I am kshatriya (khatri) boy, in love with Agarwal girl from more than 3 years and want to marry her.?

Question

My parents are ready for it but they want marrige to happen with the consent of both families. But girl's parents are against of this marriage just because of community, they r saying that we never married to non-agarwals, this is not possible..even though they are not against of me and my family (as I & my family are well settled) but still they r unduly against of this marriage and shouting on girl everyday, they even told her that they will leave her if you will marry non-agarwal..
I dont see any big difference here in caste.. are agarwals' really strict about it..?? I never expected this.. pls suggest what shd b my next stance..

Answer 1

They told her they will leave her if she marries you! Now where parents keep daughters with them after their marriage? All married daughters leave parents & start living with their husbands whats new in this let them also leave her. Now as far marriage between agarwals & non-agarwals are concerned let me tell you there must be thousands of such marriages that took place. My own father agarwal was one of them married my mother non-agarwal , i married a non-agarwal so is my own daughter is getting married to a non-agarwal. So go ahead get married to her either by Hindu rites or under the Special Marriage Act (court marriage) as you wish.

Answer 2

I would suggest that you wait at least another year before going forward with any marriage arrangements. The reason for this are manifold; both families will have time to think about the marriage between you and your boyfriend, you two will have more time with each other and can thus know the other better, parents of either side may change their mind, you may change your minds. After this one year is over, I would suggest that both your parents meet. As they say, when you marry someone you marry their family also. If you are set in your decision to marry then your parents should meet and see what the other family is like. The first answerer was right in a manner, you cannot convert to being a Hindu. There are some rituals that groups like the Arya Samaj have come up with, but there are no conversion methods in Hindu texts. This is because to be a Hindu, all you have to do is adopt a Hindu mindset and you can call yourself a Hindu. Being a complete Hindu woman is something special.. I don't think many Hindu women in India are even completely Hindu, so you will have a hard time finding someone to learn this from. However, there are certain things that your future mother-in-law can teach you, but most of these things you already know. Things like taking care of your prospective husband, showing respect to your elders, raising your prospective children in a good manner, etc are things that you already know. There are other things that you might have to learn, eg. observing proper customs in a Hindu temple. You will learn those things in time. Normally I do not advocate interreligious relationships because one of the people involved usually faces forced conversion, but your case seems different. If you are willing to live life as a Hindu with your Hindu husband (and his family), raise your children as tolerant, but strong, Hindus then I would suggest waiting (as suggested above) and then going ahead with marriage. Good luck with this, hopefully the outcome leads to your happiness. Please send me a message if you have anything you'd like to talk about..

Answer 3

For once I would have to say that she will have to choose between you and her parents. They made their choices about who to marry and you both must do the same. Please show this answer to your loved one
The two of you will hopefully outlive your parents so you have to make a stand and grab your future happiness. There should be no racial hatred, no distinction against creed, colour caste etc.
You both should put up a united front, marry and be happy. Eventually the parents will come round especially if there are children, if not, they are the one's losing out, you two, hold up your heads and walk together in to the future

Answer 4

there is no much difference between kshatriya &agarwals both r hundus even agrwal's king agarsan was also a kshtriya king before.....u can marry her ....but her parents r creating problem so u can do court marriage ...after that if her parents want u can do arrange marriage too...this will be good 4 both of u....good luck..

Answer 5

I am not an expert, I think you should consult some good Psychiatrist immediately.
They can guide you "How to overcome such situations".
You should not hesitate to consult as this is something serious which is gonna effect yours and your partners life.
Listen to him once, then decide whatever is best for you.
After all whats the harm in taking a good advise from some good professionals or experts as this is there daily business.

Answer 6

If you two really love each other,go ahead get married.Her parents will accept you after some initial fuss.You see in earlier times aggrawals were Kshtriyas too,our forefathers started getting involved in business & became vaish.But that has nthing to do with your love,so get married in court.

Answer 7

It is your life. If so loves you, do what makes you happy. If you are in this country you are free to do as you wish if you are of age. It is a shame that the parents do not consent. But you need to approach them side by side and tell them that it will happen with or without their consent. Good luck.

Answer 8

well if she love you then she will marry you or you two run away and marry each other and later on everyone will forgive you two

Answer 9

yes they are but stick to your plans and try to covince them over and over may be they feel the presure and say yes