my ex and i broke up a while ago. he says hhe loves me . he says his heart is with me n will always be.he sed if u love some one let them go if they come back there always ures. i have been a cow to him since we broke up because i didnt know how to deal with it. threatening him with various things, which i regret totally.
he now says he needs to 'find out who he is', his 'heart is with me but his head isnt' and 'circumstances mean we cnt be together at mo' becaus he cant forget the bad stuff that happened at the end. some explanations please. is he needing this time to forget the bad stuff , if so do u think he ever will? or can if he LOVES ME
the whole purpose of not finding somone knew is thti love him and know it can be gd
i asked if he waNts me to move on , and he sed no he doesnt but knows he cant tell me to wait.
he says his heart is always with him but his head not with me at the moment. dont say move on bcus how can i knowin he loves m
2006-12-15 06:17:14 · 13 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he says he loves you but he doesn't say he is in love with you, there is a difference..............:o(
2006-12-15 06:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No im not gonna tell u to move on~ thats like telling u to change ur complete idenity in 60 seconds or less, i know the power of love & the hold it has on us all, i would never tell nor ask anyone to give up on what they believe in especially if its a relationship, follow ur heart hunny, u of all people know weither or not u are being loved so obviously he means enough to you that you are willing to make a few sacrafices, changes & patiently wait for this to smoothe over, now thats what love is mainly about hun & there is nothing wrong with it!! please dont ever give up or anything or anyone that you believe in, this entry of yours has opened my eyes & given me a new found hope about love in general~ stay strong , good luck , best wishes & happy holidays, keep us posted on how things go, b/c this is very interesting...
2006-12-15 06:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he loved you he would be with you. He can come up with what ever he wants to say but if he loved you would not hurt you I know this because it has been done to me. Move on and get on with your life. Oh ya go by He is just not that in to you. It is a book and after reading it you will understand. He is must likely out see if he can find some one else and if he does not then he will come running back to you.
2006-12-15 06:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves you like Jesus Christ loves Christians -- not in a "marry me" kind of way, more in a "Have a good life, seeya in the afterlife" kind of way.
Suggestion? You need a clean break -- refuse calls, don't say hello in passing, and let yourself mourn the loss completely. He wants to be the hero and be "kind" to his ex for people to see. Well, he's not being kind. Making you HATE him would be kinder because he's giving you hope.
And that heart and head bullcrap is about the most emo B.S. I've heard since Postal Service's "Clark Gable". He's keeping you strung along while he goes out and screws girls, knowing you're his second-string reserve.
Make a "Been Done Wrong mix CD" and cry this one out completely. Accept he's mistreating you by keeping your hope alive to make himself look and feel better. Watch chick flicks, go do things with female friends (who will probably tell you all the nasty things he did to you that they didn't want to tell you because you were in love with him and they didn't want to hurt you), and generally get yourself back together.
That said, I do remember being a teenager, and between the hormonal Hell and the cultural "Disney Princess or Die!" mentality we, as American women and young women, have been spoon-fed, of course you're devastated. He was everything because you were told he had to be everything. YOU loved for two. Now it's time to love yourself enough to place him next to the recycling and trash bins.
Love doesn't feel like the cavity where your heart sits in your chest is being scraped away by a knife, alternating between molten lava and ice, each fluttering angelic hope getting crushed again and again by his indecision.
Obsession feels like this. Romance-gone-wrong feels like this. Love feels like what you have for your real friends. Go be loved -- for real
2006-12-15 06:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jess B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK whatever bad or good ya are to work it out together that's what makes a relationship... so if he doesn't want to be with you, u should really think about it. he could be with someone else, and is not so sure about where that will go too, so wants some thing secure with you since he knows you will always be their... don't move on if ur not ready but make him think u did!!! if he loves u and See's that ur moving on that will kill him to think that u could actually be with someone else.. but when he comes bck around dnt fall to his feet right their and then play hard to get!!! good luck!!
2006-12-15 06:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by NiChOLe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't want to be with you and is trying to be nice about it. Maybe he still has feelings for you, but that doesn't mean he wants to be with you. I've actually heard some things similar to that from my ex and then I found out that he was seeing somebody else, and when that went bad he wanted to get back together with me. He was just holding me on a string in case his other relationship went sour, then he knew he had a backup! You need to realize that you are better than that and you SHOULD move on. Don't let him keep playing games with you because all you are doing is missing out on your life.
2006-12-15 06:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by nagolesile 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What "head" is he talking about? Don't be one of those girls who waits around for a man while they're finishing up sewing their oats. Seriously, if he sees you moving on (which really, what other choice do you have?) he'll make up his mind real quick whether he wants to straighten things out between the two of you's or move on as well...
2006-12-15 06:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He claims to love you but you have not mentioned whether he is in love with you. The only thing that he is trying to do is keep a hold on you, while he does other things.
2006-12-15 06:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Smooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing you with someone else wants to keep you around just in case the others dont work,be smart and leave let him go before u get hurt more.lots of this bull going around wake up honey its 2007 soon so good luck sweetie.
2006-12-15 06:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Says he loves you but not in love with you. They the difference between the two.
2006-12-15 06:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone the feelings dont go away. he loves you but probably not in love with you there is a difference
2006-12-15 06:35:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋