Is it possible for someone to?

Question

Is it possible for a person, in one year, to decide they are not happy with their marriage, start an affair, leave their spouse and kids for this other person, get divorced, build a new house with the other person, move in and then claim they are now in love and happy?? All this happens in one year. Should you worry about someone who has done all of this? Do you think this person is thinking clearly? Will they finally find what it is they were looking for to make them happy? Or would you be concerned that this person's life will come crashing down around them when reality sets in?

Answer 1

Is it possible - YES
Likely - NO

It may be entertaining to watch, kind of like a train wreck. I would bet serious money on this person not being realistic and their world starting to crumble in another 6 months, a definite crash within 2 years and a serious depression in 3 years.

Answer 2

You know, it's possible that the marriage was over for this person long before people outside the relationship saw the end. The marriage may have been "dead" for longer than you know. It's possible that this person has been contemplating changes and wanting to do the things they did this year for a long time.

It's also possible that the person has acted in haste and will repent at leisure, as the saying goes.

I think I'd be inclined to give the person the benefit of the doubt about the decisions they've made, unless they have a long established history of doing crazy things on a whim and then being sorry afterwards.

Maybe that's what you need to give you some idea of how successful the person's new life will be: what does their past say about the decisions they make and the things they do?

Answer 3

I don't think that happiness comes from external things. In other words, if your spouse was unhappy in your marriage, chances are, given enough time, he will be unhappy in his new marriage. Of course, when you first meet someone, everything is great....then long term, you have reality. You have to really work to make a marriage productive and happy. I always compare being in a marriage to living in a city. No matter what city you live in, you could always point to another city and think "it would be so much fun to live in that other city...there are so many more things to do there", but chances are, if you moved to that city, within a reasonable time you would begin seeing other cities that looked like more fun. The truth is that you can have a great life no matter what city you decide to live in, i.e., you can have a great and happy life in your existing marriage (as long as there is not abuse, addiction, that sort of thing) if you are willing to make the best of it. Happiness in life comes from within yourself, not from others. Unfortunately, the situation you just described happens all the time. The real tragedy is the family that was destroyed by this behavior. Good Luck...I wish you the best. I know it hurts like hell to be on the losing end of this thing.

Answer 4

Anything is possible in this world. It sounds to me that this person was not really truly in love with the first wife. This would account for the quick turn around, and now this person has stronger feelings for the second person so is willing to put more into it. Chances are this person has found true love and really is happy and will continue on. Now there are no guarantees that any marriage will last forever, so this persons current marriage has no guarantee itll last for life so if youre looking for it to fall apart anytime soon, I seriousily doubt it. Just be glad that this person found someone to be happy with and life will take care of the rest if it was meant to be. Good luck and Merry Christmas

Answer 5

It sounds pretty extreme..to leave your kids is a huge issue. Are we sure this person was really unhappy?? Also to leave within one year doesn't say very much about that person, but they can't commit to things and obviously couldn't get used to their married life involving children. Building a house and moving in with another person is not a step to take if a person feels they aren't happy anymore. That person should at least try marriage counseling or something to help with their "unhappiness" issue. To just get up and walk away from your family isn't going to solve your problems...it will just create more.

Answer 6

Anything is possible, but that person is probably not thinking clearly or does really not know what he/she really wants. It sounds like someone who thinks the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and they will probably start looking for another 'better' situation when the one they're in begins to have trouble.

I think eventually this person will definitely have things come crashing down and need to realize they have to make themself happy and not rely on another person, their kids, a house, a new town, etc.

Answer 7

This person would have not worked on whatever the problem was in the marriage. If they chose to do all that, I'd just let them go. But I'd have told them in no uncertain terms that I would never take them back, nomatter what! It's either the person has been seeing this other one for a long time, or they are just infatuated with each other. I wouldn't worry about such a person really.

Answer 8

I am guessing that it might have taken longer than a year for all of this to happen but if it did happen in under a year I think you are better off without this person. There is clearly some issues here that need to be addressed immediately!

Answer 9

if you weren't happy with your marriage then you should of ask for a divorce before getting with another person. Your such a irresponsible person. Now that you have gone this far and you want to leave your kids behind because you found out that this doesn't work out for you anymore.

Answer 10

Happiness in a second marriage is possible.Hard to speak for another person but yes I have seen it happen & it was cause the marriage they had before was toxic.