2006-12-15 06:39:54 · 12 answers · asked by p_a_m_i_e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we both work and have only been married 20 months but we have a 9 month old baby so we are still newlyweds so to speak but we are tired at the end of the day. The baby is in bed by 9 but we still have to take care of him until he goes to bed. At the end of the day I'm tired and need attention to get into it, he is just tired and needs something quick so he can rest. Is there an answer? I also feel like the romance has been left behind somewhere. Also my hubby is having trouble keeping it up for a long time and I'm having trouble reaching climax b/c my hubby goes soft to quick, he wants quickies but I need more. He would not be into renting movies to help things. I want real help not porn.
2006-12-15 06:59:33 · update #1
I try to do things all day to let him know I want him, I try all the sexy tricks going down on him , starting stuff, wearing sexy stuff all that it does not seem to help much
2006-12-15 07:09:04 · update #2
as a father of two girls, married 14 yrs now, BELIEVE me been there done that. Its very rough in the beginning, VERY but if you really love eachother& need eachother ya just gotta make it happen.Find the time MAKE the time, read sexy stories,cosmo ANYTHING to eachother.Cause its never gonna change,older kids still need parents for,soccer practice,god knows howmany other activities. Talk to eachother remember marrige is 50/50 learn now to work with eachother and when all is said & done. Enjoy eachothers company :)
2006-12-15 09:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't too uncommon to feel the way you feel. It's quite normal I'd say. It is about taking the time, if not every day, at least during the weekend. Spending quality, intimate time together for each other will definitely rekindle that romance and intimacy between you.
I totally understand how you feel that you'd want more passion that stays on for a longer time than just a few minutes. It's about taking the time to be intimate. About being romantic and passionate.
Everything from touches, to occasional playful teasing, to even being nice and naughty. For you I'm sure, foreplay is such a big turn-on. Anything that arouses you, and keeps that fire in you burning for a long time, and keeping it prolonged is important.
After-play is another thing that's often ignored. To continue to keep the tempo go down gradually instead of a complete shut off instantly is good. It's not in the books. It's all in our willingness and desire to give each other the best we've got. We all have constraints and limitations. But to do the best we can in a way that keeps us intimate and satisfied and attracted is what's so important in any relationship.
Please don't give up. If you ever feel like sharing a thought or two on what I said, please feel free to email/IM me. Good luck.
2006-12-15 07:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with the erection issue - get Viagra!!! That magical blue pill alone will make your man feel like a 21 year old rock star! Stress of new born and new marriage is tough - he is probably feeling inadequate with his sex abilities which stem from stress. If this is the case he needs a little help and Viagra will be very VERY helpful!
Couple of ideas:
Get a babysitter for weekend afternoons....
Take Viagra about 45 minutes before baby goes to bed - once baby is in bed enjoy a glass of wine together with some music, try slow dancing - wear something sexy and hubby will be honeymoon hard and be stripping you naked in the living room!!
2006-12-15 07:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 months and it's old already? The horse is already out of the barn on this one, but *stop having kids*. They are **constant** work.
But in order, you need him to:
[1] help with the baby - watch, change, hold, give a bottle to, change again, watch some more, etc. Forget this he watches SportsCenter while you do it all bullsh*t.
[2] communicate with you outside the bedroom about sex - Tell him what your concerns are. Be very up front. Don't speak in riddles like so many women like to do, then ask "Do you know what I mean?" We don't. Come out and say "I want your dick to stay hard longer and give me an orgasm or sex becomes pointless for me and I don't want to f*ck you any more." Then ask questions and listen to the answers. "Did you know I wanted your dick to stay hard longer so I can come? What can we do to help that happen? Viagra? Great. Let's try that." Plus the little cat-naps (no more than 20 minutes) really help.
[3] let both of you get rested during the afternoon by taking turns napping for 20 minutes - see above; live savers and sex savers
[4] be a more considerate lover - tell him 'sex is like chinese food - we're not leaving the table until everyone gets their cookie. so you better get some viagra or learn to go down on me like a champion, because from now on, THE WOMAN COMES FIRST, BUSTER.'
Honestly, any guy who is a two-pump chump and finishes first is a selfish pr*ck. Tell him you like having sex but you, too, want an orgasm. And if you don't get one, then NEITHER DOES HE. Fair is fair, and you'll be yanking his pecker out before he comes from now on just to send a message.
The baby help, the naps, the talking, and the fair-is-fair orgasm trade should improve things.
2006-12-15 07:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-13 07:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need any books, go to the adult video store and buy some things that you both will enjoy and get some movies and enjoy....You two also need to start going out on dates so you can connect emotionally again and you will be alright...
2006-12-15 06:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me you need more communication in your relationship you cant let the flame die first you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel then see if he is willing to help fix the situation if he is then great. also you need to take time for you and him even if its to get together for dinner take the baby to the sitter and spend a quiet evening at home alone maybe make a candle light dinner and soft music wear something sexy men seem to react to smells they say that banana nut bread is one of the smells men react too here is a site that you might find some interesting information about men www.askmen.com good luck!
2006-12-15 07:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by traci c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* Foreplay, Foreplay Foreplay
*Tease him at work so he cant wait to get home to u.....leave him Hey Big Daddy voicemail..." Hey Big Daddy, your Baby Girl needs u to tuck her in tonight......boast his ego...they love that
*U find alot of nice outfits on ebay....nurse, frech maid...than look at the itens they r selling too.
*When u go out together when he's driving get me excited...rub on him or even pull it out and just please him while he driving.
*Having sex on the floor is awsome...especially doggie style...u are are really leveled.
*Perform oral sex on him for atleast 30min.....dont even have intercourse...Let him know u all about pleasing him
*Wake him up at 2am with oral sex.
*Wear nothing but a tank top or a nice shirt that stops right at your butt around the house all the time...not the same one everyday.....believe me he will take a peep when u cooking or cleaning
*Rub up on him or back into him at the store.
*Go to the Dept Store once a month and get a Free Makeover...come home cook, serve him and watch a movie with nothing on but a shirt so u can easily make out on the couch.
******Make Soft Voices in His Ear when you all have sex*********
If u dont now, start slowing dont be unbelievable.....
MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE THE MAN AT ALL TIMES AND THAT HE IS NEEDED......This is part of foreplay and the positions will come.
2006-12-15 06:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by aflyladybug4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it boredom, lack of interest, reduced frequency, failure to reach orgasm, not meeting each other's expectations, failure to initiate, sexual experience unsatisfying? Please amend your question and be more specific to get the most "bang for your buck" , so to speak.
2006-12-15 06:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by RightLeft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-15 06:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lost in Merryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋