what should i do?

Question

have a question.. i have been in a relationship for 13yrs. come to found out that he was married with tow other kids. now that he's locked up, he tells me that he want to be with me, should i believe him, .....all 13 yrs we have lived together..what should i do

Answer 1

He obviously didn't respect you enough to tell you the truth up front... and I can only imagine how you found out... As a man, I would tell you that there are other, more worthwile men to be with. Do not sacrifice your happiness and sanity to be with someone who has a blatant disregard for your emotional well-being. I'll say it again... Don't wait for a man who has disrespected you in this way!

Answer 2

Unfortunately, you've been living a lie. Sometimes you invest and sometimes you spend. In this case, you've spent 13 years. While that is sad, not nearly as sad as spending 26. You need to begin a new life NOW. The only thing certain here, is that you have a man that was capable of lying to you constantly for a 13 year period. Do you really believe that he will or is even capable of change? Let's hope that you are capable of change so that you can take the first step to starting a new and happier life. Change your phone, move if you have to, and start over, happier but wiser. If you can't do this now, when the opportunity presents itself, a lifetime of misery, sadness and regret lies ahead. Good luck.!

Answer 3

Please do not stay with him, obviously this guy is an idiot. It may seem hard for you to leave him seeing how long you've been with him but you have to leave now, I promise you there is someone else out there that will love you, this guy does not if he did he would have never lied to you for so long or at all. He is playing you for a foul and he will take advantage of you come on we see this happen to people on talk shows all the time it's crazy, why do we woman fall for these guys and actually believe them when they sweet talk us, we know better and so do you in your gut, please cut off all contact with him do yourself this favour and go out there and find a real man. Best of luck may god be with you.

Answer 4

Are you kidding me? Why would I believe someone that I've been close to, had a relationship with for 13 fricking years, and would keep a secret like that?

Please darling, you definitely deserve better. You don't want to be questioning yourself all your life about what other hidden dark secrets he has in his closet, do you??

Just move on with your life. I'm sure it doesnt take much to find someone better than he is. I'm sorry to sound harsh. Good luck.

Answer 5

You have invested 13 years of trust into a man that had the heart to keep that lie to himself for so long, are you sure that you know his real name? How can you be certain that he is not lying to you now? On the other hand, he must have had feelings for you to stay with you so long.

The truth still remains, he is a lire,cheating so of a ............ Move on with your life, you won't regret if you do.

Answer 6

Move on he's been lying for 13 yrs. That's a long time.

Answer 7

I think you should move on and find someone worthy of you. He has lied to you for 13 years and will presumably be in jail for some time-why waste any more of your life on a loser. God bless you.

Answer 8

Kick his sorry butt to the curb. He wants you cause he's locked up and his wife most likely told him to go to hell. Don't be a fool. Next he'll be wanting you to smuggle drugs in to the prison for him. JUST SAY NO.

Answer 9

a relationship must have trust. if you are just now finding out about another family, there is no trust or honesty. move on without him.

Answer 10

sorry but this guy will never be anything but a liar, cut your losses and run.