband, i'll do the same thing, yea, you were making good money, but so does he, and when ever he comes in town, you can have a nice life with him, forget what other people say, they don't know what the hell their talking about!
2006-12-15 07:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋