just to fill in husband isn't supportive i found out I may have cancer and he ignored me. he is never here and he is never willing to work on things
2006-12-15 06:39:49 · 25 answers · asked by Jaimie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you dont need that crap, get rid of him
2006-12-15 06:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just unfortunate. This is probably the time when you need his attention and care the most. Not that you aren't strong. It's just the right thing for a spouse to do.
I certainly don't know if you are financially and otherwise in a postion to be independent. Don't know if there's a family or friends that can support you. Assuming you have most of these and aren't dependent on him, you should consider leaving.
You have to deal with the situation you are in right now. That itself is traumatic. One thing you don't need is an insensitive husband to deal with.
I have little respect for people that aren't willing to be supportive especially in times of need. He's probably a selfish, insensitive person. You definitely deserve better. You haven't much to loses anyways :-) Move on. You'll feel much stronger and more confident about yourself. You need all the strength you can muster right about now.
I'll pray for you. Get well soon.
2006-12-15 07:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't need that negativity right now. Something to think about, if he doesn't support you now he sure isn't going to support you if you get worse. You should get rid of him. And the excuse that he is trying to deal with it on his own is BS. There is a support group you need to go too called Bosom Buddies. They are there to support you through every phase of cancer. They can also tell you who to go too for support if their group is not the one you need. So put your feelers out there and grow a thick skin because your husband sounds like he is not going to be there for you. Surround yourself with people that do love you.
2006-12-15 06:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jaimie,
Sounds like your husband is just afraid and is in denial about your cancer.
Talk about it with your husband. Maybe he just has problems with dealing with it. If he turns out to be just a jerk,
Suggest you find your own support group if that is what you want
and need. You can defeat the cancer. or your brain can defeat the cancer. My sister had open heart surgery and the doctors gave her a few weeks to live. But she made up her mind to get healthy . focused her brain to get better. it is now 2 years later and she has no signs of heart disease. and she does not believe in god. it is amazing what your brain can do if you
really want it to.
Good Luck
2006-12-15 06:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say dump him if he was a boyfriend but since you are married to this "lumpbag" your situation is even more difficult. Can you ignore him and just handle this cancer situation with your friends and family. Maybe he's depressed; I can't believe he'd behave so badly knowing that the person he loves has cancer.
2006-12-15 06:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jo K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him , he maybe as scared as you are. His way of dealing with the situation is to ignore it, that it will go away. People deal with cancer in many ways. My mother did not except my father had cancer until two months before he died. If you did not talk about it , it would go away. Get counciling. He is running away when you need him most. He needs to talk about his feeling too. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-12-15 07:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd like to tell you you're in my prayers with your health issues. Next, if your husband isn't supportive now he probably never will be. Think about moving on. Good luck and God bless
2006-12-15 06:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a conversation with him?
Before you go about saying he doesn't care, try talking with him and expressing your fears. Has anyone he has known died of cancer?
If you talk with him and express your desire for more support, I'm sure he'll listen and come around.
2006-12-15 06:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out quickly, because no one deserves that... I was on a heart machine and my "ex" was somewhere else. can you guess where? meeting someone else. believe me, if he is not willing to work it out, than he is present for the relationship or the long haul and it's time for an escape clause. trust me, been there and done it. man, i think i am president of the club.
2006-12-15 06:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by lissa_michaels2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is just as scared as you are to know if you have cancer... do all the needed procedure to know if you really have cancer... if he still does not give the support you really need... turn to other family... and just wait for him to turn around.. good luck.. and say a lot of prayers..
2006-12-15 06:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by brown_sunglasses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But You Must Never Brake Up, I Think! I Don't Know I'm Just 13!
2006-12-15 06:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Guram R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋