I'm 18, when I was 8 I met this girl and she became my first girlfriend. Then we moved when I was 12 and we lost contact. I had other GF's.etc Anyway, we recently got back together (as friends) and started doing stuff like movies, mini golf.etc
She's 17, nice, cute.etc and I think she might be the one..
After "re"meeting her I decided I liked her,
But people who get married right out of high school don't have it as easy financially or emotionally as people who wait till after college and get a little more experience and knowledge.
I know I need to wait until I finish college and start a business or get a good job before I get married, so what should I tell her that doesn't seem like I'm blowing her off, but doesn't say sure, let's throw our lives away.
2006-12-15 06:39:07 · 13 answers · asked by The Saber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her !!!Say those exact things to her and tell her if ur love is strong enough marriage can wait.PLz dont rush into this.....many ppl regret doing that.I can tell ur a very mature and smart guy to know that ur not ready....and i think if she loves u she wont have a problem with u not being ready.Have fun with each other now and u can worry about that later.GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-15 06:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by aliyah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you NEED to tell her all of this. if she does not understand, then you were not meant to be anyhow.
by the way, 18 is still very young & you have pleanty of time!
i waited 7 years to get married to my high school sweet heart! it was mutual, of course & well worth the wait! at 18, usually you really still have a lot of growing to do. often, people rush into marriage. just because other people rush, does not mean you have to!
2006-12-15 14:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you become engaged does not mean the wedding has to happenin the next 6 months or year. Have a lengthy engagement, accomplish all you need to do before making wedding plans.
If she is not OK with that then politely tell her you need to be more settled before embarking on marriage.
2006-12-15 14:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just told us.....Let her know that you " Being THE MAN & Provider" for the family will like to wait until u finish college and the reasons u just stated. If she truly loves you she will wait...if not it wasnt meant to be....Wishing You The Best
2006-12-15 14:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by aflyladybug4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy her company now, it will be the same 20 years from now.
Ask her to wait this Christmas, and maybe get her a 2 year subscription to "Brides" magazine for Christmas. It's better than not getting a ring.
2006-12-15 14:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by SYLVIA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18, big mistake...Take your time, live your life and get yourself establish...Tell her that you want to make sure that, you are able to have a productive life when you get married...Take this time and get your credit right, save your money and live life...You will have a different outlook on life as you grow older, trust me....If she loves you and knows your heart she will respect the fact that you want to have a fulfilling life before you make her apart of yours.....
2006-12-15 14:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by "gg" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to wait till you ask her. I agree you are too young and need to get a career going before you go this far. Tell her you want to have things going finances, etc. before you do this.
2006-12-15 14:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? She proposed to you? Wierd dude.
Anyway, no biggie, if she asked you then just tell her you need to take your time, see where things go etc. You may go to college and meet new exciting people etc. She may do the same and your thing may fall apart. I'm not trying to be a downer, but you have to be realistic.
If you were just thinking about asking her, then just wait. You owe it to yourself and to her.
2006-12-15 14:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say lets wait ten years and see maybe.
it keeps hope there yet gives you both a chance to grow and live, you probably both meet other people in the mean time but maybe not
2006-12-15 14:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you know someday you want to marry her, than just get engadged and than tell her you want the best wedding for her so you want to wait tell you get a job that pays well and than do the i do's.
2006-12-15 14:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by laughwithashley 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋